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asianat2008 69M
3955 posts
8/24/2014 4:44 am

Dear Tyza...I feel for this post and feel also the mental pressure You experience for what You told and written here....

Self-respect is the corner-stone of virtues.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
8/24/2014 5:11 am

Danger Will Robinson, Danger!

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Sucker4Ever 112M
6750 posts
8/24/2014 5:46 am

That the person in question said they love you is not necessarily a bad thing.
I would simply question them, and qualify the statement and their intent and reason for making it.
Neither do I find pet names suspicious in nature by themselves, or in conjunction with other words of rather intense affection.

Where the very RED Flags start popping and waving for me is when you tell the person they are moving way too fast, and instead of a reasonable explanation and a willingness to curb their premature emotions, is replaced with excessive phone calls. Yeah, that's not a good sign!
Now you can actually combine the overall actions of the person and consider them a potentially dangerous personality.

Yes, there are people who can be happy, enjoy life and each other without all the drama; but it doesn't sound like this guy is it!
My advice? Try being, instead of searching. The problem with that, I'm all alone


“Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.”


InderioMinx 54F  
19798 posts
8/24/2014 7:26 am

For me, that is a red flag, especially less than a week and you haven't even met them yet. The subsequent behavior your described would just be more support of my initial thought. That is just like the ones who like to tell me what *know* about them. I know nothing until I meet them and have some frame of reference.

Definitelyme58i made an interesting point, but I think in this day and age the love at first sight thing may be few and far between. Though, the key point would be "at first sight." Online v. real time personas can be so different and it is sad that some feel the need to embellish so.

Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short


Sucker4Ever 112M
6750 posts
8/24/2014 2:55 pm

You're so so cute, and so sweet -gosh, I think I love ya baby!

Here's to wishing you . . . good days, and lovers who require no hints, no warnings, and definitely no restraining orders

Be Well


“Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.”


lastguymn 56M

8/25/2014 3:02 am

In my experience, if someone pulls out those three words that quickly with so little contact, they are either trying to ingratiate themselves to you in a highly manipulative way or they have serious attachment/abandonment issues that could very likely be trouble down the line. Either way...it's a major red flag.

~LastGuy

"It's great to be here. It's great to be anywhere." -- Keith Richards

"There are many spokes on the wheel of life. First, we're here to explore new possibilities." -- Ray Charles


tantricncorset 56M  
22 posts
8/29/2014 3:08 pm

You are on point girl!!! Like jenny said to Forest "RUN!!!!!!"


tantricncorset 56M  
22 posts
8/29/2014 5:44 pm

Well weave that thread into a rope and climb out of the old sand box and find a new place to play. It is your world, live the way you want to! Remember a Sub is never weak. She surrenders by choice. Stay strong and get what you wish for.


TheGentleD0M 55M
4082 posts
9/11/2014 11:02 pm

I understand the general theory you are presenting: "I love you" are very precious words and they shouldn't be spent cheaply.

But the flip side is that love - true love -- the kind that you've spoken about before as waiting for, can happen in an instant, in the twinkling of an eye. And if this other person feels that, and knows that, well then ...

(And lastly, a minor detail: little affectionate names are kinda part and parcel with the entire D/s dynamic. I know I have used them within minutes of interacting with someone, if there is a vibe there. Just another perspective.)

Thanks for writing.


tgd


iceboxman52982 57M
19 posts
9/12/2014 8:21 pm

Is this a Red Flag? Yes when combined with the obsessive compulsive behavior. A rule I learned many years ago in the service. Follow your gut feeling, it's your built-in alarm. Remember, if it smells like a duck and quacks like a duck, it is a duck. Bottom line whether or not your in the lifestyle, caution and safety still remains a top priority. You'll have to weed the whack jobs to find the right One. If you ever have a question or concern feel free to contact me for a neutral third party opinion.


SylviaSoulier 58F
8209 posts
9/15/2014 6:15 pm

Just reading and thinking and reading and thinking.

Ahem.

So there is a thing about who leads the relationship and how the other person feels about that.

Clearly here the person is trying to lead the relationship and you are not comfortable with that. Therefore for both of you it would be a good idea not to go further.

If you were comfortable with the leadership role being taken by someone no doubt you'd feel entirely different about this interaction.

To the person who is telling you that they love you - SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.

There I said it.


kb1971 58M

9/18/2014 12:57 pm

It sounds like obsessive behavior. I like what Tam voiced, and maybe he is just lonely. Besides family, and friends if I tell someone this, there better be fireworks. I think I would be more concerned if you found yourself inside his home, and found one wall entirely covered with photos of you. I don't want to make light of your situation, and maybe err on the side of caution, and not responding back might cause him to take a hike. I wish I knew why people have to be sociable morons. I wish you the best

"Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do, and they will suprise you with their ingenuity."~ Gen. George Patton


McGripper 54M

9/19/2014 5:49 am

If it's from a hippy it's all groovy!
If from someone else not so hip and happy, raise the red flag, lock the door. But rest assured, it's not the nutter on the Internet that creates a panic. The burglar in your cupboard, they can be an issue worth panicking over!


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