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"My other daughter is a sub."
5/10/2009 4:47 am |
This post title is brought to you by the memory of last year's Mother's Day conversation. I obligatorily phoned my mom to acknowledge the Day set side for Mother's, without knowing what to say, [what does "Happy _______(anything)" really mean after all?] I don't mind recognizing/celebrating holiday and other "special days," deemed "special" by others. Baptism, Bris? sure. Maid of honor? plan the bridal shower, pay for travel and a dress? of course. ♥ halloween? I deplore it, and i'll be in costume at the party you invited me to. It won't be "sexy," that's for everyday. Calling attention to the event is easy, it's the Obligatory conversation that ensues i can't abide. I say, "mom, i hope your day is happy or will be for a few moments before it's over. How's it going so far?" She says, "it's all good, just sitting here." That's my clue to ask if my siblings called and what they spoke about. Last year, I beat them to the phone. Mom, really was, "just sitting there." I decided to tell her I'd be visiting Las Vegas again soon. She knew about the earlier trip of the person (alt member) I saw for 6-weeks in the beginning of the year. 2008 was looking, to her; the Year of the Date. She said, "You seem to like this one okay. Where did you met him, on-line?." "Yes." "Match or one of those dating sites?" "No, not quite. I'm exploring some ideas about sex that aren't mainstream. At their core, all adult social site are about finding someone's whose your "match" for whatever the reason. What's weird is that on match/harmony sites sex is hardly mentioned and the site i'm on, people seem to think kinky sex transcends liking or knowing the other person." "I don't know, what are you looking for?" "Well, mom, actually my interest is specific. Have you heard the terms B/d or D/s? BDSM? Kinky sex? Fetish? Or of women that take the lead, sometimes called a dominatrix" "I've seen some of that on the TV. Not my thing, me and your dad are just fine." "Ask dad, maybe he'd like to be finer. Anyhow I am not what you seen on TV. I don't carry a whip or have slaves. Remember when I wanted to be sex therapist? I'm still interested in those things." "Well, you always were bossy." "Bossy? Why bossy, why not willful and determined? I think you say bossy because I'm female. Anyway, i was thinking you might like 'My daughter's a Domme' t-shirt for mother's day. Would you? Would you wear it?" "No thanks, that's okay. This call's enough." END OF MOTHER'S DAY 2008 MOTHER'S DAY 2009 I reminded my mom of last year and offered her the alternate t-shirt; "My other daughter's a sub." Luckily, she declined the gift because I neglected to run it by my sister. Is my sister a sub? I couldn't tell you, and neither could she. As she said after reading my profile, "you always were confident. it's cool you're doing this and meeting people. You know, I don't think too much about sex or much of it either." |
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5/3/2010 12:11 am |
I loved this blog. Humor, insight, courage, and, oh my god, a real person who happens to love being a dominatrix. Sheesh, didn't you know you're suppose to fit into a bdsm mold too? I envy your sanity and self assurance. Thanks for revealing yourself to strangers. It DOES help them, more than you.
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 5/27/2009 10:11 pm |
Poignant. It looks like you are the only one really tring to live in your family (and sorry if I misinterpret). On the positive side, you are still stirring trouble and shaking them from their torpor. That is a good deed to me.
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5/26/2009 10:25 pm |
Wow, my hat is off to you. I could never discuss sex with my mom, and certainly not anything like my D/s desires. But is that part of my sub tendencies or just part of growing up in a household that had typical Protestant attitudes on sex (don't talk about it, and everything is missionary). Wish I had read this on Mothers Day, but it is still great to read. You got 'balls' for sure, though i have found as I have explored my desires that there is a big difference between having balls and having balls!
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