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slaaf85_91 61M
135 posts
5/3/2016 3:29 am
Being asked for extreme bdsm

Few days ago I met a guy in the gay sauna who catched interest in me, mainly in my body like he said. As he was touching my body allover, he asked why I let him do and touch my body, pulling my nipples spanking my penis and ass... other men did not let him do this he said. I admitted that I am submissive and masochist.

He asked if I would lick his cock and I approved and licked his cock. He started asking about my sm experience, what I already did, what my limits were, if I was single if I had family, if could deal with marks on my body after intense bondage, whipping or beating. He said to work in a hospital and to have plenty of medical equipment that can be used for torture but that he needs a submissive male who accepts to undergo his medical torture techniques. He mentioned I would be suspended hanging on a dildo in my ass, getting injection needles though my nipples, few other things that I did not understand exactly what to expect.

I felt so horny while I was giving him oral sex that I said yes and promised him to visit his sm room at his private address. What bothers me now is that he tried few times to get his hard cock into my ass while he played with me... although I insisted I should put him a condom if he wanted to have anal sex with me. He asked why not bare back and I had to push him away when I felt he was getting inside me. He finally ejaculated while I was stroking his cock with my hand. Once done I did not stay much longer, just insisted on the appointment to come to his private place: I promised it again.

Now I feel a bit worried, once i'm in his room I'll get tied, suspended or immobilized in some way, of course completely naked and totally exposed to whatever he may wish to do with me, if he really wants bare back, I'll not be able to prevent it. I've been taken bare back many times already although I demand safe sex. I hate the discomfort of the uncertainty the months afterwards, about having catched some infection each time a guy took me bareback.

I like the idea of undergoing hard torture, but I fear for getting used bareback with this guy. What should I do?

Me during an outdoors session on a private property

Being different from the majority of people as homosexual my pleasure is in being used by others...


likesmatureones 55M

5/3/2016 3:53 am

then you should just say no period to any of this... if you can't trust this guy to put on a condom then how can you trust him to discipline you...

There are plenty of good guys would there that would beat your ass...why settle for some guy that would put you at risk for Hiv or an std


slaaf85_91 replies on 5/3/2016 5:43 am:
Thanks. You are right, I should follow my intuition and not go to see that guy. By trying to penetrate me bare several times at our first encounter, I think he will do this again when he gets me tied and immobilized. Better avoid the situation, I feel embarrassed not to keep my promise to go to see him however.

eliza1234 49F
1301 posts
5/3/2016 9:26 am

My advice for what it's worth would be to stay well clear. Anyone who fucks you bare back against your wishes is r&ping you (believe the writing the full word will get my comment deleted). Trust and duty of care are key in a scenario like you described. Doesn't feel to me that this person can be trusted or relied upon to take your health and well being seriously. As likesmatureones says there are people out there that can be trusted you just have to find them and build it up over time. You take care. Xxx


slaaf85_91 replies on 5/4/2016 6:33 am:
You are right, I decided to ignore this guy. As I meet these men in a gay sauna, being nude and accepting sexual interaction some people see this as an open invitation to use my body for anything they dream about. My problem is to dare to say no, hence better not go to see the guy.

eliza1234 49F
1301 posts
5/4/2016 2:40 pm

I'm pleased you're come to that conclusion. An edge of danger is intoxicating but your overall safety and well being is the priority. I'm sure, in time, you'll find someone who toucan explore with in a consensual and trusted way.


slaaf85_91 replies on 5/5/2016 4:32 am:
When I was exploring my sexuality I was not aware about any risks. As young gay boy at 16 I had first sex with a boy friend. I tried with other boys but just masturbating together or giving oral sex. I search for anal sex and from my 18 as student I searched contact with older men. At 22 I still had no anal sex experience until my first visit at a gay club. I got a locker to put my cloths away, I assumed everyone had to be nude. Once I got in the bar, I saw other clients were dressed, half undressed or in underwear, I was the only naked one and the youngest of all, there I got my anal sex experience. My teenage look body catched much attention. I felt so excited and couldn't get enough. But when it started to get painful I didn't dare to ask to stop. When I finally refused more, they grabbed me and I got few more.It was my first time ever I saw a condom. When a guy asked if he had to use a condom, I was afraid for a condom and let several use me bare back being totally ignorant. Next day I felt miserable and had liquid diarrhea.
But I went back and got close with a young male prostitute and he learned me to protect my body. Like you define 'r-pe' , it happened many times to me in these gay clubs: for some guys that's the game: grab a boy and fuck him, the more you resist the more they like it. No complaining possible as they all say you ask for it when dragging naked in such a gay club.


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