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likesmatureones 55M
0 posts
10/27/2016 3:36 am
can a former submissive be an effective Dom?


Now ofcourse people will chime in with a yes or no based on their personal experiences etc.

But I am interested in hearing why you feel that way.

I believe there is two schools of thought on this.
1. the former sub has a better understanding of what it is like to submit ...ergo they can be an effective Dom

2. the former sub will still retain some portion of their submissiveness and will basically be bottoming from the top...by this I mean one runs into Dominants that say they enjoy giving the sub pleasure.

Your thoughts?

likesmatureones 55M

10/27/2016 3:37 am


likesmatureones 55M

10/27/2016 5:04 am

well I find this question interesting because I have been with multiple Dominant people that basically couldn't handle being a Dom ( they had to back away from all of this and just sorta break it off abruptly).

I've also been with a few Dommes that were very "powder puff" in nature...liked the idea of being Dominant , but alas that was about it.

I'm not saying that a former sub can't make one hell of a Dominant....
it's just been my luck that I haven't run into anyone of that nature.

I just think there is a huge gap between someone that likes to spank an ass/enjoys seeing a sub really getting off from the spanking and
someone that actually enjoys being a Dom/me.


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
10/27/2016 2:42 pm

I can only talk from my own experience but the answer could be either. My man is dominant and has never switched, nor would he want to. I don't think he would be any better dominant if he experienced being submissive.

As a switch I enjoy submitting to him because it is him but I do not crave to submit. I would not go out looking for submissive experiences with random people. In fact I couldn't do it like that. However I can and enjoy dominating without emotional attachment. I get my kicks from dominating to an extent that I can remain a little cold and don't always want them to touch me. I enjoy seeing the other person's submission and the feeling of control. I suppose my own submissive experience helps me to understand what my own submissive is going through. However interestingly I enjoy doing things as a dominant that I would not enjoy 'receiving' as a submissive. Figure that!



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