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tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
6/7/2015 4:08 pm

I have always liked older men. When I was on another side there was a man who was 20 years older than me who was looking for a younger woman so I ignored him as I thought he was looking for a young woman (and somehow I no longer considered myself as such). So as it happened he contacted me. I clearly young enough. Only then it occurred to me that he was indeed 20 years older so he could be considered quite a lot older than me. For me it was not an issue at all. I like maturity in men. (A shame that this particular man became a bit of a stalker.)

When I was 15 this 30 year old man was after me. Yes, he was 'only' 15 years older but at that age it was somehow more wrong!

I don't know how much older these teenagers here are looking for. Perhaps they are just thinking 5-10 years?

I am not a fan of the whole daddy scenario. It doesn't sit well with me. I have a father, who is my rock, so it just isn't something I am into but I can kind of see how it can appeal to some people. I don't consider myself as childish or needing a father figure. In the same way I would need quite a lot of persuading to dress up as a school girl (or a French maid but that is another matter). In fact, I doubt I could be persuaded.


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
6/7/2015 4:09 pm

By the way, I love the way you speak your mind. Hope no one gets offended.


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
6/7/2015 4:21 pm

    Quoting  :

You don't understand wearing a collar? Have you tried? Not trying to convert you or anything but for me wearing a collar I got from him is very special.


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
6/7/2015 5:21 pm

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Ok. I wouldn't want that either. I wouldn't wear a play collar in public either but my choker collar is another thing


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
6/7/2015 5:23 pm

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Indeed (but this person in question is still quite young so I hope she isn't too sensitive and doesn't take it personally)


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
6/7/2015 5:25 pm

Sorry Mixztrixz, your post seems to have a mind of its own (or us lot is going off on a tangent )


lastguymn 56M

6/7/2015 5:37 pm

As a parent, this was a kink that I, too, had a lot of problems with initially, but I have a very dear friend who enjoys the daddy/daughter dynamic, and through my friendship with her, I've come to understand it in ways I never appreciated before.

She, of course, is not some 20-something being pursued by men 30 years her senior. She's a grown woman who shoulders an incredible amount of responsibility and pressure as a full-time mom and full-time professional, but she finds comfort and fulfillment in retreating into the role of a "little," and calling her Dom "daddy" is an important part of that role for her. But that's all it is: a role...a temporary dynamic she enjoys with her Dom, and one that ends when they are outside their private time together. I may not understand all the motivations for her interest in this dynamic, but I refuse to demonize her for it. On the surface, it may look like some kind of inc*st fantasy (not sure that's a banned word here), but for her, it's not, and her desires are much more nuanced than what may be seen on the surface. Personally, I sometimes have a similar aversion to the Master/slave dynamic...especially when practices at its extremes.

I hope you don't catch a bunch of flak for this topic. I did a similar post a while back about the one kink that I can't come to terms with, breeding, and I was publicly skewered by several bloggers. Now I do everything I can to avoid negatively commenting on anyone's kinks...it got really unpleasant.


~LastGuy

"It's great to be here. It's great to be anywhere." -- Keith Richards

"There are many spokes on the wheel of life. First, we're here to explore new possibilities." -- Ray Charles


IAmMichaelURKnot 62M
14380 posts
6/7/2015 11:46 pm

"I firmly believe in whatever consenting adults do is their own business." Also: YKINMK.

There's Daddy/daughter roleplay and there's (much) older men pursuing (much) younger women. The former might or might not involve people with a significant age difference. The latter might or might not involve age play. It's possible that two people with a significant age difference might be together for reasons other than the difference in their ages.

Even if a significant difference in age is the kink-related primary reason two people are together, so what? Should it matter to anyone else if a 99 year old woman and a 21 year old man or a 99 year old man and a 21 year old woman ( or, for that matter, a 99 year old man and a 21 year old man or a 99 year old woman and a 21 year old woman ) are partners -- as long as the people involved are consenting adults?

It's possible that such a couple might be turned off by the mere 9 year age difference between me and my girl. Again, so what? As long as they don't attempt to impose their version of "appropriate" age difference on me we'll all be just fine.

The significant age difference isn't really my thing ( though I explored it both as a young man with older women and as a middle-aged man with a young woman ), but others are free to enjoy that particular kink regardless of my approval, my disapproval, or ( in this case ) my ambivalence. My life is neither negatively nor positively directly impacted by their activities.

"I'm with you on the developing world customs. However, what of the ones in this world?"

We live in an age when we regularly witness centuries-old customs being either completely abandoned or radically modified. As long as the people involved are consenting adults how is this any different?

I remember now.


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
6/8/2015 1:13 pm

    Quoting lastguymn:
    As a parent, this was a kink that I, too, had a lot of problems with initially, but I have a very dear friend who enjoys the daddy/daughter dynamic, and through my friendship with her, I've come to understand it in ways I never appreciated before.

    She, of course, is not some 20-something being pursued by men 30 years her senior. She's a grown woman who shoulders an incredible amount of responsibility and pressure as a full-time mom and full-time professional, but she finds comfort and fulfillment in retreating into the role of a "little," and calling her Dom "daddy" is an important part of that role for her. But that's all it is: a role...a temporary dynamic she enjoys with her Dom, and one that ends when they are outside their private time together. I may not understand all the motivations for her interest in this dynamic, but I refuse to demonize her for it. On the surface, it may look like some kind of inc*st fantasy (not sure that's a banned word here), but for her, it's not, and her desires are much more nuanced than what may be seen on the surface. Personally, I sometimes have a similar aversion to the Master/slave dynamic...especially when practices at its extremes.

    I hope you don't catch a bunch of flak for this topic. I did a similar post a while back about the one kink that I can't come to terms with, breeding, and I was publicly skewered by several bloggers. Now I do everything I can to avoid negatively commenting on anyone's kinks...it got really unpleasant.
I found this useful reading too, thank you. I guess I can see why being a 'little' might be appealing. I have learnt to never say never though I think daddy/daughter play would never appeal to me. Daddy/little sounds a bit better but still not within my comfort zone at the moment. Sorry to hear that you got slaughtered for having an opinion. I have come to learn that even here certain things are better kept quiet (such as having an affair - oh well it is out in the open now). However, having had received so many messages of support and similar stories from others as a private messages, perhaps at times it is good to talk about some taboo topics and varying views. We are all different. There is no right and wrong.


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
6/8/2015 1:14 pm

    Quoting tinkerfun:
    By the way, I love the way you speak your mind. Hope no one gets offended.
Indeed. Keep speaking your mind. I find what you say intriguing. I like the fact that you are yourself. Nothing more. Nothing less.


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
6/10/2015 9:37 am

Fascinating, Mixz,

I appreciate you sharing this Peek into your Skull.


BD~
P

Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace



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