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Pentatonic Perusals (5) If You Caught Your Significant Other...
2/3/2012 3:02 pm |
...Cheating... What would you do? And Why?  Breathe Deeply~ Peace +++ Black History Month Afterthought: A friend’s husband asked Me a question the last two times we hung out. Nice guy – great Significant Other. Not into BDSM. The first question - during Gasparilla, was ~ “Why don't more Black People own boats?” (He’s a boat owner.) “Do Black people not like water?” The second, yesterday, was ~ “Why isn’t there a ‘White’ History Month?” (He doesn’t see a need.) “Would it be racially prejudiced or something if we did?” Each time I said ~ “...I don't know.” He also happens to be a millionaire, and, admittedly feels that Black History is already included in the average history text in these modern times. After a while I said, "Suppose I said that with the boat question - there might be a significant i$$ue of affordability?" "And for the second, let's say that no question black history would be better inside all US history texts - just - it currently isn’t...and seems it'll take a while for it to BE so - provided history textbook authors ever want to." He seemed satisfied enough. How'd I handle that you think? I welcome thoughts on the post or the P.S. One’s as intriguing as the other is. Breathe Deeply~ Peace mg: dougellis Doc_Sonar I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...and...More than Ever - "I believe in looking reality straight in the eye and denying it." ~G Keillor |
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 2/3/2012 3:22 pm |
Part 1 Cheating? I don't intend to ever put myself in a position where that could possibly be an outcome.  Part 2 You have a skill for handling things better than fine. The passing on of information never hurts though, folk can either take it onboard or ignore it. Imparting knowledge isn't like giving advice. yus xoxoxoxo I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not" Kurt Cobain
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2/4/2012 6:04 am |
I have no idea what I would do if I discovered my partner was cheating; we can so easily find ourselves in a situation… I guess circumstance and the person involved would dictate my reaction but in all my relationships what constitutes cheating is clearly defined between the both of us. What I do know however is that his email account is his email account, his cell phone is his cell phone; I do not go out looking for an answer I do not want, because I see invasion of privacy as an offense as well.
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 2/4/2012 10:05 am |
Cheating...well, since I'm in open relationships, it's kind of hard to "cheat." Cheating really comes under the heading of failure to disclose "need to know" information. There have been times when JD or Sir (or for that matter myself) hasn't shared information with the other one soon enough. Usually there's a reason we understand but it is sad to feel there was a lack of confidence to share something. We just talk it out. It hasn't happened in a long time, though - we're much clearer on mutual standards of when sharing needs to happen. I think you did a great job handling the questions with your friend.      Speak and act from love, or else shut up and sit on your hands.
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2/9/2012 8:53 am |
cheating? I'd throw myself off a cliff first. All I am is my word and my pledge. All I can offer is my devotion. I can't disappear myself by turning away from that. I'd be killing myself either way. Finding out my partner cheated? Well I had that not to long ago. I went through a bunch of emotions and didn't know til it was over how I was going to end up. Took a very long time but I forgave her. I'm able to hold her in my arms and just be glad she's with me. You handled the guy just fine. Even from here, it's obvious that he really doesn't get it. ( neither do I ) But he's open and asking and willing to learn. Sounds like a good guy over all. Our dynamic doesn't have an off switch.
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2/12/2012 8:18 pm |
Cheating is what brought my marriage to an end, although admittedly it had been on rocky ground for almost a year and had had some problems for the two or three years before that. Despite the earlier problems, however, the way that the end came was in itself something that brought great pain. As you might guess, I'm not in favor of cheating; I prefer honesty. As for your "afterthought," I think you gave good replies to his questions--no rudeness, no attacks...just straightforward facts and suppositions.  A person who hates "is incapable of making a joke, only of bitter ridicule. . . Only those who can laugh at themselves can laugh authentically." (Vaclav Havel)
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2/14/2012 5:31 pm |
with a man or a woman? X ;p
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2/25/2012 10:06 am |
I HAVE NEVER CHEATED ON A WOMAN YET BUT THEN I AM ONLY 64 YEARS OLD. I DO NOT PLACE MUCH EMPHASIS ON SEXUAL FIDELITY BUT THE THING I VALUE MOST IS THE TRUTH SO IF SHE LIED TO ME I WOULD BE VERY SADDENED WHERE AS IF SHE HAD SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE AND TOLD ME ABOUT IT I WOULD PROBABLY WE MUCH LESS DISAPPOINTED IF DISAPPOINTED AT ALL. HAVE YOUR SAY, I HAVE HAD MINE
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