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What I want for myself, and everyone else on the planet, are psycho-sexual experiences that, way more often than not, bring joy, affection, intimacy, pleasure, loving communication and touch, warmth, laughter, perhaps an orgasm or twelve, contentment, bliss, and maybe even a few moments of ecstasy into our lives. Love, as someone once said, comes when manipulation and definition stops.
I want these experiences, these feelings, for any woman I'm fortunate to be with, and the person she's fortunate to be with (that would be me), whether a relationship lasts for a few hours, months, years, for a decade or for a lifetime.
~ Joani Blank, paraphrased
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I will go anywhere and talk to anyone for answers to questions, absorbing what I find useful and after satisfying questioning my Self, will disregard anything that seems irrational. *Shrugging*
With freedom, I’m simply compassionate, empathic, pragmatically optimistic, friendly, hedonistic, fortunate man-hoe, a humor-finder, and Unafraid of taking risks.
Welcome to the Well.
If you can imagine a place where everyone is encouraged to listen to and value ideas and comments made from perspectives that are different than yours, then you might also concede that we can all share in a gracious atmosphere here at the Well.
Breathing Deeply is a requirement in here – drama/bad theater Unwelcome; all else, optional.
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Essential, these; they are a vital part of Who I Am: ((LINKS))The Covenant (Reprise) [post 896665] 
Draw freely; come.
Peace
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After the Fucking*...Then What? (or, The Sweetness of Sentimental Un_Sadism)
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Jan 14, 2012 12:41 pm
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(*Feel free to substitute this word with one of your liking...)
After?
I don't know...
Maybe (– inspired by the thin coverings Eye See -)
Maybe I try to avoid the splattering of My piss flying off you while I cane your restrained ass (after a sadistic ass-fucking – the best time for Me)?
Enfolding you while I cover your hooded mouth and nose (how overrated is breathing, anyway) and tell you your dirtiest most secret (Sonar’s_Warning!) fantasies with your vibrator fixed firmly, creatively, and cruelly to your throbbing, defenseless clit or cunt?
Watch your face work with your head thrown back - mouth stretched open - gargling urine (– a well-deserved reward for telling Me what you can't or won't do – and I’ll talk shit to you while I piss on you)?
Breathe.
Everything is okay...
(cont.)
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How to Come Easier Living in America
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Jan 7, 2012 12:28 pm
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You come easy?
Good.
Mostly?
Still good.
Issues/Depeds?
Well now.
Regardless, it might be good to read on...
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Supposing that the following are all true ~
Women living in cultures that expect women to enjoy sex are more likely to orgasm than those living in cultures that do not
Women living in societies which support their sexual expression, achieve orgasm more easily than women living in societies which do not
Women who report feeling guilty about having sex also report more difficulty achieving orgasm, and this guilt is probably largely a result of social perceptions.
Women who are told by society that sex before marriage is sinful are more likely to feel guilty about engaging in premarital sex than women in societies where premarital sex is considered normal.
In your opinion or experience:
1. Does our society expect women to enjoy sex - to view is a female as well as a male pleasure?
2. Do you or any women you know feel immoral, guilty or embarrassed about having sex or orgasm, whether partnered or self-induced?
3. Does American society encourage female sexual expression?
4. Is premarital sex typical in the US?
Is there a glass ceiling for female sexuality?
Breathe Deeply~
Peace
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What Some Conversations & Topics (Such as Cunt, Abduction/ Play, etc.,) Create
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Jan 6, 2012 5:40 pm
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OK.
The idea of an outline is a huge No, so, stream of consciousness it is.
Going!
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I love cunt.
And how unsurprising is it to learn that two (or more) as Eye see it are that much more intriguing?
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I like bi, bicurious, pansexual, or heteroflexible women. I like lesbians just as much, even if in a sense, we compete for cunt. Can’t blame them, yes?
I also get cravings to have women work/scene/play with other women, with other pussy (Clunge/Cunt), just - also get a thrill having them 'See To' their assholes as well; especially if it’s a soft limit, or if they’re inexperienced fantasists.
(You, like Me, certainly go through phases...simply wanting what we want - or Seeing how it goes.)
I like it when I orchestrate or even micromanage to an unprecedented yet stimulating extreme as well as I like giving them full Undirected sway - and the middle ground in-between.
I like it when the initial obedience, or willingness to experiment a soft limit gradually transformed into personal desire (lust) instead...it happens in stages, especially if one or both women don't identify as being bi or lesbian.
I like listening to what they say, how they communicate, how effective and encouraging they are to one and the other....
I like seeing if one or the other decides to lead...or if they have a secret power struggle...or if one decides to fight off the sensations to avoid embarrassment.
I like seeing how they finger or toy in this situation.
How they finger/toy one another side by side.
I like seeing which one becomes super aroused first - who (despite efforts to maintain comportment) shows the intensity of their relentless and inspired arousal.
I like seeing which can edge best (almost always edging is in the repertoire, a quick wank seems criminal)
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I like:
Watching them 69.
Holding the center of a double dong while they doggy fuck butt to butt ass-up lying on their tiddies. (“Who wants it Alllll...?)
Have them watch one another with well-placed mirrors.
Seeing their expressions change...watch them watch one another AND themselves.
Watching how they react to being watched (It's human nature to behave - differently when we're being seen)
Hearing them breathe, moan, vocalize, and especially instruct.
Taking note of the subtle distinctions of their scents of arousal
To touch body parts - orifices, unexpectedly - with my hands or other tools.
I like to inspire...create spontaneous challenges, dual dares or contests...appeal to their innate competitiveness and (since they're participating) their aim to please.
And after the edging (so many ways) comes the orgasms - shared, intense, and perhaps serial. And most vital --there comes the actual sanity-robbing cumming (created by >Gasp and Fuck< the attentions, passion lust and skill of another woman.
Seeing how they absorb and accept - like and love.
The variations, like the orgasms, are virtually limitless...and an Imagineer Utopia.
And then, even more choices when I include my Self...and trillions more when one or both are in trance - under erotic hypnosis...yet more if w/in the scope of abduction/kidnap/ /forced sex-orgasm play.
See?
There is always more.
What if I said that nothing is more fascinating than the female body and its responses as Eye See it?
Nothing.
Suppose this scenario is one that some women - it's not necessarily you - are deeply intrigued by, just, you will often deny?
If it is a soft limit, then I will certainly (push it) lobby for it. If you’re a woman and don't like cunt, fair enough. But if you do - or have curiosity,
(as in, discussing the possibility and hearing you giving off apathetic or Un_encouraging signals while simultaneously feeling your cunt, cunt-flaps or asshole throb and wet around my lie-detecting finger)
then perfect. Then, only patience & compatibility are required (forcing you to be with a woman you aren't attracted to is bad Theater).
(Etta James’ “At Last” plays in My head...)
And if you hate saying the word cunt, imagine having to say it before being allowed to orgasm – orrr – risk Creative Suffering?
Heh.
How deep or irrelevant would your (stubbornness) Self-hood be then?
If you're a woman, and your arousal edged upwards, good.
It can be secret if you like, as long as it happened.
Are you aroused?[/COLOR]
Sonar_Warning.
Demented/Cunt-Obsessed/Daddy/De Sade-Mode
Like I said: Phases.
Still laid back, though...
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This was fun...sorta' like a Peek Under My [Un_characteristic alt?] Skull. A narrative- true or fictional - would have been fucking ace; yet, I just didn't have the (will to make my Self type that long)spiritual gas.
Maybe someone will provide Me with some. I'm still celebrating my Birthday if that helps. 
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Inimitably yours,
Breathe Deeply~
Imagine
Peace
I could talk more about this...rather make/watch a woman/princess/bitch/cumslut-whore come...and like it AND love it - need more of it, and then eat Chinese and chill.
Maybe later.
'Nuff said.
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Come To Find Out... (It’s Amazing ~ the Stuff We Don't Know...)
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Jan 6, 2012 10:43 am
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I was reading.
WASHINGTON (AP) — Republican presidential candidate Newt Gingrich said Thursday he is willing to go before the NAACP and urge blacks to demand paychecks, not food stamps. He also has spoken previously about welcoming an invitation from the NAACP to speak and has been critical of GOP candidates who have not accepted such an invitation.
Gingrich told a town hall meeting at a senior center in Plymouth, N.H., that if the NAACP invites him to its annual convention this year, he'd go there and talk about "why the African-American community should demand paychecks and not be satisfied with food stamps."
(Fascinating. Begging the questions: What does that mean? Are demanding paychecks the same as – I don't know – ‘demanding jobs’?
If so, then all this time when I thought someone had to hire a person – come to find out, if anyone wants a job {or a good-paying one if the one(s) they have suck(s)}
all they have to do is just go somewhere and demand one.
I feel like an ass; I never knew it was so simple. 
Does anyone think that the problem is just as much a lack of jobs that can pay bills (without government assistance) rather than a simple lack of jobs and unwillingness for employers to hire, both of which are issues?
Or do they- Blacks - ‘favor’ food stamps over earning wages? And, are there different criteria for non-Black people to receive assistance? And if so, does it have a different name? )
Gingrich routinely [criticizes] President Barack Obama as the "best food stamp president in American history."
Gingrich's comments follow those by rival candidate Rick Santorum, a former senator from Pennsylvania who said Sunday that he did not want to "make **black people's lives better by giving them somebody else's money. I want to give them the opportunity to go out and earn the money."
(What does that mean? Black folks get money from other people and don’t work?
(Just who is it that receives most food stamp/WIC/ entitlement/social safety net assistance and unemployment compensation anyway? Is it Black people?)
Are more individual Black people unemployed than any other group?
Do only jobless Black people use social safety net programs? Or in other words, do working people who aren’t Black also use food stamps?)
**And I acknowledge that he may have said ‘Blah’ people, or ‘Mm-blah people’ or ‘blind’ people or ‘blerg’ people...but I also know what it 'sounded' like.
And why have food stamp participation and costs have risen under Obama, from 28.2 million participants at a cost of $37.6 billion in 2008 to 44.7 million participants at a cost of $75.3 billion last year [federal data of Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program]?
(Does the rise referenced above have anything to do with the increases in unemployment following the economic recession that began in 2008?
Orrr is it because
(1) Black don't really want to work, and
(2) Obama is making it easy for Black people to not have to work by subsidizing them with entitlements?
And whereas it’s not necessary that you give this any honest thought, what comes to mind, really, whenever a person hears or reads or thinks of
· Entitlements,
· Welfare/Welfare Queen,
· Food Stamps,
· Thugs,
· Pimps,
· Drug Dealer/Users?
(Several studies suggest these are almost always associated with POC. shrugging)
What does this almost automatic association - regardless of thinker's ethnicity it seems - mean?)
( Your thoughts? )
This weekend...
Breathe Deeply~
Peace
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Clunge: How Free Are You?
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Jan 5, 2012 12:22 pm
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A British name for a vagina.
(urban. dict.)
Never heard of clunge before just recently when bit used it.
It sounds like a blending of clit, minge (another new word for Me) and cunt all in one. (blogspot/cmm Sep 200
I may have to search for other British names for pussy...maybe even in other languages as well.
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I like the word cunt.
I like what cunt and all its synonyms so beautifully represent.
Spell it ~ say it aloud:
C-u-n-t, CUNT!
I like the word cunt. On this, I practice iconoclasm,
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I remember a movie years back w. Whoopi, Mary Louise Parker (Weeds) and Drew barrymore named Boys on the Side.
In it Whoopi's character was encouraging MLP to actually say cunt instead of HooHoo - the euphemism her mother had taught her.
The scene was hilarious, ending with MLP shouting and singing the word...
MLP: "I feel FREE"
Whoopi: "We's free Miz Scarlett. Let's go get everybody and tell em.."
(paraphr.)
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I think I'll add to My New Year's Resolutions:
to stump for more everyday acceptance of the (Unfairly maligned, I think) word,
Cunt.
Cunt. Clunge - Cunt. Clunge - Cunt. Clunge.
*shruggign*
Cunt; I like it.
BD~
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The Seductive Allure of Unspoken Things & How to Resist It
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Jan 1, 2012 7:51 pm
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The heat’s cranked up.
It’s warm inside.
The New Year is here.
I’ve eaten and drank a lot the last week or so.
A lot of people orgasmed or scened and shit - if they could manage it – or thought about it one.
I’m glad to be alive.
Business as usual tomorrow – and I’ve gotten used to the idea (FFS the holiday was short!)
And I learned - again - that empathy has its shortcomings, and that I can't mind-read worth a damn.
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Every now and then, I’ll bet that you, like Me, find out something you didn’t know, when it sure seemed as if you would or should have. If so --
How’s that work?
Well it’s said that the palest ink is better than the strongest memory (Our memories do some amazing transmutations over time.)
And suppose I said that even among the most empathic and attentive of us who observe and listen closely can fail to know what’s unsaid and just longed-for/hinted at/hidden?
Just as bad, suppose I also said that it seems that when we MOST need others to ‘know’ what we need, is the time when they seem LEAST able (or willing) to do that?
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I think we all know mind reading doesn't work well enough...yet, don't we sometimes act as if we do – or at least hope it does?
At times it’s like there’s an inner mental ball-gag, where we wish like hell we COULD talk, but our lips just quiver at best, and at worst, our tongues just lay in our mouths like congealed oatmeal instead. And often, the moment, the opportunity passes. Oops and Damn.
And sometimes, don't we also ‘choose’ not to talk – to reveal – to ask for what we want and need, for reasons we think make sense?
I’ve done it and maybe you’ve done it.
Maybe all men and women do it – regardless of roles or lifestyle to one extent or another. Just, sometimes it’s crippling and self-sabotaging when we do, ain't it?
I speak generally, but there are lots of specific and individual times I could talk about. I could go on about My opinion on the matter.
But it’s your POV/experience I want.
So anyway~
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I asked my Self:
"Would I rather have an acquiescent*
(*My preferred term for slave, submissive, bottom, /humiliation/impact-pain-receiver, in service domestic, co-fantasist, beta partner...)
who told Me what they wanted or needed ~ or ~ not, and instead, for Me to make empathic and intuitive guesses based on My desires (My perception of her desires) and attentiveness & imagination?"
I answered my Self.
And, if, as an acquiescent*, you asked this question with respect your Self:
"Would I rather tell my Orchestrator**
[**My working term for Master/Dom/Top/Sadist, Alpha...et al]
what I wanted to try, or need ~ or not, and instead, rely on His/Her ability to See what I'd like or love, or not, and just be satisfied?"
How would YOU answer?
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And regardless of how you converse with your Other:
a) What are some justifications for withholding, candy coating, partially omitting or being uncommunicative with your Orchestrator.
b) What keeps you from talking to Them about things?
c) As you imagine it, what IS the worst consequence of asking or telling?
d) Does anyone feel that expressing one's desires and opinions equate to a loss of Orchestrator Authority (Bottom topping) in some way - if so, how?
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The issue is valid, and it’s (too) common, I think, when it inhibits us.
I have My ideas - just – (who gives a shit) I already know what Eye think, yes?
How good would it be to fix this – to resist not speaking’s seductiveness?
Your thoughts appreciated -- if you’d care to disclose your insights.
BD~
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What Do Advice, Opinions & Gifts Have in Common?
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Dec 30, 2011 11:47 am
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(What? That they're like assholes and everybody has one?...
Wait - No...)
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After writing My post on gifts, I read other posts on gifts/gifting/exchanges, opinions and advice. They were all inspiring, compelling and provocative I thought. Also planted Seeds...
I also read somewhere on the Web (it seems I readily recall content but rarely authorship) that people seem to like it when you ask for their advice.
After all, if we don't trust a person or their judgment/way of problem-solving/wisdom, we’ll neither ask for it nor appreciate receiving it Unasked, yeah?
And a lot of people like giving it in general (especially if they’re close to them – I for example have to FORCE my Self to remain silent sometimes), but when asked in particular. They feel as if they’re helping, watching over in a beneficial/protective/loving way.
If they care, typically, the advice giver will think about you and your issue genuinely, seriously - and how best you could resolve or cope with the dilemma; fair and good enough.
Just - some people take a dim view when – after hearing their advice – You Don’t Take It (– after all the time and mental energy and love they put behind it – when it’s generally worked for them or other people in particular.)
Oops.
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That could be the rub; what if I said that we could listen to or ask for advice - just - not feel required to take it? The asking/hearing doesn’t equal a contract to carry it out, or does it?
If a person’s gonna give advice - like with a gift - it seems –SEEMS - a good thing to acknowledge the possibility that it might be unappreciated/unworkable, or worse. returned to How does that concept seem?
Isn't that the beauty of a gift (or an opinion or advice) of any kind**) – that we can ether accept it or reject it w/o regard to “the giver’s” feelings about our choices? Is this a commonality that each share?
...Helping someone is not about deciding what is best for them and then forcing it upon them [but allowing someone to find a voice and express what it is that they ...without forcing your truth upon them..[thereby creating] an environment in which fear has no choice [but] to dissipate.... ~lilbit_UK [post 898380]
Is that** how anyone else sees (Advice, Opinions and) ‘gifts’ working?
This question seems fit for serious, glib, philosophical & sarcastic replies...one’s as good as the other is.
Breathe Deeply~
HNY
...nasty Thoughts are encroaching...
Peace
gratuitous img: humilationbondage
“Saturnalia: What is it – what if anything does it mean to you? And Happy Birthday...”
~ Israel Isebone ™, to the ‘birthday girl’s party, (after having brought a gift to everyone
but her...)
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The Gift Means Everything, Right?
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Dec 28, 2011 4:32 pm
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'Are you romantic', a friend asked.
'Depends on what that term means to you,' I said.
It means do you care about wooing women, do you go the extra mile to sweep her off her feet or do you concentrate mostly on pleasing yourself " she said.
"I see," I responded, thanking God I asked for a definition (The Reverse Covenant), " I am a female orgasm addict, first...that should give a huge clue... and...in your definition, yes, I am a ‘pleaser’ – and I feel I am 'romantic.'
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If you equate the cost or subjective meaning of a gift received with the giver's intent behind it - this for you.
Although the monetary value of a gift isn't always the most important factor, most experts on dating and relationships agree that the man who spends money on good quality (not costume)
jewelry is saying something significant to the woman in his life.
When the recipient opens up a gift that is specific and personally meaningful, it tells her that the giver has paid attention to her wants and needs.
It deepens the relationship with an unspoken affirmation: "I recognize your uniqueness and I understand you. When we're paying attention, we can 'read between the lines'... "
The above are quotes that suggest knowing what a man's intent is when he offers a gift.
Aside from divining or universalizing what someone’s intent or depth of feeling/meaning is, it's doubly hard when the divinations come from the opposite sex.
There is a risk in giving the 'wrong' gift...there's the psychological loss of having the recipient conclude the donor does not know her very well or care for her.
To suggest that a woman 'think back on what your partner has given you and reflect on the meaning behind those gifts,' sounds insane to Me.
We physiologically, provably just don’t think the same, men, and women.
Isn't every gift good?
And, when you want advice about a gender other than your own, do you ask your gender or that of the person you want advice about?
When you feel you know what someone is thinking or feeling - or what their motivation is (especially if it seems cruel or fucked up) - do you ever check your certainty with that person?
Thoughts?
BD~
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