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jenny14 75T  
90121 posts
1/26/2015 6:33 pm

littlegirl

It is great to know what you want and I hope you find it peacefully and soon


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


badboy45377 70M

1/26/2015 8:04 pm

First GL in your journey.

There will be false starts and would be Doms. Take your time, trust your gut. People get married, knowing less about the other person, than we do in the lifestyle.

Have a laundry list of kink.

Have public meet and greets. You'll know a lot by how he conducts himself...shouldn't be any orders but a lot of suggestions of what He wants...grin

My sub and I hit it off so well from the beginning that she asked if she should play harder to get, to be a challenge...I laughed and said no. That's vanilla. play hard to get, try to trap the man into a commitment. Not very honest on either side.

she said in vanilla men love women who love sex. The men are admired, they are virle. The women are viewed as sluts. Not the kind of woman to bring home to Mom. she likes the honesty in the lifestyle...that she can enjoy and like what she wants and still be accepted.


maletramp 64M
2092 posts
1/26/2015 11:15 pm

You sound exceptionally well adjusted, curious and bright. Lots of such people have come into this realm and left changed. So, I would suggest a few very simple rules you'll find helpful.

1) Do NOT try to fit in. Be completely and always yourself.
2) No one but you owns the rules. You may in fact, and MUST, establish the rules that you want to play by.
3) Love belongs here, more than in the vanilla world, because the risks taken are greater and as it should be, the rewards are greater too. But love isn't easier to discover here, it is harder. Don't expect it otherwise. Find love first, or admit it is simply about sex.

Good luck



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