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Ironman916 48M

7/10/2015 10:09 pm

I feel for you having to see your friend go through this. I went through a similar process with my grandpa when I was much younger. Watching impending death take over one's body and mind is tough for those living through it. Yet its just as difficult for those fortunate enough to know the poor soul suffering through the unwanted changes.

My grandpa was a portly man who enjoyed life, loved his Budweiser, and his cigarettes. As death approached it turned him from a man full of life to a 95 lb, blind, shell of the man I once knew. I shall never forget the image of the stranger I saw with my grandpa's voice. Unrecognizable and not the way I want to remember him... yet its the last image I have of him and its burned into my memory. Cancer truly does suck!

While, I can only imagine the connection between you and your friend and the bond you two share is yours alone... please remember you are not alone. You have a great group of friends; perhaps one of your small changes could be to attempt to open up to them (or one). OK maybe that's a BIG change. Baby steps... I know.

BTW... Is it morbid to have a song picked out for your own funeral? I do and it suits your post today, sort of. (Death and Bartenders) Yes, you guessed it... Another DMB song. If you haven't heard it... look for a live version, preferably with the Lovely ladies accompanying Dave.

"If I go before I’m old
Oh brother of mine please don’t forget me if I go
Bartender please, fill my glass for me
With the wine you gave Jesus that set him free, after three days in the ground" --Bartender

A truly moving song which my friends have been instructed to make sure is played at my funeral. (Whenever/wherever that may be)

As for the FHead... I wish I could apologize for all the dumbasses but that would take too long. Unfortunately, its the internet and there will always be FHeads who just don't get it.

Rain headed my way Saturday... I hope you get your wish of rain all weekend. If not... I'll try to enjoy it for you! Cheers!


syzygy9r 61M  
3789 posts
7/10/2015 11:18 pm

I can't imagine how hard it must be on you to see your friend as he is now and how you've seen things progressing, so I can understand wanting to get toasted to take the edge off those feelings.

I'm so glad Jones was there to walk you home and that the bartender remembered your water bottle. Sometimes the small things can help remind us that there is a lot of goodness in the world. A lot of it just goes unrecognized. I think both you and your friend are quite brave, each in your own ways and I think he's still looking out for your well-being in the best way he knows how.

It's sad though, about people like the person who emailed you. Sadly, there are also a lot like that, especially on here, many of whom are so wrapped up in what they feel they can and should be able to get from someone else-thinking that this place is ripe for the picking and even more sadly, sometimes it is, to the detriment of some of the ladies on here.

Fortunately, there are women like you that aren't "easy prey". I feel badly for the ones that are taken in by folks like that though. Too many of those folks are smooth talkers or use abusive talk to try to bend women to their will and too often it works for them. Fuck them indeed!

I'm sorry that the most I can do is send you some


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
7/11/2015 1:08 am

Your post really touched me. He is your friend and I am glad you are there for him and still manage to spend time together. But he isn't 'just' a friend as he has changed your life forever and perhaps given you the greatest gift in life, access to true you. Sending you hugs and strength x


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
7/11/2015 4:37 am

Sending you are your friend good vibrations. Guitars............they vibrate when strung. and, songs are sung, be the sweet , be they wailing.

I think he would like this song. Kingston Trio - Greenback Dollar

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


pandia__ 50F
3097 posts
7/11/2015 5:30 am

Sending you so many hugs.


Fella_ 113M
309 posts
7/11/2015 8:21 am



Make memories.



<--- shortened his name to Fella_



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