Close Please enter your Username and Password
Reset Password
If you've forgotten your password, you can enter your email address below. An email will then be sent with a link to set up a new password.
Cancel
Reset Link Sent
Password reset link sent to
Check your email and enter the confirmation code:
Don't see the email?
  • Resend Confirmation Link
  • Start Over
Close
If you have any questions, please contact Customer Service

Talos2013 60M
7 posts
11/20/2014 4:24 pm
Shifting Perception


The term sub means less or below it comes from Latin as many of the words within other languages do, words have more than meaning they have a power of sorts to clarify or cloud the understanding of what is. Often words and combinations of words are used to objectify, rationalize and justify how others in life wish to think. It is easy to work backwards and pick and choose what Wwe want to believe, you only have to select as truth what is within your understanding and reject what is not.
This has been done thought the ages, in both communities groups and within individuals, and within the Lifestyle one of those perceptions has always been the root of the name submissive, being lower or less than a Dominate.
Really Dominate mean One who has Domain, or power over and that is a far better understanding that seeing a submissive as a lesser person or worse a lesser being that a Dominate. It sometimes is easy to bring that conclusion forward, seeing how much a submissive will do will endure for their One. Only in a quizzical way a submissive does all she does for herself as much as her Dominate.
Submissives are not timid creatures, they are soft pliable adaptable, then need safety protection, but that does not mean they are incapable of looking after themselves only that they are better off within a positive pair bonding of a D/s.
Wwe all know the term topping from the bottom, a situation that arises when a submissive is not getting there need fulfilled and actively seek out that need thought direct act or direct omission. submissives do not roll over in regards to what they are, and I think many forget that submissive to One does not mean submissive to All. A submissive can for a time submerse , and yes I used the “sub” word here on purpose, their need down, push that need away and su(b)pplant it for the desire of Another, this will for a time fill the void that is created when anyone gives up or gives away what it means to be them.
And doing so is not a bad thing, cleaning the slate so to say is always better than trying to draw over, that makes things confused to the view, to many lines intersecting and trying to murk out the meaning. But needs in all of Uus are real and have impact if they are left, the old adage idle hands are the Devils workshops, well it is not so much hands but idle needs do cause behavioral problems.
Now there are many things that cause behavioral issues, temperance, pressures of life, pressures of beliefs, pressures of reality, finical pressures. The world is heaped with them and submissives being creatures of high emotional intelligence often become trapped within the needs of Others and forget themselves, in times of extreme or extended distress of any kind a submissive first impulses to push away, not because they don’t want need and enjoy the protection of One, but because they do not wish to be a burden to the One they respect and honor.
Wise Dominate’s know to weather these sub-tropical storms, and place the submissive back into the reality of what is, that no submissive is a burden to a Dominate they are the reason We are as We are. Every issue every dilemma should only ever bond the Dominate and submissive closer just as waves crashing on the shore blend the water and earth into each other smoothing over roughness until the two blend together.
In many ways this is a good analogy, the Master is the water the submissive the earth, a Master can blanket their shore, carve it and craft it. A shoreline is not a static thing, it moves grows, expands shrinks, and changes. It is a place of great diversity and life. Much like a how a living D/s is.
But when that shoreline is not getting the needed tides sweeping over it or when the tides are to frequent too high, the balance of sea to shore is lost and that creates problems. You might see the shore as inactive and the sea as active in fact the shore impacts how the sea is how stable it is. The two very different environments actually create a new one part sea part shore, as a Dominate and submissive effect each other to create more for each.
But back to our issue of what happens when a submissive is not expressing or being allowed or smiles being made to express their need. Lack or excess in most forms tend to destabilize submissives and as such they find ways to bring that stability back. They done assume control directly, they create situational control, by causing events to culminate in a end, that the submissive wants or desires.
Now there are two types of this control, voluntary and involuntary. It is important for a Dominate to know the difference, while the distinction might seem trivial the reasons are not. Voluntary control is also manipulation and should be taken in hand and stringently dealt with. I have a simple rule to deal with this, Rule 2 everything that is felt thought or perceived is to be communicated to Me. There is no need to manipulate to gain what My one needs, why as her Master would I take away what she need to be more for Me. That is like killing the goose that lays the golden egg, to have more you have to stabilize one, unless you are only interested in gain what you want, and then casting away what you have.
I have never seen submissive as a fast food style of enjoyment, but many submissive so and so there is the right type of submissive for the right type of Dominate, only for those who need is not like this, it leaves us questioning. We have to see that paths are different and seek to understand our needs and then understand another’s needs, not draw a line in the sand and say this is where all tides should come to.
That will never work, you have to work within reality and understand the give and take flow and ebb of life and Lifestyle. More importantly you need to understand that both parts of the whole are important, both sides need to be satisfied.
The flip side to submissive manipulation is involuntary, this exists where a submissive does not understand her own action only she is emotionally driven to them, acting out in order to be punished could be a sign of need of stabilization or needing more control, or less. It can be a complex web of impulses mixed with fears mixed with hopes mixed with dreams mixed with social and life pressures. Nothing is usually affected by a single event or issue; they all play portions of the whole.
Think of it like a movement of music, you have the brass the woods the percussions the strings, each is playing the same but also different styles of music to create the whole, and that music sweeps gains grows retreats, at times one portion is more aggressive, more forward but always there is in the background the other portions of the symphony.
Difficult yes but to a Dominate and more to a Master this is life, just as to a conductor the music at first is not right not balanced, and just like a conductor, not all that hold the baton will make the music sound the same. This is how it is with Dominates the same music but different interpretations different tempos, different crescendos but the same results, to inspire to enrapture. That rapture is a driving force, it is alive in submissives and Dominates to a equal level, submissives are better at putting their needs aside to give to others, and sometimes mistake this displacement in how a Dominate acts.
Dominates do not need to displace their actions, regarding a submissive when a Masters one is in need, that is what Our first priority is, there is not giving up anything to do this, We are here to meet the need, but not the want. There is a vast difference between need and want, what a submissive may want to do is not what a Dominate will allow, We can at times to reward one, but in general want is something a submissive earns. Needs are absolute because to ignore them does not create a want to be more, it create a negative flow. At times seas can strip a beach of its sand erode it away until there is no beach left. Ignoring a submissives needs is like this you strip away what you need to keep yourself stable as well.
Seas that consume the beaches become more unstable the life that flourished is pressed and often the zone that once held so much will become barren, no one seeing that would say the sea was being Dominate. Being Dominate is not about consumption, not about how much you can have, it is about how much is gained, how much more Yyou have. Masters build, create, expand, and as such have room for the more that is to come, Others that play along the edges tend to pull down in a attempt to gain what they want, patience is a virtue and the basis of what makes a Master.
Of course submissive being real being strong, no matter how timid the need in a submissive is alive, it can grow in a negative environment cause all sorts of issues, or it can grow in a positive environment. That is will grow is without doubt, how it will grow, within or outside of a Dominate sphere of influence is up to the individual Master and how they embrace the fact that submissives are not timid, not less, not smaller, but the reason We are Masters to begin with


Become a member to comment on this blog