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RUDE people
4/17/2007 3:18 am Last Read: |
original post date: Monday, March 12, 2007 The other night, Mistress and I attended our very local dungeon for its twice monthly nightclub/play party. What we love about this particular place is that it provides someplace close and fairly cheap to meet with friends and play. Playing at home is not very prudent because I tend to scream a bit. The downside of this particular place is that it attracts alot of gothlings, who don't really mean any harm, but are not always aware of proper dungeon protocol (basically respect the scene). The music, since it is part nightclub, can also be loud and distracting. Nevertheless, we get to play, and that is the bottom line. Plus, we see friends, can often find a semi-quiet place to play, and the Gothlings, once you set them straight on protocol, respect your wishes. Saturday night was not so fortunate. We had met up with some friends in one of the quieter rooms, and after some conversation, began to scene, them in one room, us in an adjoining room. As we socialized, others had come into the room. Some we knew, some we did not. But all were understood to be lifestyle scene participants, not newbies or gothlings, so we did not foresee any problems. Boy, were we wrong. I had already had a stressful day, but had really looked forward to scening that night. It had been awhile since I had been able to take pain for Mistress's pleasure. The music had a particularly visceral edge to it, and was bringing my stress from work to the surface. But I mastered it and managed to establish a calmness in my head. This is necessary when we play, because the calmer I am, the more pain I am able to take from Mistress. We had started what was promising to be a long intense scene. Mistress was already starting to draw blood with her nails, but I was holding strong. I was drifting in and out of subspace, so I do not know at exactly what point the problems started, but not long into the scene, the crowd in the other room was getting louder and louder. Mistress noticed this pulling me out of subspace, and politely asked them to be quiet. Given these people were supposedly scene-aware, this should not have been necessary, but it happens, and is usually resolved easily. Not long after this, they started making noise again. Mistress once again asked them to be considerate. This time it was firmer, but still polite. At this point I was starting to become agitated. Taking a beating in ascene really strips you bare and makes you feel extremely vulnerable. While I trust Mistress with my life, that does not get rid of the almost animal like fight of flight response. One time, while we were playing, I heard somebody laugh, right after I had screamed loudly. I came up off the bench, and only Mistress's reassuring touch kept me from going after him. Well AGAIN these people started being loud, very loud. Mistress sensed my hostility and nipped it in the bud by ripping into them They finally dispersed, but it was too late. She was angry, and I was literally shaking with rage. I think it was not only their disrespect of our scene, but their refusal to respect Mistress's wishes, which I view as a sign of disrespect to her. I don't think I would have been physical, but would definitely have been loud and confrontational in a manner much more unrestrained than Mistress. This incident angers me on many different levels. If you claim to know about the scene, act like it. Don't be loud and rude while people are performing an intimate act. But worse than this, if someone asks you to be quiet, respect their wishes. This is not about protocol or experience, this is about basic human decency and respect. Kids with no experience at all are at least capable of showing respect. It just blows my mind that Mistress had to same something THREE times. Un freakin believable. I am also conflicted because the responsibility to quiet them fell to Mistress. Yes, she has a more authoritive demeanor, and is able to remain calm better than I, but I feel I could have done more. I am the sub, and it is not really my place, but that does not absolve me of responsibility. Bottom line: if you are at a play party and someone asks you to be quiet, please do so. |
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