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Predator Doms
6/28/2007 11:48 am Last Read: |
I've heard, yet again, from another new submissive here, about meeting a "Dom" and wanting to grant Him their submission for their first time. And, as before, He didn't respect her limits. D/s is about two people respecting each other. Sure, one is dominant and the other submissive, but a submissive is NOT just a piece of meat. A submissive is a human being and needs to be respected as one. When she says no hitting, no pain and no anal - she fucking MEANS it and that needs to be respected. Even when she's done something the Dom doesn't like he does NOT have permission to cross her limits as part of her punishment. Control is not, inherently sadism. If a sub says no and there has been no conversation about other safe words with CLEAR understanding, then, it means NO. Back the fuck off. It's difficult enough to engender trust in this world, let alone in this lifestyle and on an internet "hook-up" site. Predators like these scare submissives away, never to return, and hurt their ability to deal with who they are. Personally, I would like to see some kind of descreet feedback mechanism so these predators can be called out and identified for who they are - and who they aren't. I know it's impossible, but I wish something could be done. Hiding behind the mask of a helpful dominant and being a self-centered, sadistic, abusing piece of shit should be policeable and come to an end. Read My Blog: CentralILMan. Find Me as DeliberateHand. |
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7/20/2007 1:31 pm |
Well put! If you figure out a solution to this age old problem please share it with us. I'm afraid the internet has open the door to a whole new level of deceitful predators. What could be a great tool for meeting people has slowly turned into a back door for those who would do harm ( without permission) . Locally here we have a large enough community to allow us to have group meetings where folks can get to know each other with safe people around. I know that isn't always possible but it helps.
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