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twosharp2 79M
767 posts
12/6/2016 8:06 am

The most important part of your post: If you are comfortable, go for it.

Setting hard parameters is counterproductive IMO; e.g., first date/meet no kissing, no (sexual) touching, no sex.... They are valid goals, subject to override.

My own experience—I met my soul mate here on alt. We emailed extensively, and in depth, for a month with great intellectual and psychological compatibility. We agreed no sex on first meet. We met at a neutral site [IHOP restaurant]. I had told her to park where there were no building windows. I arrived first and parked in such a place with an adjacent open space. Upon arrival, she parked alongside. I opened her driver's door, liked what I saw, so leaned in and kissed her. Instant chemistry! It appeared she was braless; I had told her I preferred no bra or panties. I partially unbuttoned her blouse, gently fondled her breast and squeezed her nipple. She moaned in acceptance, so I gave the other breast comparable attention. I then lifted her skirt, finding her shaved and sans panties. I commented positively, then reached for her pussy; she opened her legs enough for access.

We then moved to my pickup which has a bench seat (no console). We played extensively in broad daylight, in the parking lot, for 20–30 minutes before going inside for coffee and snack. We sat side-by-side while we talked. Unconsciously, her lower leg was pressed hard against mine for almost the entire duration. We agreed to come to my place; we both knew we would have sex. In the subsequent email, she related, "You knew [sensed] what to do with this little slut."

That was the beginning of the most intense, best, most fulfilling relationship of my lifetime. Yes, we fell in love.


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7019 posts
12/6/2016 8:34 am

I am fortunate to have met and played with a woman on alt who knows me well enough to give me solid advice. So far she hasn't steered me wrong. It helps to get someone else's perspective.


drmgirl622 68F  
25880 posts
12/6/2016 3:17 pm

You are so correct about that patience. It can be so hard yet it does bring some perspective into the whole "meeting" that one. Even if your heart skipped a beat when you met that patience can, most often, make or break the deal.


twosharp2 79M
767 posts
12/7/2016 6:38 am

    Quoting drmgirl622:
    You are so correct about that patience. It can be so hard yet it does bring some perspective into the whole "meeting" that one. Even if your heart skipped a beat when you met that patience can, most often, make or break the deal.
Too much "patience" can lead to lost opportunities. When younger, I was socially naive and didn't recognize a woman's body language right away. That caused missed opportunities, both emotionally and sexually; they were ready but I did not know how to initiate.

I'm still not the best cue reader, but if chemistry seems to be there, I reach out and touch; I will respect, "No."



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