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msfunfor 63M
10617 posts
11/28/2014 11:25 am

essential !!
the shock and violence would be too disturbing
for average people so it's better to hug and cuddle
and sooth and pet . most people do it instinctively without even thinking about it
a very normal thing,,,i guess some sadist had to learn it and it was called
aftercare .
self-explanatory,,,,, sort of

be good
M


GAIJINGO 64M
263 posts
11/28/2014 11:27 am

From my experience, aftercare is kind of post-coital cuddling. The dom will usually make sure that the sub has some treatment for bruises or welts (a nice icepack), will massage strained muscles, etc. The sub will usually stay with the dom for the time it takes to come down from the adrenaline, shower and wash down the dom, etc. If the play is in a public space then mutual attention to cleanup is de rigeur.
It has always been a matter of shared care and responsibility although some doms have relegated it solely to the sub as a matter of role playing.


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
11/28/2014 11:40 am

A BDSM session can be unsettling, intense or overwhelming, even if little actual pain is involved. It's just sensible to end it with lots of affection and TLC, bring her down easy, in effect, and leave her feeling loved, treasured and appreciated.


badboy45377 70M

11/28/2014 11:55 am

Scenes with a sub can be very intense with pain AND pleasure. Pain releases endorphins and orgasms release other chemicals. As the sub is naked, body temperatures can flucuate (sp) widely and squirting orgasms can dehydrate the woman sub.

I make sure they have something to drink, massage their body with oil after I wash them with a warm washcloth, food, and wrap them up and hold them. Bring them down after an emotional, physical, and mental experience. Take a shower with them before we leave. Very, very important and reinforces our bond.


xntrick 59M
2927 posts
11/28/2014 12:09 pm

A good scene will elevate your endorphins and give you an intense rush better than any drug. The only bad thing about that is when you have to come back down (sub drop) to reality and that's when aftercare is needed. Both sub and dom experience this feeling but it is usually worse for the sub. Aftercare helps the sub get back to 'normal' in a comforting way, without it the sub can feel very lonely and depressed which is never a good thing.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
11/29/2014 1:03 am

Aftercare is first paying attention to any issues with the skin as noted by other above. It generally involves the touching and cuddling which is also noted by others, It is talking to the submissive,, it is a very close two way communication. it allows for the me natl aftercare. Phyiscal sensations can involve many chemical reactions and the body needs tome to adjust. Abrupt ending of scenes can leave the submissive and also the dominant in situations gasping for connection.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"



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