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What I want for myself, and everyone else on the planet, are psycho-sexual experiences that, way more often than not, bring joy, affection, intimacy, pleasure, loving communication and touch, warmth, laughter, perhaps an orgasm or twelve, contentment, bliss, and maybe even a few moments of ecstasy into our lives. Love, as someone once said, comes when manipulation and definition stops.
I want these experiences, these feelings, for any woman I'm fortunate to be with, and the person she's fortunate to be with (that would be me), whether a relationship lasts for a few hours, months, years, for a decade or for a lifetime.
~ Joani Blank, paraphrased
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I will go anywhere and talk to anyone for answers to questions, absorbing what I find useful and after satisfying questioning my Self, will disregard anything that seems irrational. *Shrugging*
With freedom, I’m simply compassionate, empathic, pragmatically optimistic, friendly, hedonistic, fortunate man-hoe, a humor-finder, and Unafraid of taking risks.
Welcome to the Well.
If you can imagine a place where everyone is encouraged to listen to and value ideas and comments made from perspectives that are different than yours, then you might also concede that we can all share in a gracious atmosphere here at the Well.
Breathing Deeply is a requirement in here – drama/bad theater Unwelcome; all else, optional.
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Essential, these; they are a vital part of Who I Am: ((LINKS))The Covenant (Reprise) [post 896665] 
Draw freely; come.
Peace
DOXOS/DOXFAM
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Recently, What's Made It Easy For You To Feel Happy?
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May 10, 2012 6:26 pm
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Reading today:
LovePantsJones, subrubbed, jenny14, gooeyfruitbat, lotusgazer, pyx, Aodhan_79, JeanGenet2005, molly_09, quietroar, pluckedpeach, galk, sasa_girl, ForDaddyOnly, maggielee, oziealt, JohnnyLightning, His_slave33, quietlylearning, WeightofChain, buddhalovestud, Scuddled, tatiola89, wickedsurrender, sophis_id, benoite, MellifluentM, JourneymanRob, daisygirl25, TheGentleD0M, 71GoneWilde, BostonBoi, & LilBit_UK
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"...it's reasonable to be miserable until you make it to where you want to be. Because if we keep resetting our goals and raising the bar, not being happy until we reach that
new height, we're never going to stop being miserable. And that's the goal, right, misery..."
-JediJessicah
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Have you ever woke up and just felt like, "Oh shit - it's morning - FUCK ME!” (because HelzBelz, it'll only get worse from here? And against your will, you start imagining a 'This is gonna be a shitty day' LIST that gets longer and longer until you force yourself to stop thinking about it?) Wonder how we could change these thought patterns should they ever come.....and sometimes they do.
No stomach for bad news or politix today, so...
What’s made it easy for you to choose to be happy lately?
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Realizing that you woke up, glad to be alive?
That you actually HAVE the option to be happy?
That you have at least one person who loves you in ways you can see and feel?
That you've managed to avoid things that you tend to let barbwire-flog your nerves?
That you have something or someone good to look forward to?
Did you remember some of those 'small' things, like -- Santa IS TOO, real, or your beverage of choice DOES TOO taste better in your favorite mug or glass, or faces DO TOO exist in clouds, or that pets DO realize when they look adorable in their outfits?
Did you share a laugh or reaffirming moment with a friend? Did someone ‘rescue’ you with an act of kindness or empathy - or a listening ear or a hug?
Were you Feeling Understood – (always a biggie!) - or feeling encouraged, or relaxed with things as they were at a given moment? Did you have feelings of thrill and anticipation?
Did you become absorbed in a fave activity, or feel super productive or pleased with an achievement? Did you feel physical or sexual stimulation & pleasure -- emotional fulfillment -- feelings of intimacy, warmth, self-worth & being loved?
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Unless there's some specific preventative (an emotional issue, or job loss, foreclosure, death, or some other catastrophe)...how many simple things could we do/think in our lives that would make it easier to fucking feel good ~ when we decide to give the emotion mental houseroom?
Of course, when you think long about this – even as you picture when you were last happy – (when you pay attention to a remembered pleasant thought, feeling, sound and then give it all of your attention) - It’ll be damned simple to feel that sensation and experience that feeling again right now.
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How underrated is Contentment - orrrrrrrrr the very idea that we can (oftener than not) choose happiness – choose un_misery?
Anyone think that - maybe a lot?
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How often do you find yourself choosing joy? What is the hardest part of choosing joy for you? Can a person even choose joy?
Breathe Deeply~
The world is full of people looking for spectacular happiness while they ignore contentment. ~Doug Larson
Love & Peace
xxx
PS
What if I said that I speak to your subconscious right now? Don’t no-damn-body need no doctorate damn degree to accept that a person’s conscious Mind -- can be jackass-stubborn concerning self-sabotage and dismissing simplicity.
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(Peeking In~) Is There Any Greater Weapon Than Kindness?
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May 4, 2012 9:42 am
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I'm solidly reminded that the massive majority of alt members choose not to blog. And if this part of the site was the lone source of interaction one had, it might easily give a person misleading impressions of how its typical members think and see.
Reassured, I settled in to read a book Bit gave me entitled, ‘the Universe’ by Tom Dooley, (Thank you dear!) Some things stood out as I leafed through it. I share some of it below.
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How strangely true (truly strange) is it that once a person sets their gaze on something or someone, or some idea - they decide what they will ‘see’... Good, bad, or ugly? Yet, even now, don't we think ‘it’ or ‘they’ have something significant to do with our feelings, moods – our beliefs, perceptions and actions?
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Suppose the only difference between a friend and a foe is that we've decided where love & kindness can grow and where it won’t?
Whereas we learn to (live without) marginalize it, what if I said that given a choice, there isn’t a soul on the planet that wouldn’t prefer feeling (loved) appreciated?
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What if I said that the simplicity of Kindness (read, a smile, a compliment, patience, tolerance, encouragement, mercy and compassion) belong in the arsenal of every (Time/Space Adventurer) one of us?
Today, suppose people began trying to crush, kill, and destroy the fears they encounter – in others and in themselves, where Kindness is the weapon of choice?
Imagine...
...A thing - (fears) - that universally needs (its natural ass whupped) a proper ‘seeing to’?
En garde.
Fears. In a sea of illusions and deceptions, how true is it that we simply have to change our worldview – our opinions and beliefs – in order to change our experience?
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IS there a greater (and less expensive and more beneficial) gift than kindness?
[“....once a person sets their gaze on something or someone, or some idea - they decide what they will ‘see’...”]
Is what we ‘see’ a mirror?
Breathe Deeply~
(Thinking is the ultimate contact sport and the greatest kink & turn-on.
If it’s complicated, there’s something you’re missing. Engage the Magic.)Peace
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Doc_Hiatus (#10) :)
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Apr 9, 2012 8:59 am
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.....I learn from everyone i meet, but its not just about that, I’m definitely also able to feel, and that mostly the main thing I would be glad to have is different possibilities....but I’m just as glad with the ones i have, so everyone should enjoy as much as he/she can, in his [or her own] possibilities...sometimes, i like reality, not the cheap taste of imaginings.....- Taleeena
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What if I said that every now and then, time away is good?
So - I take a short bail ~ from posting, [well, 'new' posts, not comments - those? I'll get to ~ maybe make...]
but will still read you all & reply to contact....
(I'll return ere long...Worth knowing...to some.)
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E. M. Cioran said that
‘...alone, even doing nothing, you do not waste your time...No encounter with yourself can be altogether [unproductive]. Something necessarily emerges, even if only the hope of some day meeting yourself again...’
Imagine.
Breathe Deeply~
Peace
DXFM
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Take The Covenant with ya'...
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Jayhawk Afterthoughts
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Apr 7, 2012 9:35 am
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The best team in college basketball is the University of Kentucky Wildcats.
The runner-up was the University of Kansas Jayhawks.
The Wildcats demoralized so many teams on their path to a national title. But Kansas had a confident bunch of basketball players who never let anyone do that to them, as proven by the late comeback on championship night.
This time, KU didn’t lose a game it ‘should've’ won. This time, KU won four postseason games it could’ve lost before facing a team that nobody in college basketball could’ve beaten.
They almost pulled another one out, too, missing out on a comeback you never would’ve thought possible (if you hadn’t seen this same Kansas team do it against Missouri at the Fieldhouse, Purdue in Omaha, North Carolina in St. Louis and Ohio State in the final four).
The fight never stops with the Jayhawks; they came up short, but I don’t think they lost.
I think maybe Kentucky just beat them.
I’m proud of and equally astounded by KU’s team.
And HelzBelz, maybe a part of me feels that KU didn’t get ‘beat’...instead, maybe the overachieving Jayhawks just ‘ran out of time’ while not playing well the first half... and just spotted them too many first half points for a Jayhawker, cardiac-inducing, luck-having comeback.
Yeah.
I can live with that perception.
Even so ~
The reality ~ is that Kentucky won the national title.
The hope ~ is that Kansas won a lot of hearts.
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Will return to regular programming soon.
Most of us aren't KU fans...noted...so - the World still turns – the sun still rises.
Breathe Deeply~
Peace
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Whirlwind
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Apr 2, 2012 6:32 pm
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Reading today:
brimmingover, sophis_id, willshare4fun, brentvance21, JJbs_remedy, jouet9796, sasa_girl ,hrtonsleeve, oziealt, zaftigcurves, Blanke Lustfee, salamandraslvbbw, __Niix__ , tatiola89, tfugit1, Words_wagtail, naughtyviolet, XeniaS666...
warmguy2329, wickedsurrender , aHedonist, Mature4Pleasure, good2go9, Major_cyn,BostonBoi, pyx, syzygy9r, FriendlyMark, buddhalovestud, sub_bbw_50ddd, hauntinglyblu, InderioMinx, givingpleasure2, and LilBit_UK
Thank you all.
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When you give a woman something to Dream about – to imagine – does it/can it provide
a greater likelihood that it can become so –
where often, the Reality can be as good if not better than the hope or the expectation? (Sadly, sometimes reality doesn't measure up?)
When you give her a challenge – how good are the odds that
she will rise to try to meet them?
What does it feel like -a woman drawing her will from the will of another?
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Streams of thought before Kansas plays for the national title...
UPDATE: WELL, MY JAYHAWKS CAME UP SHORT...JUST, NOW?...whenever I say I'll give some daunting task a "Jayhawk Try"...maybe you'll better understand the depth of effort I mean, proud of'em.
Mercy.
Calm - just - Jayhawker hopeful.
In any event............
Breathe Deeply~
Peace
Gonna watch now...
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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Appreciation – Reprising :) & a parenthetical word about the Jayhawks
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Apr 1, 2012 7:29 pm
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I did this – list who I read (on the day I post)- for a while long ago, & stopped.....wanted to try it for a spell once more.
Feeling/Reading today: quietroar, molly_09, Master's Missives, OceanStater50, His_slave33, WeightofChain, applebottomred, MellifluentM, cjunkkie, Aislin, Beaudalare_, GrowlyBear, JourneymanRob, maggielee, sjens, mistress_n_pain, quietspring1, gooeyfruitbat, gardengirl, Veryleggyredhead, mncowboy81, Taleeena, tsarah, ForDaddyOnly, Honeysuckle71, SylviaSoulier, missshelby101, galk, kittykitty126071, GoneWilde, lotusgazer, jenny14, bbl_btt_hntr, 2ndTimeHere, benoite, erotic_angel, mysweetthrill, quietlylearning, MistressKimm, and LilBit_UK
Thank you all.
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I love connecting with people. Reading them is a good way to begin.
However, what if I said there was a greater Joy?
.... after a dry spell for whatever reason (– life, issues, difficult times, good times, grief, money, ennui, etc.-) that RE-connecting is pure bliss?
Whether they’re full-fledged or developing, I feel fortunate to have the connections, friends, acquaintances, Patients, and other significant ‘Un_s’ and others that I enjoy here and outside of this site.
Whereas it’s not necessary that you agree with me right now, sometimes, do you ever find that the simplest reality is that it’s good to acknowledge the Peace and Contentment that being around accepting, tolerant, or empathic others provide?
Unquestionably, don't those people provide Psychological Air to Breathe?
I appreciate you all. Thank you - use The Covenant, and
Chill well.
BD~
Peace
(Repost, revised)
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Quotes of Power (from Alt Women) 10
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Mar 31, 2012 3:00 pm
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I do these–because there are so many brilliant quotes..
I like’em And I Love’em All.
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...It's unempowering to hide the sexual side of humanity... just for money. I feel capitalism compromises individual identity. Until the immoral, bad view of our erotic nature is changed to positive, expressive and healthy we are living in Nazi Germany, labled by the hypocritical blitzkrieg.
Change takes inspiration... fueled by furious frustration over limited personal freedoms! I hope this is a platform for the future generations to be proud of their sexual expressions, and not have to hide for fear of public persecution.
-aKeyBitch:
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...I make no apologies regarding my liberalism and my attitude regarding the need for government intervention during troubled times. We needed the Federal Government to guarantee equal rights for everyone. We needed the Federal Government to mandate that people be paid a livable wage. Our country needed to be hit over the head to stop discriminating based upon race, sex, sexual orientation, and we needed to step forward and say yes, this is the right thing to do.
...I ask that everyone take a moment and reflect upon yourself and ask yourself not only what can you do for your country rather than vice versa, but also, what have you done to avoid governmental interference on our "freedoms" on your own local level.Pay It Forward. One Stone's Ripples Go Far. And stop listening to Rhetoric. There Is No One Right Answer. Stand Up and Think For Yourself-quietroar
(More Quotes Inside)
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Breathe Deeply~
Peace
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To Be Endlessly Curious (and questioning and content)
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Mar 31, 2012 12:16 pm
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Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
(We’re at my patio bar.....sipping our libation of choice....a jazz/soul/classical mix wafting..... soft enough to talk over – yet perceptible enough to soothe and move if the beat resonates...there’s more food if you want it...you’re keeping company wit James.)
Going!
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The best thing for me is the interaction with people I'd normally never have a chance to know.
I like to engage people through questions (among other ways in proper circumstances*WEG*)...and active listening is imperative, otherwise questions answered don't matter worth a damn, do they? (when we’re simply waiting for a speaker to hush so we can talk or persuade, etc...that feels like psychological suffocation to me...)
What if I said that I actually WANT to know about other people’s perspectives? About what motivates them - about how and why and what led them to perceive as they do?
Noteworthy, I have zero interest in persuading anyone about anything...and my simple reality is that whether you agree with me in particular or re: agreement in general -- both overrated. If I want agreement, I'll converse with a mirror. Interrogatory is god to me.
Just ~ I won't 'bait' you, as someone felt I was doing recently. I didn’t respond, but kinda' hurt my feelings. I've recovered; after all, how true is it that however a person Sees something, then that’s the way it IS?
SO -
Flame baiting - like Bad Theater - is anathema to me.
A person can depend on me to avoid baiting them, or goading /tricking/fooling them so that later, I can 'catch them' in an 'aha' moment, or some such shit. Same with re-posting IMs or emails, regardless. Strikes me as a NO.
Without exception, I don't bait or troll. And should it seem or feel that way, it's without doubt a misperception.
HelzBelz - Let's say I'm calm cool and collected, despite how anyone sees me as they read or imagine...Well...unless I’m watching the Kansas Jayhawks play (incompetent ) basketball...far below their abilities for whatever effin reason ..then...I get animated.....vocal...pissy... shrugging.
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If you, like me, more and more view self as a person with endless curiosity and a love of probing and newness and the thrill that accompanies it - then you might also understand the 'Self-commandment' that antagonizing someone - on purpose - is simply unin-damn-telligent...IF you want to engage - and I do--
-it's like saying "Fuck you, your no-good whoring mother, and the syphilitic horses you all rode in on" to your neurosurgeon... just before surgery – orrrr
telling your server at a restaurant that s/he "must be too stupid to get a real job- you can’t even get THIS one right!"
Good luck on that surgery – and NOTHING cold make me eat the food that arrived at that table.....
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On questioning.
Does anyone feel that questions – sincere, non_baity ones - let us learn?
And when we learn things, can't we pass it on? - can't we 'teach' if we want to?
And know what -- suppose one of the coolest things about teaching is that, for one, you learn against your very will - and for another, it (forces) helps us to reflect on all that's learned about a given topic, and mentally organize it whether you ever share it or not?
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While many think that blogging is a more narcissistic activity than other kinds of writing -- what if I said that blogging is all about community as well?
I like actively practicing doing it...While I have a trillion opinions, I rarely share them outright, preferring to hear other's...and here on alt, writing seems to reach a larger audience than say on other similar site....and I confess due to busy-ness/laziness/rationalizing.....
I stopped being the alt B-Day fairy/alerter...make fewer comments (condensed usually when I do), not so punctual on replies...and linking to other blogs that fascinate....I can do better I think.
Even so, every now and then I'll try to draw people into the same space that they usually don’t share...just because...does it makes sense to stroll out of our microcosmic cubes of comfort & belief every now and then?
And...turns out that the best part about blogging is what I learn from other people...and it has been in-damn-valuable.
When I say "Fascinating" or "I appreciate you", this is what I mean.
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And of course, as I’ve written all the above, the following bit keeps tapping me on my shoulder (other heavier stuff? I'm aware of...just - another time yeah?):
The Final Four.
The Kansas Jayhawks Play Ohio State for a spot tin the National Title game later tonight...to play the winner of the Kentucky-Louisville contest that precedes it.
As far as I know, no one gives KU (any!) much of a chance to win and advance - fair enough –
...still...if the underdog touches you in any way and provided you don’t automatically despise KU...I’d appreciate you even more if you joined Bit and me and pulled for these Overachieving, Underdog, (‘You-shouldn't-even-play-the –damned-game-because you’re –gonna- lose’) Jayhawks. Well if you’d care to of course.
There. I'm a hopeless Jayhawk - even though they test my (all KU Optimist's) heart as a matter of habit.
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...it's easy to imagine feeling many of you here along with the DOXFAM - M/F/TG ...feeling totally at home.
Been nice having you around...
Breathe Deeply~
Peace
Bit's gonna watch with me...any joiners?
img: my Maori bone carving from a cousin in NZ...this one, for Protection.
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Quotes of Power (from Alt Women) - NWHM (9)
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Mar 31, 2012 6:42 am
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Indiscriminately chosen and posted...I 'll do these a lot during the rest of National Women's History Month – and because there are so many – likely beyond.
I Adore Them.
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...Tolerance is something that grows very slowly in just about any context...Discrimination goes a lot of ways.
Maybe it’s a good thing to remember. Maybe
The Covenant
is a good thing to remind ourselves that we're all limited in our experiences. Maybe consciously encouraging ourselves to not judge is desirable.
If people of kink can't be tolerant of other kink, maybe we shouldn't be surprised at a lack of tolerance in the general population. A lot of it is what constitutes an appropriate presentation in public that does, as several have commented, go at least partially to what's appropriate for children.
Folks can't seem to come to a consensus on the appropriate limit of displays of non-kink heterosexual affection. Expecting them to do it for alternative sexuality is ... well, I'm not holding my breath.
-zaftigcurves
(More Quotes Inside)
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Breathe Deeply~
Peace
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If you have a pussy..............
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Mar 30, 2012 7:03 pm
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.......and I mean vagina AND vulva.........
..........what if I told you that counting yourself as a lucky-assed MF would be acceptable and understandable?
Because if you DO have one..................it means you are the owner of an incredibly sophisticated and Unmatched pleasure producing machine.
Just...does that also give you Unmatched Power?
Could be for some.
Could be Not for others.
BD~
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