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Is it me?
5/28/2007 10:51 pm Last Read: |
Am I being unrealistic in wishing for applicants that actually had a clue as to what I expect? Why am I deluged by 'subs' begging me to consider them for full time service then telling me that they want to spend a few weeks getting to know each other on-line before coming to meet me in real life? I don't expect them to immediately give up their lives and begin serving me but I do expect to have a face to face meeting before deciding if I wish to get to know them better. Is it just me that despises a 'sub' who wants to spend hours on-line feeding his own fantasies? This is NOT about YOU and YOUR fetishes/fantasies/kinks etc.....This is about ME desiring and deserving genuine slaves/submissives who sincerely desire to devote themselves to serving a loving but strict Mistress. If there are going to be any on-line conversations they should consist of you telling me everything I might need to know about you, your experience and your abilities. You should also be using that opportunity to learn everything you can about ME and MY needs, MY wants, MY desires and MY requirements. The first time I hear "What will you do to me if...." is when the conversation will end and our correspondence will cease. Again I ask.....Is this unreasonable? |
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6/1/2007 2:57 am |
My own sense of how online relationships should proceed includes meeting the other person within two weeks of initial contact, if possible. As a serious male submissive looking for a genuine LTR with a domme, I'd expect a potential domme to decide within that time when we would meet, if she is serious. Her comfort with meeting me would be the deciding issue, not mine. People who are at a distance from one another often can't jump on a plane to fly across the world, or set aside whatever else is going on in their life to travel. However, some direct contact -- a telephone call, preferably; or at least one-on-one chat in real time -- should, IMO, follow directly after any serious initial contact. Within two weeks. There are many people interested in the D/s lifestyle who have uncertainties or doubts or insecurities about committment. Respect and genuine understanding -- sympathy and empathy -- need to be extended to those folks. I don't think it's ever a bad plan to be respectful, or to genuinely try to understand. That said, there are many players out there who aren't looking for anything more than titilation or wanking material. I'd respectfully suggest you listen to your own intuition and trust your own heart, when trying to seperate those who are serious and those who aren't.  But don't forget, all of us can make mistakes in judgement.I guess what I'm trying to say here is, if you are both careful and steadily persistant, I think you'll have a much better chance to find what you seek. A truism in life as well as D/s, eh? Best of luck to you LadyTY. Cheers, -sbt
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6/18/2007 9:42 am |
Hello Lady, Now in fairness, I 'met' you online and chatted with you for a bit but I never received any indication of what your wants or desires were, only a couple of lines per email about how you were seeking to have a house full of subs who would take care of everything for you. I continued to try to get a little more out of you but never got past 2 or so lines of comments, so I am afraid my only impression was one of a woman seeking material things rather than anything else so I lost interest, as perhaps maybe others did. To expect someone to meet you online and then decide to meet and live with you in such a short period of time is perhaps a little optimistic at best but i am sure that you will find someone eventually. just please bear in mind that you are asking quite a lot. anyhow, i do wish you the best of luck with your search.
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