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Doc_Sonar 66M
24588 posts
4/21/2014 11:45 am

Hi Kay!

Thanks for your thoughts.

I liked these in particular:

"I have come across some women who find it really difficult to trust Men because they have been hurt in the past…"

>>>Nodding.

"I think that depends on the Women...I tend to take somebody at face value to begin with, but I do have an element of my guard up... have come across some women who find it really difficult to trust Men because they have been hurt in the past.

"Then there are those women who...get hurt because they haven't taken the time to get to know the Guy properly, or the guy has taken the piss out of their trusting nature, [and they get hurt]...I mean how can you fully trust somebody if you don't know the person?

>>>I don't know.
Annnd because of that, while Other-Trust is vital, I tend to t think trust in my Self is a little more important....to trust my SELF to 'be OK'/'remain emotionally whole,' regardless of WHAT someone else does or how they behave.


"...I am trying to say is that it is ok to trust somebody, however you never know when something may bite you..."

>>>Yes...and that makes me feel even stronger about what I wrote above.
+++

Sometimes, IMO, in order to honor our own hearts and health, we might have to break patterns. We might have to avoid those with a history of chronically misunderstanding us. We might have to quit explaining ourselves repeatedly.

Feel compassion? I certainly advocate that ~ just, what if I said that sometimes, our compassion has to be from a distance - because up close it's simply too harmful?

And while you, like me, believe that trust is individual,

("I think there is more than one answer to this question as it would vary on each person... ")

it seems that you've experienced your fair share of women that you feel have behaved in an untrustworthy way

(envy, unfair criticism, irresponsibility with loans, female friends that feel other women are more untrustworthy, etc.)

more so than untrustworthy men, which you know also exist.

Is that a fair restatement of what your experiences have imprinted on you? Let me know if not. If close, fascinatingly common.

Thanks for sharing this.

Well done.
I'll this add your post's link to my simul-post straightaway.


YTB
BD~
P
xos

Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


Doc_Sonar 66M
24588 posts
4/21/2014 11:46 am

PS
This gave another welcome peek into you as well.

As you may feel, the query itself was more of an expedition into how we think and how our experiences shape our impressions

(maybe even our biases, good or bad),

satisfying curiosity as much as anything else.

I appreciate you, baby. xos


Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


aHedonist 51M
7510 posts
4/22/2014 7:12 pm

You're mad, and you're also a pervert, a sexual deviant, and you have a nice arse!!!

All of which I happen to think are perfectly admirable and desireable traits in a woman.

(left out all your touchy feely good points in my endeavour to be a sexist pig)



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