5/7/2006 3:48 pm
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WHY D/s WORKS~THE SIMPLIFIED VERSION
...EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT INTO S&M
Many of My post ideas come from discussions I have with other people. Some of these people I mentor, others, perhaps new to the lifestyle. The topic of the D/s relationship came up recently, with a seasoned veteran of the lifestyle, and a very close friend, who shares My view of the lifestyle and is in agreement with the beauty of D/s.
I think that My explanation, which I have expressed to others before, was a new twist for her, as I don't think she had ever really thought about D/s the way I described it, and I think it made her think deeper than she had before as to exactly why it works.
D/s IS A PART OF EVERYTHING, EVERYWHERE
Yes, the Dominant/submissive format exists in all successful interactions. The more clearly defined it is, the more rewarding and productive the interactions are between the two.
Don't believe Me? Well, think about a few things...
D/s relationships are everywhere, even in vanilla life. They exist in friendships, casual interactions, parent/child relationships, in business, etc.
The example I will give you, is one of a small company. Let us say that it is in the manufacturing of widgets.
The small company typically has one or more owners, but for this example, let's say it has one*.
This owner is the Dominant.
The company, of course has employees. The employees are the submissives, and, similar to the poly D/s arrangement, there may be one or more alpha submissves.
*Co-Owners of this company could be considered a DD relationship, but truthfully, One will always be the final Top Dog.
A company that is successful will be successful because each knows their specific role. It is clearly defined. The owner makes the decisions and allocates rewards, based on performance, attitude, production, etc.
A good owner would know that to take very good care of his/her employees would lead to higher productivity. Everyone knows a happy employee is eager to please and will go the extra mile for their company.
A good owner is not created because he/she has the startup capitol, but because they understand management or the human interatction dynamics. The same way, having an agressive or strong personality does not automatically make One a good Dominant.
A good employee is the same thing, right? A good submissive knows, up front, that the Dominant has needs that must be met. In a relationship, there is no job description, but perhaps there should be. No misunderstandings, right? They know what is necessary to serve.
Training of the employees occurs, according to the individual needs of the owner, and, more specifically, for the overall good of the company.
When each member of the team knows what they have to do, are trained well to do it, and is happy, the company will succeed. It really IS that simple.
The company does well. A good owner knows that to share the fruits of accomplishment and good hard work with his/her employees as "rewards" will lead to greater contentment of emplyees, a sense of security for the employee, trust on both sides, gratitude on both sides, and once again, respect on both ends, resulting in a higher productivity level.
The owner "uses" the employees to achieve success for the company. The employees enjoy being used in this way and seek out this relationship so they may be rewarded (paid). Perks that the owner allocates, based on good work, are even greater rewards.
THE BREAKDOWN OF THE COMPANY
The breakdown occurs when there is poor communication, confusion as to role or job responsibilities, jealousy among workers, misuse or abuse of employees, negative employee or owner attitudes, selfishness on either side, disrespect on both sides, or betrayal of agreements that lead to bitterness or mistrust.
The company does not do well.
Again, the opportunity for abuse is her on either sides, if cutbacks occur, one employee demands an unreasonable pay increase, etc.
WHY YOU SHOULD NOT LOOK FOR SOMEONE EXACTLY LIKE YOU
Most people spend their time searching for that soul mate that is exactly like them. For the most part, a union should be comprised of those with similar interests and enjoyed activities.
The problem occurs when two individuals are TOO much alike. There must be contrast in order to work. Otherwise, clashes will occur. Again, roles not clearly defined will always lead to miscommunication and misunderstanding.
Yes, just My opinion, but hey...
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17284 posts 5/7/2006 4:14 pm |
Okay...one of the two of u/us needs to get out of the other one's brain. I was about to put up a poll fairly similar to this....asking did people think D/s was everwhere even outside of the liefstyle. You beat me to it. {pun intended} This was really cool because I have thought of it this way for quite some time without defining it by the clear example You just laid down.
*hugs and giggles*
L
Half of writing history is hiding the truth. - Malcom Reynolds
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2200 posts 5/7/2006 4:31 pm |
Hey my dominant lady. Very good post. And my inner spirit and heart is wrapping you from afar. It is what sub boys do. Much love for you, always at your feet and ready to serve, gold bells, gongs, wind chimes, and gazoos all with graphics of naked buff sub boys, Moe
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26423 posts 5/7/2006 4:43 pm |
Hmmm,
No wonder I own my own company *s*
C
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3441 posts 5/7/2006 4:43 pm |
i agree with you. i have thought that for awhile now. every aspect in life has some form of D/s relationship. thank you for making it easier to understand.
my butt is big...it can be kissed a whole lot..
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25305 posts 5/7/2006 5:17 pm |
Very true.
For newcomers and not so newcomers.
Arm yourself with knowledge
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4632 posts 5/8/2006 2:57 am |
Dear Savanna,
There is nothing to add,
You know how i feel
and what i think already.
This was reality personified.
Have a beautiful day
Love and xx's
Chelsea
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