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drmgirl622 68F  
25880 posts
6/26/2016 5:02 pm

Submission to me is a state of mind. I so love the formalities of adoring the Mistress. Now if there came a time when play would not be possible I believe that she and I would be able to resolve it like adults. Yes, it is an important discussion to have.


sophis_id 60F
16373 posts
6/26/2016 10:14 pm

What a great question....I'm going to come at this from a two directions...all from my perspective as a submissive and a spouse who is deeply in love with both her Dominant and spouse....who happen to be one and the same.

The physical attraction we feel when we first meet is stunning, staggering and brilliant. We have always bee physical, carnal...and it is in my nature to be very libidinous. Me more so than he although his appetite is quite healthy. As we worked through that attraction we implemented 'play'if you will over time, but we were and have always been extraordinarily physical AND intimate.. We didn't start out playing...we started out loving but the D/s was always there if that makes sense.

If the withdrawal of physical intimacy is due to physical ailments, the lack is neither here nor there...it just part of life and as a spouse and submissive I am here to tend his needs as well he is to tend mine. If I couldn't perform he'd still love me and vice versa....never a second thought. And as long as we were both honest with each other we'd find a way to satisfy the other because well sex is not all genitalia...and well.....physical needs ARE important...even when one is 80....(I sure hope so!!)

Now, if over time one of us simply stopped desiring the other, withheld our physical selves because of disinterest, that is another story entirely. Physicality is an integral part of who we are, who I am. As long as we remain intimate (doesn't necessarily mean sex) its all good. But if the elements of physical desire and intimacy are removed due to lack of interest, why would anyone stay in that sort of arrangement? Prudence? I did that for 25 years and I regret 15 of them. Some people however are perfectly fine with less. I am not. Not anymore. Shrugs. Some might say go find a girlfriend or boyfriend....and to that I would say..if I have to find a boyfriend to fill that void...what purpose do W/we serve? One partner gets someone that meets whatever needs they desire and withhold...abandon that physical intimacy of their partner, abandon their partners needs?

Meh.....I've seen it happen often enough and for the most part (male or female) the submissive is unable to continue being submissive mentally or emotionally because their needs are NOT being met. D/s is a two way symbiotic thing, one side feeding off the other. If only one side feeds, the other side becomes a husk of what it once was. IMHO..

This was a great topic!
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MissLadywood 51F
6195 posts
7/4/2016 3:44 pm

Play for me is very import and it would have to be as important to the Dom
i would submit to.
As for illness effecting the play, i would find a way like sophis mentioned and stay intimate.
Its when there is no intimacy i think, that problems arise.

Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn


aldompdx 62M
1073 posts
7/5/2016 11:58 pm

A player has not truly surrendered.

A master of self has earned the respect of surrender by caring and sharing with empathy, rather than narcissistically using then rejecting a partner who can no longer "perform" adequately.

Consider the farmer who shoots the cow that stops producing milk.

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