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InderioMinx 54F  
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6/26/2016 3:54 pm

My 2 cents.
No, I don't think you failed her and quite frankly I do not think she failed you either. You said you were talking to her for the first time, so I would suggest that she perhaps went a bit far offering something off her wish list that quickly ~ unless you specifically asked. Of course I say this not knowing the length or depth of conversation and whether this may have been a natural progression. We will never know of potential matches hard limits unless we have the discussion. I'd consider it being a failure if the conversation was not had.

I have found with the subby boys that a good percentage of them are coming to the table armed with a wish list and make it known quickly. I cannot speak to the female sub percentage here, they are not my flavor. That behavior doesn't fly with me and as far as I am concerned, that just puts them in the column of a *do me* boy ~ claiming to be submissive just to get their jollies or kinks. I'm not a fetish delivery service and neither are you I bet..

The *hard as you could* issue is also problematic. To me, that just speaks of fantasy and perhaps some wank material for her. We had a conversation here in blogland a while back about something like that. I think Doc_Sonar initiated it. The sub does not know you... me or any other person they are *speaking* to online and to just ask something like that... they generally do not really know what they ask. I am smaller than you, but can inflict quite some damage. I've only let one person have it and even then it was not all out. It is not something I will even think of doing with someone I don't know for sure can take it and really knows what it means.

Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short



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