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Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
3/25/2015 7:53 pm

Mm.
What a thought-provoking read, Pyx. Ku-damn-ds to you!

Vlad said that [we're all continuously changing...] and I reckon that's true enough, just ~ in the same breath, for some of us, it sure doesn't feel like we are while we languish in a crevasse-sized rut, often with others lingering nearby to ensure we stay there.

Annnd if you are effectively initiating positive Self-change, then I think I can relate to that feeling of strangeness ..wherrrrrre everyone gets to reacquaint themselves with who you're evolving into.
YOU get to reacquaint yourself with you're transforming into. yes?

I think that's natural, anticipated...I think that's ok, I think you're Ok.

And Helz-Damn-Belz, I absolutely believe we can always learn & be more as well as think and feel differently...just for US.
Powerful shit here. You said and shared a lotta good shit. (Many of us can't or won't).
Impressive.

BD~
YUDD
P
xoxoxos

Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
3/25/2015 8:14 pm

PS

And OH~
I din answer your end-questions ~

So, whether for a long time or a short one, what helps you stay upbeat or motivated during those times when you feel a bit lost, lonely or in unfamiliar ‘change territory’ so to speak?

When I've felt that way, what seems most effective with me, is to have...

[A place to bring whatever troubles me and KNOW I'll NEVER be judged or found lacking......someplace soft to Land.
Wind for my wings if I need it....
a quiet soft voice of encouragement......and
a kick in the pants if necessary...] Spikes_Kat, paraphrased)

Or when others seem to empathize with words or gestures in ways I believe and can appreciate
[Alanis Morissette - You owe me nothing - watch?v=H2ixyDHorqU]

When alone, isolated, then soft music can save me...it produces alpha waves, diminishes the beta and theta waves, allows me the headspace and opportunity to heal, regain my equilibrium at my own pace.

++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
What helpful things do you do (or tell yourself, or try to remember) when you’re up against uncertainty?

I ask myself what I actually want, and then the 'how' of I get there, the 'where,' and the 'when' of that question as well...which gives the question overalls to wear.

I reflect on it until I'm satisfied that no additional answers're gonna come, then I shelve the shit entirely until another time. (Rumination, thinking endlessly about anything, will kill me.

Voltaire, I feel, was wrong, as in, not only will sustained thought not solve problem, but can give you a robust headache to go along with the unsolvable problem.)

Great assed post.

BD~
P
xoz

Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
3/25/2015 8:16 pm

    Quoting  :

Katie!

I was just now thinking about you...


xx

Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
3/25/2015 8:18 pm

    Quoting  :

"You've got to define yourself...the more you actualize yourself the more you threaten people who aren't making the same effort to grow that you are."



Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
3/25/2015 8:25 pm

Mm.
You added a pic.
raising your mental and physical hem Works!!!


Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
4/5/2015 2:37 pm

Always change for yourself. When your trusting in someone special, trust them the help you improve in a manner you desire.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"



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