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tbird1970 65M
135 posts
10/15/2015 8:52 am

I would let it go and see if the sister brings it up again


LQQKing4NothinG 54M
182 posts
10/15/2015 10:45 am

First: You only live once and as long as nobody gets hurt,...it's something to consider. Doesn't mean you do it, but doesn't mean you automatically say NO either.

Secondly: In your mind, nothing has to be taboo and/or illegal. i am NOT saying you should do it, just that if something swims around in your head and get's you off, don't feel guilty about it.- so long as it stays in your head. HOWEVER YOU SHOULD NEVER DO ANYTHING ILLEGAL OR SOMETHING YOU KNOW YOUR ACTIONS WILL BRING HARM SOMEONE ELSE. But just because you think about something or fantasize about it, it does not make you a criminal. Think, fantasize, dream whatever you want, just don't let your thoughts turn into actions if it would harm anyone else illegal or not.

Third: IF your considering it, the best way is to talk to your sister and see how she feels about it. You could simply say that if an opportunity for a threesome came up, you might be VERY interested. Also remember, it's her husband, so if she says "NO",...then your answer is no and that is that.

Fourth: IF your going to consider a threesome, there should be some ground rules. Is it a one time thing or is it going to be something that may happen from time to time (who's birthday is it next week? Is it a nobody ever is going to know, if anybody sequels, the others will deny it, or is someone going to post a video of it the next morning and tell everyone they meet? The first rule of the threesome club is that if all three are not comfortable doing it, you don't have a threesome.

Fifth: Ground rules part 2- If there are things your not willing to do- say it before the clothes come off. And also is there an easy way to say "no thanks" and not hurt anyone's feelings or ruin the evening?

Hope this helps, if you have anymore questions, thoughts or concerns, shout them out!!! Good luck, let us know how it goes (lol,..or doesn't go, that's totally fine too!!!).


aldompdx 62M
1071 posts
10/15/2015 12:31 pm

1. Pursue ONLY if you want to have a long term 3-way relationship. As some other respondents express, a mere "fling" is not worth risking relationship with your sister.

2. If you seriously want a true sister-spouse triad relationship, then that is first about INTIMACY, not sex. Ask your sister, "what's the deal with hubby's suggestion of a 3-way?" If the answer indicates it was serious, then ask sister, "how far do you want this to go?" "Is this an invitation to move in and have a poly triad household?"

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likesmatureones 55M

10/15/2015 1:11 pm

okay..first off I can totally understand why you wanted it to happen. Just look at your profile and this scenario seems to mimic what your seeking.

But it is sorta like breaking up with a girl and then turning to your friend/co -worker for support. You'll quickly think " wow she and I get along so well why don't I just date her". Which may seem convenient...but your just poking the bear.

I learned two things in life...you do go bathroom where you eat and you don't date women/men that you work with.

Why? if the shit hits the fan and you do break up.. your gonna feel very weird around this person all day long.

Lets look at your scenario...let's just say you all do get it on and have alot of fun. That's a +++
But what happens if your sister gets pissed off at you one day or her husband wants a divorce and announces to the family that oh by the way you all had a 3 way.
Women especially hold grudges and will bring up shit like this from 10 yrs ago. People will use any ammo they have against you.

I would suggest you just let this one slide under the rug.. Chalk it up to the drinking and the husband just being a guy.
Your a good looking woman..the fantasy your chasing shouldn't be that hard to find. Supplement your desire with other people and let your sister/her hubby go.

Basically fish from another pier and avoid the potential landmines


Maxboston 68M
103 posts
10/27/2015 6:18 am

The truth is often said in jest, i.e., your sisters husband wanted it, however, you did not give your sister a chance to weigh in, which you should have, because he is her husband, and it's up to her if she wants to share him with you. Next time bite your tongue and let your sister weigh in before you chose your response... That said, there are always going to be unintended consequences, all three of you would be putting everything you each have at risk, and the odds of the unintended consequences turning out bad, far out way the chances of the unintended consequences being good... and through trial and error over time, humans have learned that, and that is the reason behind the social norms we practice today...


soeasy333 54M
4 posts
1/28/2018 8:46 am

my husband and my sister have had a 3 sum. it was the best thing we have done. it lead to many wonderful things.....



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