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tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
4/30/2017 10:19 am

What beautiful fields!!

Might you move back to California?

I'm in a similar situation as you... x


drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
4/30/2017 10:44 am

That self imposed celibacy is so good because you are the one that can change at any time you so desire. The friends I've made here are a treasure, many have taught me so much and others are so kind and insightful There are those that make me laugh and can bring a tear with their blog. The trolls, I ignore, I have no time for their self absorbed ways.

Glad to read your blog and make your acquaintance......


InderioMinx 54F  
19798 posts
4/30/2017 10:48 am

Take the time you need and really, don't fret about being "celibate."
For me, that is far better than having sex with someone who I do not have a good connection with. Been there, done that, not a good idea, for me anyway. During a period or two when I did not have my boy, I had sex with a gent who had some potential, but ultimately he was just a junkfood fix and it was overall not worth the effort.

As Tiny said, you do what ya gotta do... for you.

Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
4/30/2017 10:49 am

I used to live in Santa Maria and worked in San Luis Obispo and Santa Barbara. It was close to Lompoc, which for a long time was the flower seed capital of the world. Not so much anymore because of Nafta.

I had brown thumbs myself, but I could grow roses, ugly bushes and weeds. At one point I had 36 rose bushes in my yard; all different. Climate is different here in Wisconsin. No roses for me. But I do have a fairly lush lawn. In a few weeks I will go get some flowers and put them in the yard. I will never move back to California, the economy is too much a roller coaster ride. Way too expensive for me to move back. I do miss my friends, entertainment and variety of food. However, I do hope to retire to Bellingham, Washington. Or someplace in the PNW.

Your right, we all go through relationships that ended and hurt. Recovery time...varies. But as you say, you will be smarter and stronger.

I never had children. I was adopted and if it was feasible I would have adopted children too in your younger years. But life is what you make it. I have traveled and done things, which I may not have done, if I would have had children. Is my life any less of a tapestry, no. I still have good years to live. I long to share them with a good companion. If and when it happens, it happens.

Best to you in the future. Nice to have blogger friends. Would love to meet so many of them.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


1uncommondom 77M

4/30/2017 11:19 am

We live life going forward . . we understand life playing it in reverse.


jaykay48 75M
11442 posts
4/30/2017 11:27 am

I was married for 25 years. The thing about relationships is sometimes they just end. Even then, extricating oneself from one rarely is easy, and the empty place inside feels raw.
I took a year before I found someone new. And another four before I committed to a marriage, the second for me. I met her on Match.com.

She was the 15th person I met there and on other sites.

I wasn't quite ready at first so there was some drama between us but it did happen, and I'm happy I stayed.

Time is on your side. I started a second life at 56, thinking my life was basically over. It wasn't.

You will do fine, I suspect. You are smart to wait. Sex is both overrated and underrated. The former is true if you do it because you--or someone else--- thinks you should. The latter, if you do it because you're ready and want to.


brandygirasol 54T
9365 posts
4/30/2017 12:11 pm

Good Idea To Chill Out Until You Get Some Neccesary Things Done In Your Personal Life. Have The Nightie And Heels Ready For When You Are Sexually Excited And Motivated About Hooking Up With Some Lucky Fellow Out There...


MissLadywood 51F
6195 posts
4/30/2017 11:11 pm

Those fields look beautiful.
You can't go wrong when doing what is right for you.
Enjoy the blogs and new friendships

Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn


MissLadywood 51F
6195 posts
5/1/2017 11:47 am

Thank you, and please, call me woody

Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn


tahimikbayani 53M
8008 posts
5/1/2017 8:40 pm

All in good time, all in good time. I admire your patience.



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