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trust me...
12/12/2007 11:33 pm Last Read: |
such a simple phrase. trust. me. two little words. and, yet the magnitude behind those two words is great. it encompasses so much. it is an essential building block in the foundation of any relationship. we rarely say it out loud to others. even when we trust, we rarely say it. trust is something that we demonstrate in our every day actions. it is implicit in our actions. those we trust become the safety nets in our lives. likewise, when we elicit trust from others, we become the safety nets in their lives. trust is a particularly important element within a bdsm relationship. i know this seems like a statement that doesn't really need to be said. to the contrary, i think it does. i think we ought to have frequent reminders of the weight trust should carry within the lifestyle. i think we sometimes tend to forget that trust runs both ways. yes, a sub ought to trust a dom. but shouldn't a dom also trust a sub? isn't that equally important? before a couple engages in risky behavior, shouldn't there be a mutual trust? shouldn't the dom trust in the fact that the sub will be honest about her feelings? her readiness? her experience? her fears? her desires? her limits? and, if he can't trust her in all of these things and more isn't there a fundamental flaw in the relationship? for me? i want my dom to trust me - just as i trust him. it, in fact is an expectation of mine. i don't really want to be with someone who doesn't trust me. i'm not perfect, but i make every effort to be a good and faithful sub. so just as i want and need to trust my dom, i want and need for him to trust me. "imagination is more important than knowledge" ~ albert einstein |
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12/17/2007 3:07 am |
Why wouldn't he trust you? In what way didn't he?
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12/17/2007 3:32 am |
this wasn't about anyone in particular. it was simply an observation. but, now that you ask, there was one dom who did not trust me. and as i usually find with those who innately are not trustful it is because they are not trustworthy themselves. he was married, and it seems, he expected me to be hiding as much as he was. *shrugs* the jaded one oh.... and welcome to my blog "imagination is more important than knowledge" ~ albert einstein
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12/18/2007 5:50 am |
I'd like to learn more. Would you be interested in possibly meeting in person? I've been very hesitant about joining this service because the number of people into the Ds lifestyle in this area is incredibly low. I might consider it now if there was actually someone local to me.
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