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To Sir with Love?
5/7/2008 3:19 pm Last Read: |
This is inspired by a few blogs by others: The Lunatic is on the Grass ~ Labels Revisited ~ Honorable Mentions When I was a newbie on alt, I found myself calling everyone by their self imposed titles. I was a bit new to the lifestyle at the time and it seemed to me to be the right thing to do. It seemed to me to be an expectation. Along with that was random use of caps when e-mailing or chatting. You know what I mean. The use of Me vs. me or You vs. you. And as if saying sir does not imply quite enough respect you have to make it Sir. It began to occur to me that this whole thing was actually quite silly. I came to this realization one day that unless I belong to someone, I really do not owe them anything more than common courtesy and that does not include the use of some self imposed title. I also began to notice that those who demanded that from everyone were not really the type of dom I wanted any involvement with. I began to see them as being filled with a self importance that screamed their insecurities as if their life long lists of underachievement were tattooed on their foreheads. Its funny really because I met one of these guys in my every day vanilla life once. He happened to be a patient of mine in the hospital. I knew he was a dom because his mousy little beaten-down wife brought him in a Get Well card that was addressed to Sir Arthur or what ever his name was. He had had surgery, and he was one of these patients who some how thinks that after youve had your belly wide open for several hours you should not have any pain at all. He was not well inclined to want to do anything for himself to assist in his own recovery. He did not want to do the breathing exercises to prevent pneumonia. He didnt want to move and get out of bed. But then he had a big history of alcohol use and smoking. Im quite sure that when doctors warned that smoking and excessive alcohol intake leads to many health problems he knew better. But then while his wife seemed to fit into the niches he had relegated her to, cancer knows no boundaries. And, of course my job was not to bow to his every little wish and placate him. My job was to do the things that would get him better and out of my unit. He didnt like me much. Perhaps it was because I didnt address him as Sir. I sometimes will use the words sir and maam in my vanilla life in a casual way. I do it with those I respect or sometimes in a more tongue-in-cheek, irreverent way for those I dont. I used to work with this surgeon who was born in the south and would often respond to me or others with, Maam? or Sir? when we would call his name. I have no problem with these uses. Though when Im being address by someone in public who does not know me, I prefer miss. Maam makes me feel old. I find in my BDSM world that there are very well defined times in which the use of sir is appropriate. When I am being instructed to do something by my dom, or were playing, sir has a very definite place. When we are in a casual setting or simply talking like real people, his name, babe, baby, honey, sweetie are all acceptable. To me, the use of the term at all times is all about pretense. There is not much room in my life for pretense. There is a great deal of room in my life for respect, service, submission, and love. My dom always knows my true heart and soul. I dont have to toss a label at him for him to know how I feel towards him or the importance he has in my world. And, I have little inclination towards someone who needs that constant sort of validation from me. "imagination is more important than knowledge" ~ albert einstein |
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5/7/2008 5:33 pm |
Does this mean you don't want to have dinner with LordMasterSirKingCockDom? Too bad. I heard he likes you.  Planet Earth: The insane asylum of the universe.   
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5/7/2008 5:44 pm |
Does this mean you don't want to have dinner with LordMasterSirKingCockDom? Too bad. I heard he likes you. "imagination is more important than knowledge" ~ albert einstein
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5/8/2008 12:02 pm |
This is very well done. Thank you for sharing your thought on this topic. thank you for the topic. "imagination is more important than knowledge" ~ albert einstein
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