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badboy45377 70M

3/21/2015 11:00 am

Although it's hard to give an opinion based on a single blog entry, you could be an Alpha female/Submissive vixen. You describe a lot of Alpha qualities that are noted in the vanilla world. But, in turn, you describe a need to submit....things I know from the D/s relationship I am in.

The problem is you will likely attract needy wussyboys who want you to Domme them which is 180 degrees opposite of what you want. And having had this experience again and again it is hard not to reject everyone.

It will take a Dom who is comfortable in his own skin and confident in his abilities without being a jackass...giggle.

I hope he knows how to approach you and whispers "Even good girls need spanking occasionally." and "No one has taken the time to know you especially the inner you."

Just be open when he does (and throw the net over him...rofl)

GL
Badboy


badboy45377 70M

3/21/2015 1:21 pm

Vivan
Yes, you are at the site that I use as a pattern...why reinvent the wheel? I knew all the things I wanted to do with a sub...I knew I was never going to be a high protocol Dom with strong S/M tendencies. Doesn't mean I don't use some pain and spank, just enough to heighten the experience.

My sub simone326 is an Alpha female professional in her everyday life and writes about it in her blog. Her friends have had a difficult time accepting she is submissive. It is such contradiction on the surface.

Badboy


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
3/21/2015 8:43 pm

First, let me say that there is no one label that can define your or anyone else in this so called lifestyle or in vanilla life for that matter. The person that you are now, will be different ten years form now, twenty years or in two months. We may basically be the same person but our life experience hones who we are. At this moment you are a young woman with quite a bit of life left to experience.

Being submissive or dominant in your interactions with others is always in a state of flux. The only entity, that may exist that is 100% dominant is God. Other wise each of us is submissive or dominant to other and situation. When your a child, parents are dominant, later in life, you may be dominant to them in various situation. You could be submissive overall in a marriage, but at various times be dominant because of the other parties health or work stress. As you rise up the corporate ladder or if in the Military you may rise in the ranks. Unless your Commander in Chief, your dominant and submissive. Label only work well for Libby's Libby's Libby's (you might be too young to get that reference)

You will find guys who you are responding too in a submissive manner. You will find other who respond to you in a submissive manner. You will find guys who are asshats and those who have a hat size too big for their head.

The fellow you described, he is in how he acts more of a domineering sort in his words and actions. That is not acting in a dominant manner. In fact, when one is dominate, it is not an act, it just is. Your personality, your words, actions and manner well elicit an appropriate response in how you interact. Just be you and always remember, a submissive (kind of a shorthand you for an individuals uniqueness) chooses (consciously or un-consiously) the partner. Well actually in the end it is mutual, lets just say you have right of first refusal.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


tahimikdrifter 53M
8008 posts
3/21/2015 11:07 pm

Dom or sub? No matter, its relationships that make us yearn or suffer frustration.

Keep chugging along.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
3/23/2015 6:53 pm

Erotic angle make a good point. Those "submissives" who are submissive at the drop of a hat to any one who is or claims to be dominant do not hold much interest, at least for me. Their " submission" is not as valuable and cherished as she describes about here relationship and so man others.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"



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