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DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
11/4/2016 9:50 am

Being older, I think the later is is more true.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
11/4/2016 10:41 am

If you have the ideal sexual partner who is constantly available to you, you have achieved the ultimate desire. There is no need for pursuit and no need to do "everything" sexual or for everything you do to be sexual. You can do what pleases you and your companion sexually and be a more complete person aside from your sexuality.

If you have not achieved that nirvana, you have no choice but the pursuit unless you can accept solitude. Even then, those who lack multiple interests will find themselves less sexually attractive and thus sexually unsatisfied.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
11/4/2016 12:15 pm

    Quoting DancingDom:
    Being older, I think the later is is more true.
Again, at my age, I need less salt, less drama, less sugar, wish I did not have to take the medications I do, disease I sure as hell do not need. I do admit at time I crave salty or sweet tings. But not much. Do I seek out sex...........although this is a sex related site, I have had plenty of sex in my life. I also know I can live without sex. What I do seek out is companionship. If it add in sex...........well I will be hapy aobut that too. As you age, you learn you do not need sex to live. But it does make it more enjoyable.

I noted your comment /question in your followup to Taximan. "Is love a sexual expression?" My reply to that would be, Yes, it can be. But sex can be a biological drive when we are younger. It can be an expression of love. We surely do not have to love a person to have sexual activity.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
11/4/2016 5:44 pm

Actually, the question was, to be kind, "inelegantly" phrased, which is probably why you think so many people have strayed from it. I frankly couldn't make sense of it, so I tried to rescue it. DD, being smarter than I, and probably having been down this road before, gave an answer that didn't require that he understand the question.


msfunfor 63M
10618 posts
11/4/2016 5:52 pm

hello bristly ,
so he wants to fuck whatever and calls it liberation....hm,,,,,been there
done that .
i think if you "play" along you will find more often than not that he'll be
sexual with you . sometimes it just takes a hall pass without
ever wandering out .

be good
(or at least try)
M

.


Sucker4Ever 112M
6750 posts
11/5/2016 6:59 am

I'm confused. I confuse easily. Anyway, it's time for me to go masturbate.

I believe that while I am not debt free, salt free, fat free or drama free, I am cheap! But seriously, for once . . I feel that I am sexually free because the only thing I desire and pursue, is a hand date! And as for this site, you're right, at least as it pertains to how I look at it. "THIS is really a FANTASY SEX SITE."I am not interested in meeting anyone; I'm just having some freedom fun.


“Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.”


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
11/5/2016 7:52 am

    Quoting DancingDom:
    Again, at my age, I need less salt, less drama, less sugar, wish I did not have to take the medications I do, disease I sure as hell do not need. I do admit at time I crave salty or sweet tings. But not much. Do I seek out sex...........although this is a sex related site, I have had plenty of sex in my life. I also know I can live without sex. What I do seek out is companionship. If it add in sex...........well I will be hapy aobut that too. As you age, you learn you do not need sex to live. But it does make it more enjoyable.

    I noted your comment /question in your followup to Taximan. "Is love a sexual expression?" My reply to that would be, Yes, it can be. But sex can be a biological drive when we are younger. It can be an expression of love. We surely do not have to love a person to have sexual activity.
I enjoy the banter too. I would surely like to have more banter with you. Directly via e mail or phone, telegraph, semaphore, smoke signals, phone or maybe one day face to face.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
11/5/2016 11:07 am

poisoned_harlett replies on 11/5/2016 6:36 am:
Thank you for trying to rescue me...

p_h

Since, as you point out, your post isn't about you, "NONE of this is about me personally just food for thought" I was just trying to rescue the question, not you. You, lovely lady, do not appear to need rescuing, at least not the kind that I can provide in conversation.

I do sympathize with your observation that this is, or at least seems to be becoming, a fantasy site. I'm not opposed to that if it would at least be a good fantasy site. Unfortunately, it doesn't measure up on that score either. I was once one of those who used it as a fantasy site, posting almost novel-length erotic stories in my blog and the magazine No Way Out Belle de Jour Jenny. I had plenty of company then, and most of the authors were pretty good. Now even that seems to have slid off the rails.

I feel sorry for those who can't find an actual sexual connection here. I realize it is exasperating, but even I have managed to use it with some modest success, albeit with more difficulty than when I was a premium member.

You will occasionally find someone here with whom you can strike a responsive chord. When you do, I urge you to follow up the connection. Not everyone here is a poser.

namaste~


bdst1 63M
703 posts
11/5/2016 1:51 pm

There is not a correct answer because it is both a relative concept and depends on context. In an open minded liberal society there is more sexual freedom than in an uptight religious, restrictive or authoritative one. So, let us suppose that a particular society itself allows full freedom of sexual expression without criticism or judgement. People are then free to have the kind of sex they want. Is this "true" freedom? Well, only for people who themselves are in a positon to be fulfilled (either because they can fulfil themselves without company, or by having sufficient access to suitable partner(s). Otherwise it is a theoretical freedom, but with practical constraints. Society may be free, but individuals may or may not be able to exercise that freedom. Is your friend "free"? I would say quite possibly; even though he has desperate desires, he is free if he is able to fulfil them.

Incidentally, the word "free" as in salt or drug-free (meaning it does not contain any) is not the same "free" as in freedom of expression (which clearly doesn't mean lacking in expression, quite the opposite, it means the ability to express yourself however or whenever you want). Sexual freedom is about freedom of expression, not absence of sex.

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bdst1 63M
703 posts
11/7/2016 3:39 am

    Quoting bdst1:
    There is not a correct answer because it is both a relative concept and depends on context. In an open minded liberal society there is more sexual freedom than in an uptight religious, restrictive or authoritative one. So, let us suppose that a particular society itself allows full freedom of sexual expression without criticism or judgement. People are then free to have the kind of sex they want. Is this "true" freedom? Well, only for people who themselves are in a positon to be fulfilled (either because they can fulfil themselves without company, or by having sufficient access to suitable partner(s). Otherwise it is a theoretical freedom, but with practical constraints. Society may be free, but individuals may or may not be able to exercise that freedom. Is your friend "free"? I would say quite possibly; even though he has desperate desires, he is free if he is able to fulfil them.

    Incidentally, the word "free" as in salt or drug-free (meaning it does not contain any) is not the same "free" as in freedom of expression (which clearly doesn't mean lacking in expression, quite the opposite, it means the ability to express yourself however or whenever you want). Sexual freedom is about freedom of expression, not absence of sex.
Of course you're right, freedom needs to be constrained by society's rules, unless there's anarchy but even then freedom is an illusion for most people. That is why I said it is relative and contextual. To take it to extremes, if I have a desperate need to be free then by your definition I can never achieve it because I am always driven by that need. But we are human and can never be free of needs, wants and desires. That does not mean we can't find enough freedom to feel free, which is what is important here.

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