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eliza1234 49F
1482 posts
7/5/2015 10:06 am
The choice


I met with a new lover a couple of weeks back and gave him a few new experiences. He'd wanted his boundaries stretched and he most definitely got his wish. One of these new experiences was his first ever flogging.

He'd told me beforehand that his pain threshold was high. Whilst he took it well on certain areas of his body, he struggled with having the top of his back flogged. He is heavily tattooed which may have had something to do with it. By the time I had finished with him the inked parts of his back were very raised and welted. Far more than the uninked parts.

The second time we met he said I could do anything I wanted to him other than flog his back. So I gave him a choice: he took 10 across his back or he had to give me 10. I could see him struggle with this. He's a giant of a man. He's very aware of his superior strength and, being a gentle soul, did not want to hurt another person. So he chose to take the 10 himself. This says a great deal about the man that he is and I think a lot of him for the choice that he made.

Being the girl I am though, I decided that he had to do the exact opposite. All in the spirit of stretching those boundaries further of course.

He hesitated for a long time before striking me gently 3 times. Not good enough. So I told him to hit me harder. The next couple had a bit more force behind them but again not good enough. I then told him if he didn't deliver the next 5 properly then I would make him cane me 10 times as well.

He got the message and delivered 5 more increasingly heavy blows leaving me with the bruises to show for it still 5 days later.

Much to his surprise, he found that after he'd got over his initial reluctance he was incredibly turned on by flogging me and now wants to explore this area further. I fear I may have unleashed a beast.

What have you been reluctant to try but found to your surprise that you have actually enjoyed?

tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
7/5/2015 11:01 am

My apologies, this is a bit random but did alt somehow swallow your post? I saw it in the list of new posts but when I wanted to actually come and read it, it was no longer there (I can still find it via your blog though)? The same happened to one of my posts (and I checked with someone else and they couldn't see it either). Maybe some people can still see it? Or perhaps it will come back?


eliza1234 49F
1301 posts
7/5/2015 11:55 am

    Quoting  :

Not something I have ever tried...I will add it to my to do list on your recommendation


eliza1234 49F
1301 posts
7/5/2015 12:03 pm

    Quoting tinkerfun:
    My apologies, this is a bit random but did alt somehow swallow your post? I saw it in the list of new posts but when I wanted to actually come and read it, it was no longer there (I can still find it via your blog though)? The same happened to one of my posts (and I checked with someone else and they couldn't see it either). Maybe some people can still see it? Or perhaps it will come back?
This site seems to have a few design features like that!


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
7/5/2015 1:36 pm

Having my toes sucked........first time was a surprise. I resisted it later, but have come to enjoy it immeasurably. but I twitch like a fish out of water when it is done.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


xntrick 59M
2927 posts
7/5/2015 1:38 pm

I was hesitant to slap a woman on her face. It took me a while to get over that limit and now I find that to be very primal. One of my play partners doesn't like the idea, maybe someday she'll want to try it hopefully.


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
7/5/2015 2:22 pm

And your post is back 'on the list' (mine ended up disappearing all together).

Regarding your original topic although I am a free spirit I did have to go through a mental process to decide whether or not I would like to share my Dom. It was interesting as I hadn't minded sharing previous partners and have even encouraged it. For some reason with him it was different, probably because of the D/s element. I am glad I thought it through properly and came to my senses. It was all good fun and I would happily do it again if the right situation arises. It bonded us even more or allowed me to get back on my Domme saddle.

(I am also thinking that perhaps I should encourage him to play with another woman by himself at some stage. It is lovely to feel so secure with someone to know these things can work out. I am just not sure that we are made for monogamous relationships.)


eliza1234 49F
1301 posts
7/6/2015 9:15 am

    Quoting DancingDom:
    Having my toes sucked........first time was a surprise. I resisted it later, but have come to enjoy it immeasurably. but I twitch like a fish out of water when it is done.
I find it tickles


eliza1234 49F
1301 posts
7/6/2015 9:18 am

    Quoting xntrick:
    I was hesitant to slap a woman on her face. It took me a while to get over that limit and now I find that to be very primal. One of my play partners doesn't like the idea, maybe someday she'll want to try it hopefully.
Yes that's one I've struggled a bit with too. More on the giving side than the receiving.


eliza1234 49F
1301 posts
7/6/2015 9:27 am

    Quoting tinkerfun:
    And your post is back 'on the list' (mine ended up disappearing all together).

    Regarding your original topic although I am a free spirit I did have to go through a mental process to decide whether or not I would like to share my Dom. It was interesting as I hadn't minded sharing previous partners and have even encouraged it. For some reason with him it was different, probably because of the D/s element. I am glad I thought it through properly and came to my senses. It was all good fun and I would happily do it again if the right situation arises. It bonded us even more or allowed me to get back on my Domme saddle.

    (I am also thinking that perhaps I should encourage him to play with another woman by himself at some stage. It is lovely to feel so secure with someone to know these things can work out. I am just not sure that we are made for monogamous relationships.)
Hooray! Thanks for letting me know. Hope your post reappears soon!

The sharing question is an interesting one. I've led a poly lifestyle for years and have grown to love my ongoing partners. There had never been any jealously and we were all very open about what we got up to and were comfortable with it. Then, like a bolt out of the blue late last year, me and a long term lover realised we were actually in love with each which I think is very a very different thing to loving someone. I was really interested (and a little worried if I'm honest) to see how this realisation would change the way I felt about him playing with others, both with and without me. But there has been no issue either way round. I think this is in part to the fact that we are confident in ourselves and the feelings we have but also as we have never been exclusive. I might have felt differently if we'd been monogamous then had introduced others.

I glad the sharing worked well for you both.



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