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Foiling the Fakes
4/17/2007 2:34 am Last Read: |
I've finally figured out the way to stop flakes who call themselves sub from wasting my time! When they write asking if they can serve me, I immediately invite them to a munch. I've been having prospective subs meet me at the munch for several years now. It had been that I'd have several mail exchanges with the sub and then invite them if they seemed like they were worth anything. A bit over a month ago, I was inundated with messages asking to meet (I guess it was springtime in California.) I got tired of writing to each one individually and just made the following "form letter." Hello, You are welcome to meet with me at the South Bay munch. It is the ONLY place I meet prospective submissives. I've had too many subs flake in the past to go the least bit out of my way to meet a new one. Also, since munches are social occasions, if it is clear to either party that there is no chemistry, it isn't a wasted trip. There are other people to get to know. South Bay Munch, -Second Tuesday of the Month, 7:00 PM, (address removed) -Fourth Thursday of the Month, 7:00 PM, (address removed) At either of these, ask for the Co-ed softball team. Coming to the munch and meeting me doesn't guarantee getting to serve me. It merely gives you the opportunity to attract my attention. My invitation also doesn't guarantee that you'll be the only male there trying to attract my attention. Since munches are the only place I have a first meeting with a sub, there may be others there who wish to take up some of my time also. (But since most male subs don't have much follow through, it is rare that an invited male actually shows up.) Just because there may be more than one male present doesn't mean that you do not have a chance. I have two openings available and the other male may be applying for the other opening. Even if they are seeking the same one as you, I will not tolerate rude behaviour or pettiness towards any other people who may be present. (Sad that I have to make a point of that, but it has been a problem in the past.) I'm not willing to discuss anything in the BDSM realm before the first time we meet. I'm happy to discuss any vanilla topic you desire before then. I am, however, willing to send a "form letter" about the requirements for the positions if you want to be sure you fit what I seek. I will only respond to questions about that highly detailed letter after we meet the first time. I do suggest you read (google "Courtship of a Dominant Woman" and go to the first site listed since alt doesn't allow links in blogs) and (google "Sweet Services for Submissives" and go to the first site listed since alt doesn't allow links in blogs) before coming if you decide to visit with us. I will give you a small hint. I respond best to being treated like an interesting woman rather than some goddess on a pedestal. One big heads up.. while being polite is great, calling me Mistress is not. That is reserved for my collared one. (You are welcome to call me Beach, Ma'am or Mrs. Beach.) Beach Mystress It has worked wonderfully! Since many of the "subs" who contact women are just looking to get off via talking about submission, telling them I'll only talk about BDSM stuff at the munch doesn't fit in with their game plan! Most males never contact me again. The ones who do are much more likely to actually show up. Plus it fits in with my ideal of "put your money where your mouth is" submission.. aka, SHOW me the submission. I've told them that I wish to meet in a public place. If they can't get over their fear of going to a munch to get to meet me, they're not submissive enough to serve me. My will comes first to my sub. Someone who is actually submissive will find it within them self to show up, even though it is scary and an unknown environment, because I desire it. |
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