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SylviaSoulier 58F
8209 posts
7/26/2014 10:32 pm



Social media is so terribly fucked up in one regard in that respect and yet… we live on not just in the memories of others but in a time capsule of our own creation.

One day my kids will find what I have written about them elsewhere and realise how much I cared about them, despite the other stuff that anyone may tell them after I've gone.

The other place, Life of Fet, I don't visit so much any more. A dear friend of mine died and his profile is still there. He unfriended me on there (but not in real life) because my interactions with an ex-girlfriend caused him distress. Accordingly I cannot leave him mementos on his wall. I could travel to his gravesite but more of him was there on his wall than exists in a strange granite land.

This pain that you write about is like a fresh bruise. There is still pretty in the world and you have to notice and grab that with all your might. Right now in fact.


kittykitty1260 63F
15748 posts
7/27/2014 4:24 am



“Who says life is fair, where is that written?”
― William Goldman, The Princess Bride


McGripper 54M

7/27/2014 9:28 am

Just sending a hug.

The opinions and understanding portrayed in my blog are mainly unfounded, misguided or wrong.


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
7/27/2014 10:13 am

<-------- Sends an understanding hug of commiseration from a bubble of her own.

No matter how much a natural part of life loss is, it still frickin hurts and it still fucking sucks.

Prolly why we try not to think about it and are unable to truly prepare for it before it happens.

Im glad you will have sweet memories to carry with you. Those can naver be taken away

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


syzygy9r 61M  
3789 posts
7/27/2014 1:14 pm

I remember how I felt almost 9 months ago when I heard of frokensalander's death and the intense sobbing that followed when I verified that it was true because of how much she meant to me

It makes me wish I could have been there physically for you to enfold you in my arms and let you cry on my shoulder. Nothing else, just so you had that physical connection that helps keep us from feeling like a rock. I'm sure you were holding onto Jones tightly, and he cheered you up, but there's no substitute for having another "human" person be there to make us not feel like that "rock". Many thanks for being there when I messaged you about my pain at that time. Feel free to allow me to return the favor.

That bubble is very thick at first, but very gradually thins, somewhat like a soap bubble does, though it never seems to pop. There sometimes seems to be an accumulation of various thin soap bubbles at the edge of our existence and that we run into at times and that color our world, as well as our view(s) of it and of others. Sometimes it's for the better, sometimes for the not as good and sometimes it's a varied mixture of both.

I'm SO very sorry that you lost FKB. Even though you knew 5 months or so ago that it was coming, it always seems as such a shock when it does actually happen, such as when my Grandma and one of my Aunts passed away from cancer. All we can hope to do when we lose a "unique light" such as your friend "First Kiss Boy" or frokensalander is to live our lives in a way such as to honor their existence and passing.

We all may not be rocks, but in a way, we are continents, acted upon by the forces of nature that are one another - constantly being added to and/or taken away from, changed in ways major and minor. I think I should sometime elaborate on that here or if I can cohesively bring all those thoughts together, in a pamphlet or small book, but then, I AM a bit around the bend.

I haven't been on FB in what seems like ages. Though I miss my old blog(s) from vanilla-land, people seemed to migrate from there to FB, because it was the newest and latest, and everyone knows we must be on and a part of the latest and greatest, even though later, if we are paying attention, it (F is sucking out info on us right and left, as well as other tangibles & intangibles that we are sadly unaware of Social media can be of great value, but there are prices to be paid for its use as well. One must just not be sucked into it too deeply. It's like quicksand - you can swim on top of it and you can progress from place to place, but if you stay entrenched, it will suck you in deeper, until you drown in its obsessiveness.

Growing up, I felt a very personal connection with that song and sometimes even today, still do - lynchpins/linchpins, eh? It's glad the memories helped to cheer you up and soften the pain.

Ah, I always tend to go on too much...but one last thing, I Do so love that picture!


syzygy9r 61M  
3789 posts
7/27/2014 1:17 pm

Oh, that wasn't the last thing:

for you!


pandia__ 50F
3097 posts
7/28/2014 8:55 am

Sending you huge hugs and also how very lucky he was to have someone like you in his too-short life.


MsSwanger 35F
15964 posts
8/24/2014 3:34 pm

Hugs... wish I could do a little more to make you feel better!


MsSwanger
Journey into my soul.



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