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asianat2008 69M
3955 posts
2/21/2015 7:52 pm

In current casual relationships and datings, man and woman both try to behave in a nicer way. So, considering the long relationship that is no way helping us.
Man is the bread-winner and woman his permanent companion. Her roles are vital to play. She has to be his wife for company and sex, his sister as a well-wisher, his mom as epitome of love and serving and preparing food and taking care of him.

I wish You all the best and You are my love dear Tyza. Hugs.

Self-respect is the corner-stone of virtues.


badboy45377 70M

2/21/2015 8:04 pm

IDK. The question appears posed as a vanilla woman would ask IMHO.

I think it's more dependent on the connection instead of the number of times they've met.

My sub asked if she should play hard to get or be more of a challenge.since we clicked immediately. I said that's vanilla. Games, deceit. If she likes sex, she's a slut. In the lifestyle, isn't that appreciated., that a woman/sub has sexual appetite? I sure do.


badboy45377 70M

2/21/2015 8:13 pm

Further.
I saw the "Power of the Pussy" on Amazon and couldn't resist downloading. Kinda like intel on the opposition...lol. Very vanilla, very conventional.

The author said NO SEX with a man you really want for 60 days. No oral, no handjobs, NOTHING...need to drive him crazy. But OTH she sez the woman should have at least one FWB. a vibrator.etc. hehe'

Badboy


DancingDom 74M
22444 posts
2/21/2015 8:19 pm

I do not thinkthere is any hard and fast rule. As someone else said above, it may be just a situation where both parties want to have the physical interaction.

I have been there with the just sex stuff, and those women did not always have an expectation of anything but the sex. Sometiemsit turned out to be more. sometiems, we had known each other and not really dated. There were first date physical interactions.

Ther were tiems when I was interested in a woman and it was months before we interacted physically.

In this day and age, waiting for some committment or a waiting period simply does not make sense by some social guidelines. It really is up to the parties involved to determine what is right for them.

Some folks supscribe to releigious or other guidlnines. Even waiting till after they are married. If it works for them, so be it. Personally, I would not want to have the complicatiosn of marriage to find otu after that the ther party was not compatable for physical interaction.

Frankly, I see marrriage as a concept that is befitting for raising a family or when the parties are compatable and want the security that is offered finacially with a marriage contract.

I am more concerned about compatability now days than marriage contracts. Committment does not need a piece of papaer. But I would think that if I have a partner I want to spend the rest of my life with, in the end I would marry her for the finacial security it affords both parties.

I am not overly interested just a roll in the hay. I would only have sex with someone I cared about, respected, trusted and yes loved. Does that mean if we had sex that we ostensibly bound to be with each other. Not for me. Again, if it works for others to have a contact bidnign the parties together finacially in order to have sex. That to me is in a weird way a kind of prostitution.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


skorpius18 71M  
1342 posts
2/21/2015 8:24 pm

For me, from the very beginning.


DancingDom 74M
22444 posts
2/21/2015 8:53 pm

"Seriously I think I been going out with the wrong men.... Yeah I know it's cause I'm I'm regular dating sites... I shouldn't be as most if those men don't even know this lifestyle exist.... But I guess I'm hoping and therefore I'm looking in more than just one place you know."

It does not matter what dating sites your on. Be patient and look for guys who are regular and have a variety of interests you share, have similar values, are consistant, treat you respectuflly, are kind, considerate, have a sense of humor and are not jus focused on BDSM play, sex or any one aspect. Be opened minded, there may be decent guys, perhaps a vanilla guy will ring your chime, perhaps someone very kinky will open your eyes to possilities if you allow it.

Just plan on interacting with good people, look at dating as an oportuntiy to get to konw a person better and who you can share ativies and iterests with. You never know when you will meet a person who would be fun and compatable. Maybe even in the supermarkets when your decicing on what to get at the deli counter. Look back at the guys looking at you. You are an attractive young lady. On eof these days.somoen is gonna sneak up on you and make you smile.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


DancingDom 74M
22444 posts
2/21/2015 9:09 pm

Respect and sex. I keep thinking about this and its keeping me up late. Having sex, can be jsut that. And activity that the parties voluntarilly engage in for thie own satisfaction. It is a physical act. There may not be any expection by either party for anything other than those activies they engage in.

That old addage, "will they respect you in the moring". That is in my mind tied to the old releious and social conventionsthat you should not have sex outside of marriage. Some still subscribe to that, but the bulk of society does not. Nor have they really adhere to in the the past either. children out of wedlock has been going on for hundreads of years. So have people been cheating for the sake of having sexual desires met.

Respect........there are women I have had relationships with and a few that I only had sex with. Includign threesomes and such where I was not married to the parties. In some cases those threesomes werewith married couples. Do I disrespect them automatically if I do not have a long term relationship?

Respect is respect, you respect a person becaseu they ae the person they are with qualities like being honesty, trustworthy, loyal, courtesous, inkd, helpful ...........and such.

Now there are folks, who have agendas to have sex, they will say and do things to gain acces to your body. They are using you, being manipulative, flat out untruthful for their personal satisfaction. They don't care about you in the long run. They are the ones who are not respectful and considerate of your needs and feelings. I call them asshats.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


badboy45377 70M

2/22/2015 3:18 am

    Quoting  :

Clarification if she is known for liking sex in the vanilla world she is called a slut


lastguymn 56M

2/22/2015 5:11 am

Not a stupid question, just a complicated one. I've had partners who I've had sex with on the first date and one who I never got more than a very sweet kiss from, and I don't feel like I respect either type of partner any less than the other. It's hypocritical to not respect someone for having sex with you...if such an act is so disgraceful, why isn't it so for the guy himself? Any guy thinks less of YOU for pleasuring him is an idiot.

There is no universal right answer for when to bring sexual intimacy into a relationship... When it feels right for both you is the right time.

~LastGuy

"It's great to be here. It's great to be anywhere." -- Keith Richards

"There are many spokes on the wheel of life. First, we're here to explore new possibilities." -- Ray Charles


sedaliadoms 60M  
6 posts
2/22/2015 12:44 pm

personality


jdmhab 71M
1234 posts
2/22/2015 2:53 pm

not an after , it's until , the first lie


DancingDom 74M
22444 posts
2/23/2015 1:52 pm

OK,I did not stay awake, but should have said this right off. I am not going ot have sex wtih anyone I don't respect in the first place.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Love_Master_1000 75M
232 posts
2/24/2015 12:35 pm

I'm old fashion in some ways. I believe that the timing is dictated by both parties. I truly believe that when the time is right, the sub will let the Dom know. Besides, the excitement will grow each passing day!

HUGS


advent43 67M
3 posts
2/25/2015 11:16 am

I've never disrespected a woman who was willing to make love soon after meeting, it was just the right time for both of us. I've also waited as long as 6 months for it to be right and in both cases, the result were long term relationships. I respect women and people in general unless they do something to change that, like being dishonest. For me, it has nothing to do with sex, it's about the person.


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
2/25/2015 4:11 pm

Yes, it often seems that way, dunnit, C?



A lil bass-ackwards as usual, suppose I said it's Disrespect Eye feel is earned.

Imagine that we all Un_Learned some really illogical, Un_helpful shit (most men do not respect a woman he beds the same night they meet...Ugh!)

Lets' say that teh idea and application ofa universal yardstick seems damned appealing and long long overdue.
I appreciate you.
Nice job!
BD~
P
xos

Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


edwardoyk 76M
2 posts
3/8/2015 6:40 pm

It depends on the person and what feels right.



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