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Sucker4Ever 112M
6750 posts
9/26/2016 7:18 am

Unless a person has the word slut in their name, eg. Slutkathy, one should never refer to someone one does not know in that or any derogatory fashion!
By the way, this applies to all except the few idiots out there who just don't have any respect for anyone, including themselves. Of whom we must ignore.
I call myself names all the time, but then, I know myself pretty well, so I can do that.

Welcome back! Don't remember if I knew you back when, but it's always good to meet good people. Don't let the bad bumps in the road throw you over the edge of the otherwise smooth highway.


“Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.”


sanita13 53F  
68 posts
9/26/2016 7:32 am

Agreed! I am of the same mind as you.


joyaandkenny 45M/47F  
19 posts
9/26/2016 8:15 am

I agree with you whole heartedly...

Yes, I am male, and I am Dominant. And I don't understand respectless assholes either. Granted, I have also seen women show similar behavior. It's not bound to gender, but more to people in general.

Some people seem to think because they're safe behind their computer. That normal manners as a lot of them would have with face to face encounters don't apply when sending messages online. The relative anonimity seems to make some peeople bolder or forget they ever had manners.

Another possible reason could be the idea some people have of submissives/slaves. And they think because they identify as domininant, it gives them a free pass in respectless behavior. Possibly a lot of those people might also be just vanilla people looking for something kinky. And perhaps they think their behavior is the norm.

And unless a profile specifically states they WANT to be degraded or humiliated. It's still respectless even if they have words like "slut" in their screenname. As much as the fact they identify as slave or submissive doesn't mean they're YOUR submissive or slave.

Best thing to do with people like that, is to ignore them.


spanks_and_wine 57M
228 posts
9/26/2016 11:26 am

I wouldn't say it is a young person problem. I occasionally go on camera dressed up and I think the only rudeness I encounter is from older men. The younger ones are generally pretty polite and friendly - and in this case I am referring to people under 35 as young.
I don't really understand it either - why people assume it is perfectly acceptable to open a conversation with a perfect stranger by saying somthing rude.I think it is ignorance and a feeling of immunity because of the anonymity of the web.

But on the question of young people being rude - adults have always complained about that :

"What is happening to our young people? They disrespect their elders, they disobey their parents. They ignore the law. They riot in the streets inflamed with wild notions. Their morals are decaying. What is to become of them?"
Plato, 4th Century BC
Thanks to http://www.anxietyculture.com/antisocial.htm for the text .


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7019 posts
9/26/2016 3:13 pm

When I was still into scening, I had the apparently unfortunate habit of treating everything and everyone associated with scening in a chat room as so completely dissociated from reality as to have absolutely no chance of being taken seriously. I was therefore constantly astounded when someone called me on an apparent protocol violation.

My obliviousness to some people's ability to conflate fantasy and reality was particularly embarrassing once when I finished a scene with a young Australian girl I had grown inordinately fond of by pretending to sweep her into my arms carry her from the room after a particularly passionate scene while saying "come on my sweet little cumslut, let's blow this popsicle stand."

She was mortified. Three of her girlfriends had witnessed our scene and exit. She went immediately to flash chat and rounded on me for embarrassing her by calling her a slut in front of her friends. I was dumbfounded. I knew she was really sweet and shy, which was why I was so fond of her and why I had also been astounded that she had gravitated to me after over a period of months regularly rejecting all other advances, but I was totally unready for her reaction after her public display of wanton sexuality in our scene. I couldn't make the shift.

I can't to this day remember exactly what I said in response. I just know that I felt utterly ashamed about the callous way I had hurt her and I know I apologized profusely. She really was a "good girl," in both senses of the phrase.

Fortunately for both of us, our relationship survived the incident for quite a while afterward, and I still hear from her about once a year.


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
9/27/2016 5:04 am

I once bothered to reply (as so fed up with such approaches!) and said that it's hardly a way to start a conversation with a lady. He then said that secretly I must love it. Good bye *block*


slaaf85_91 61M
447 posts
10/21/2016 10:36 am

I'm frequently visiting some gay sauna & bar and I got used to this kind of language, being a male homosexual and going as single in some gay sauna and bar I got used being called like that.

Being different from the majority of people as homosexual my pleasure is in being used by others...



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