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I don't get it...
6/14/2005 12:15 pm Last Read: |
....see, when you first make contact with someone, in an online setting, it is easy to dismiss that person. You haven't met, they are still just a photo and fingers typing something somewhere. I understand that it might be tough to adjust to doing stuff like, say, responding to an e-mail. Hey, life happens, you know? But is it so very, very discouraging when I overcome my fear of being rejected or pushed away yet again to reach out to someone and to initiate setting up a date. How long would it take to return an e-mail? Or make a phone call? I have so many people asking me how I could possibly be single...yadda ya yadda. I haven't had anything beyond a first date in well over a year. I'm pretty easy to talk to, I am not stand-offish, I am up front about what I'm looking for, and polite to people who approach me politely. I suppose I am grateful that I haven't had a lot of bad dates, or idiots trying to bug me...well, not many...but would it be so tough for someone to follow-through once in a whole? If you can't take 90 seconds to return an e-mail to someone you say you are interested in meeting, why would I think that, later on down the road, you'd be an attentive responsive partner? (Yeah, I already have a call in for the Waaaaaaambulance )  Mollena
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 6/14/2005 2:05 pm |
Mo I agree, you would think they could at least respond. That is just plain rude. As for why you only get first dates. Gal you are such a beautiful women, I think they are intimidated by your beauty, your intelligence, and your passion. JMO (Shame on them) For newcomers and not so newcomers. Arm yourself with knowledge
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6/14/2005 3:29 pm |
Rude? Scared? Maybe both?
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6/14/2005 4:24 pm |
Thank you, wonderful women, for your support. Yes, yes it REALLY is true that I'd much rather be under a pie of cat fur than to be lonely with someone I love....that was the reason I had to leave the relationship with my $#@&^%-ass ex. While that hurt like a sonfabitch, I don Mollena
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6/14/2005 6:32 pm |
It's me..shebaby'...I am..me again...was so dayummmm strange all morning' and into the afternoon I was some 18 year old boy' could not access' anything' of my own...and could not even' get off his account' was just weird as hell...don't know' why...did get me a bit' frantic'...have to say'..lol..I don't want' to be...a boy'...lol...nope not me...shebaby'....dayummmm what a strange' day'...anyhow's thks for the fe-male...I just realized this probably' does not make a whole lot of sense...see what happen's when I spend the day' as someone' else' scary' huh??? lol...
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6/14/2005 9:10 pm |
ordeur, thank you so very much....I do try to remember that, and, like they say, hope springs eternal....it is just that the spring runs a little low sometimes.... Mollena
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6/14/2005 11:00 pm |
Am I gonna have to frisk you to make sure you don't have anything hidden down there, shebaby??  Mollena
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6/15/2005 12:17 am |
Foulmama, I think you hit the nail on the head. If I was going to place a bit, I'd put my money on intimidated. Mo, I'll bet you a buck that you have no idea how good you are at that. Part of it is the public figure thing plus the performer thing, but another part is just projecting strength and confidence.
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6/15/2005 11:20 am |
Interesting perspective...interestingly enough, Jon, that is something I avoid doing. I haven't named anyone by name, even the couple of lame dates I have had I made a point not to post on line "so and so from alt with handle blahdeeblahdeeblah bailed on me, what an ass!" because that DOES seem unfair.* Hashing it out online with other bloggers is one thing, talking about that which is Ancient History is another, but I am mostly (mostly!) of a mind that a "missed connection" or someone being unresponsive is not a call to flame them. Merely for me to bitch and pule and whine about it, and host my own PitiParti Mollena
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