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Condom Sense
8/3/2010 9:46 pm |
So today is going to start off with a health announcement  Just for all you chubby girls out there like me I thought I would warn you. The Pill does have a weight limit. It is less effective if you weigh over 195 pounds. I just thought I'd pass that on. Didn't want any surprises for you guys later on in life  Okay, back to the important things, me  So I might have found someone I actually like. He is a bit older...think twice my age...but I think I'm okay with that. I'm actually in favor of that I think. I think I would rather have someone who knows what they are doing guide me through my first time. It took a lot of soul searching to decide that but I think that's my decision. The problem is now that I've started to ask him my "Dom Questions" I'm starting to pick out little things that kinda...rub me the wrong way. I can't even really put my finger on them...they just kinda throw up these little red flags. Normally I'm one to follow my gut feelings but I know from experience when I'm nervous about something I'll start making up reasons not to have to do it. I'm a little bit worried that I'm making them all up in my head. That's where my Handy Dandy Mentor comes in She's going to be my creeper checker. So here is my disclaimer. Anything that you send me, comment or email, could be sent to her to help me decide if you're like "hi I wanna wear your skin as an overcoat" weird or just kinky weird...and I know those over lap a bit in some extreme cases but I will also so. I am in no way attracted to "hi I would like to wear your skin as an overcoat" so all of those people will be avoided like the plague. OH and that brings up something else that Nimblebookworm forced me to do for my own good that I've decided I really like in hind site. (there I go exaggerating and making her look bad. She didn't force me she just...encouraged and I'm very glad thank you) That's the "Dom Questions." It really does come in handy to have a group of questions already written out for just in case you start to realize you actually might like this guy. That way you know that you know all of those little things you need to know before you get serious at all. A few that I didn't even think about were: Do you drink when you play? Get high? Do you practice safe sex? Those two questions seem like no brainers to me. You shouldn't even have to ask them but I've been reassured multiple times that people are dumb and I should ask. Here's the thing. If you are engaging in sex that is risky enough that taking a CPR class is a good idea then engaging in that sex with someone who is stumbling to the bed is one hell of a mistake. I know people say that it makes it better or something but no. There is no reason to risk yourself needlessly like that. Have some common sense about the situation. As far as the last questions goes I just have two quesitons for you, would you like herpes? How about a baby? Both of those are risks. Period end of story. If you wouldn't like either of those things then safe sex is for you. If you are trying to get pregnant than god bless you and you have a great life other wise, as my favorite story in fayetteville says, "be hip when you unzip" and wear a condom!! |
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