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lastguymn 56M

7/5/2015 12:18 am

I think it all comes down to moving slowly and carefully, paying close attention to consistency and reliability in communications. References don't always tell the whole story, and really, they can be trumped up and as fake as anything else. I think it's best to expect that it will take some time to really get to know someone and not to let fantasy and desire cloud your better judgment. Meeting someone local is the best if that's a possibility—long distance brings with it a host of other hurdles to conquer—but even when you meet someone through a munch or other local even, you still need to do due diligence to ensure they are who they say they are. Few people can keep a lie going very long without tell-tale slip-ups popping up...it's always good to keep a clear head to look for those.

~LastGuy

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JayWolf 60M
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7/5/2015 1:03 am

Your best bet is always extensive in-depth communication. Keep asking questions, most bullshitters will slip up sooner or later (and if not, they at least deserve brownie points for their roleplaying skills). Plus, you might want to schedule your first meeting in a public place.

But the truth is, you can be associated with someone for years, and still get surprised by certain aspects of their life or character.



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