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5/18/2009 11:07 am Last Read: |
It is not the first time that someone has been whipped into enough of a frenzy to excoriate me publicly. Years ago, when I was just talking about race play among a small group of people, and had only one class under my belt, I took this type of fuckery much more heavily. Nowadays, I am mostly unruffled by such bullshit. But yesterday, it went down again, but with an extra twist: someone threatened violence. Hopefully, this so-called class will fail miserably to attract even enough interest to cover the cost of presenting this abomination as kink. Forced Black slavery = 60 million known deaths, Ethnic cleansing at the hands of the Nazis = 10 million known deaths, the European takeover of North American = uncalculated deaths that totaled the annihilation of multiple races and the loss forever of countless traditions and ways of life. A really small segment of misguided people, attempting to seek justification in re-enacting that which the public has repeatedly rejected as far to painful, to far too many is again on a quest to show that anything is acceptable when it is defined as kink. This response is written to assure that you are aware of those who will react in the extreme, to any such scenes played out in a public venue. While no one can deny the right of adults to do as they please in private as long as the acts are consensual and non injurious, no one should be dumb enough or uncaring enough to force this issue in a public venue. For the record, I am one of those militant-minded individuals who will react violently to such a scene, should I to come upon one in public. All should be warned that I am not alone, as such would injure many and they will react most unpleasantly to such a scene. It takes ovaries of steel, really, for me to do what I do and I rarely give myself credit for this. The first time I taught the race play class at a national event was Black Rose. I was very nervous. Afraid Id be heckled, booed out of the venue. However. The room was SRO packed and filled with a broad spectrum (well, broad by Leather Community standards) of kinksters. All curious, all respectful, even when they differed in opinion. This was gratifying because Id had my share of abuse heaped on my head. All of it from other POC. I havent ever censored myself out of fear. I am not about to now. Once I saw this message posted on a list associated with the Citadel, where Ill be presenting my discussion on race play the day after tomorrow, I brought it to the attention of Phil, the Manager of the Citadel. Taking my concerns seriously, he called an old friend of mine, Jay Wiseman, who is a good resource and cautious to a fault. Jay called me and calmed me down a bit. (Thanks dudes.) Indeed, this is most likely posturing, and the threat wasnt SPECIFICALLY against ME. But still Over it. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised that my posting the interview on race play I did would land me a few smacks in the head. I foolishly though that the fact I'd received many inquiries on the topic meant that people were genuinely curious. This far mostly it seem sot be condescension and ridicule, with few exceptions, once I opened the topic for discussion on the Advice Line. Some asshole was even snarky enough to suggest this was some sort bid for notoriety. Yeah. Because being called names by the uninformed and the ignorant is my idea of fame and fortune...? Not by a long shot. I dunno. I think perhaps I am far more naive that even I thought possible.  Mollena
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5/18/2009 12:46 pm |
Mo... You rock. Wish I could be there, but am forced to remain at work, vaguely gainfully employed. So I ask... (rhetorically of course) Who is more racist? The one presenting a class on race PLAY??? Or the one threatening violence to those who choose CONSENSUALLY to participate and teach such play??? Don't know the person slamming Mo, but look in the mirror. Your lack of tolerance and threats of violence are FAR more racist than dealing with the realities that there ARE differences in race, culture, religion, etc. Your position offends Me. But I won't lift a Paw against you until you raise yours in violence against Me or Mine. And then, ONLY in defense. If you don't like what you see in the mirror, don't try to change others. Change yourself. PantherProwLs
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5/18/2009 1:57 pm |
i used to work at a private dungeon in NYC, many moons ago. one day after my afternoon shift the house strong-arm, a huge and protective black man appropriately called Brick, offered to walk me to the train. as we were walking along we decided it would be good idea to attach a leash to my neck and for him to lead me by it. we laughed at the picture of it - this huge black man walking a much smaller and younger white girl through the streets of NYC on a leash in broad daylight. it was a playful sort of race play, and we both enjoyed the drama of it, but there was a fear element too. what was fun and playful to us, we knew was a honking big dangerous trigger in the hearts and minds of a lot of other people. nothing happened, thankfully, but we DID take a big risk all the same. some hatreds and prejudices are far beyond anything one can reason with. by presenting on race play, you're triggering the fear that is at the heart of hatred and prejudice. of course there will be some flak. but you're also in a position to get these fears and prejudices out in the open. to face them head-on. to make them less scary. though i might suggest you have a huge, brick-like, protective white man around when you do. people tend to behave way better when there's a huge, protective man around, of any color.  "There is a beauty unspeakable in this heart of corruption, where the flowers are aflame." -Liber LXV, Chap. IV:3
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 5/18/2009 4:52 pm |
It's probably correct that this is only posturing, but err on the side of caution none the less. For newcomers and not so newcomers. Arm yourself with knowledge
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5/18/2009 9:08 pm |
Always err on the side of caution, but also remember this. At one point a black and a white person being together at all was unheard of, but someone pushed that "social norm." At some point people are going to have to remember and respect the past, but not let it control all there actions. I think it is almost shameful to tell someone it's cool to marry this person now, but you can't do anything kinky with them because that pushes buttons. I think to many people are missing the point big time on this. It is a big issue, but isn't it a great thing that we can have a class like this. A great thing that we can sit down and discuss this... ~R bite me... I like it.
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5/19/2009 8:00 pm |
I can't understand why someone would react that way over merely trying to teach a class on the topic. It's not like your organizing a campaign on repealing laws for equal rights. Stand strong and continue to do your thing. But what do I know, I also laughed at that joke in the movie Barbershop about Rosa Parks. So maybe I'm the wrong person to offer words of encouragement... Xiao Ba Wang...... (translation) "Young Tyrant" ~R
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5/25/2009 8:30 am |
Hey, Mollena. Although I'm against Race Play of any kind, I don't force My opinion on anyone. I firmly believe in the right for the individual to choose what to believe. But I do have a MAJOR problem with people who think they have the RIGHT to threaten violence against someone because of their beliefs and desires!!! That smacks too much of Nazism in My book. And I used "Nazism" deliberately. I read both the article you posted, as well as your A.L. Question. I have to say, if I walked into a dungeon or play party, and there were individuals there doin' Race Play, I would leave. To Me, Race Play degrades the individuals. Both of them. Does this give Me the right to threaten them? In any form? No. It doesn't. I applaud you for havin' the courage to present such an "offensive" topic in a public forum, and your desire to do so impartially. Especially considerin' your ethnic background. No offense intended. But I hope you will understand that, if I was at such a presentation, I would walk out. [image] Hippie (Hippie_n_Brandi) I walk the Land of Truth. I walk the Land of Self. I am not your Conscience. I am simply searching. Walk this Land with Me, and face Yourself. .
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7/18/2009 3:01 am |
WOW MO it is a deep and confusing issue. when i was a prodomme in france i found that a lot of men prefered me over my co workers. Not because i was some american beauty but, as one gentleman told me the contrasts of our skin was a turn on itself. You have a good point about walking in a dungeon and seeing a black femsub whipped by her white MASTER IS THAT RACIST/RACIAL/RACEPLAY? WHO CAN PUT A LABLE ON IT..BUT I MUST SAY THIS..WHEN I SEE A SUBMISSIVE SISTER CALL HERSELF NIGGSLUT. I am offended! play with who you want , how you please as long as it is SSC. But please dont give ammunition to those who think what we do is harmful by advertising the very thing they need to say....see this is degrading because when you take something i get so much pleasure from and connect it to something so hurtful, like the N WORD IN YOUR HANDLE, it becomes degrading. feels so good that if im wrong i dont wanna be right!
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7/30/2009 9:03 pm |
Mollena replies on 6/3/2009 5:10 pm: Let me ask this. If you saw me in a dungeon, in a suspension, being whipped by a white man, would you assume that was race play? People have. Even though the scene was between myself and a dominant who was vehemently opposed to race play of any sort. But I had witnesses to the scene tell me later it tripped them out and bothered them. Same when I was doing a scene where some rope was around my neck. It triggered racial oppression and horrifying imagery for bystanders. But that has nothing to do with me, or with race play. So you see, whether or not I CHOSE to do race play, people often see what they want to see. And I respect your capacity to do the best thing you can for yourself, which is to disengage from that which disturbs you. ~Mollena Hey, Mollena My apologies for not gettin' back sooner. To answer your question, given the circumstances you defined, No, I would not automatically assume that was Race Play. That would be, in My perception of the event, a Dominant and submissive engaging in a "Scene". Mollena, I firmly believe in One Race. The Human Race. It's genetics that make for different skin color, eye color, hair color, etc. I look at people as PEOPLE. Mollena, I'm not tryin' to convince anyone that My beliefs about "Race Play" are correct for anyone else but Me. And rather than repeat Myself, with your permission, I'm simply gonna link to a blog post I wrote shortly after My response here. "Race Play and Racism" I'm not tryin' to engage you in a "debate", if I'm understanding how you meant the word. I read your post concerning that. But I do enjoy non-critical, impartial discourse, or "Debate" as it's meant to be. "Communication between two individuals of different viewpoints on one subject in a non-threatening and non-critical manner for the purpose of education and learning". Hippie (Hippie_n_Brandi) I walk the Land of Truth. I walk the Land of Self. I am not your Conscience. I am simply searching. Walk this Land with Me, and face Yourself. .
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