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More stars in the sky tonight...
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Nov 6, 2009 12:08 am
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This is a sad day as we lost some very brave men needlessly.
In my own life I lost someone who was also brave.
This man served at D-Day through Korea till the early parts of Vietnam. Retired from there. Found a job and retired there also. He was the father of a very good friend of mine.
I knew him through that friend and always respected him. But, one of the things I respect him most about was that he left all things in order for his family for when his time came. All bills are paid. All arrangements are taken care of. When his health failed he has a wife to take over and do what was necessary.
He wasn't into bdsm that I know of. But, he was as much a Dom as anyone on this site. People talk about 50's lifestyle, they were there. He woke up, dressed sat at the kitchen table. Food was presented to him each morning. He never told her what to cook. She never asked. After 50 years together, I guess she kinda knew.
He just walked into a room and any fighting stopped. He rarely raised his voice. Wasn't a wild partier. But, when it was time to travel, he made it happen. Emergencies pop up, he took care of them. He was calm, cool at all times...at least I never saw him panic.
He was a man I admired and looked up to. He never had to tell you how he was. He just was himself and showed it to you. He was a real man ! And I will miss him.
God bless his soul...
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Threshold pt. 1
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Sep 10, 2009 4:25 pm
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I love to watch a sub go through the different stages.
From the stubborn sub who stamps her foot with her hard limits that are non negotiable. And so many stipulations its easy to see she really is in control at this point.
Then, I watch as she tip toes her way into things she would never have done just a little while ago. And show some softness and curiosity as she lowers her defensive walls as trust grows. Even asking the "what if" questions that normally come up.
As time goes on she is enamored with the whole process not caring where it ends as long as it doesn't end at all. She looks back at all the ground she has covered. She is well beyond the point she told herself she would not venture beyond...its time to go back now.
Then she finds she simply cannot "return" to whom she once was. She is forever changed and no longer fits her old life. It really doesn't take very long if the Dom is skillful.
And that's what I love. To watch them squirm. To see the inner conflict . Like mental bonds that hold her so securely inside this life..or the life inside them. Because they can never leave this life that's now a part of them. It will always be there. All the breaks, vacations, vanilla activities...they won't be enough to shake the hold this life has on them.
Then there is the resolution. That point when they realize what has happened and how powerless they are against it. Its a peaceful place because they no longer fight it, can't really fight it, have no reason to fight it. Its at that point they begin to really know themselves and to love those things inside they have feared for so long.
The war is over
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I guess its all in perspecitve
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Aug 29, 2009 11:45 pm
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What would seem to be a horrible life destroying nightmare for some turns out to be a lifelong dream fantasy for others...
and that's just from watching the recent news.
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What a site to see !
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Aug 15, 2009 11:38 pm
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I pull into the local shopping center today and I see a couple walking from the movie theater to their parked car. Then I see the guy with his back to the car opening the door for the woman.
This is strange so I take a closer look and realize his wrists are cuffed behind him and he is opening the door for the woman. Then opened it for himself. Only after he was inside the car was he released to drive the car away.
Hmmm, Domme taking her sub around in public while cuffed.. this city isn't so bad after all
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Strange days ...indeed.
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Aug 10, 2009 1:03 pm
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When I first arrived at this place I thought I had found a home. People with whom I could discuss things of this nature and maybe even meet a few.
And it began just like this. Things going so swimmingly...or so I thought. Then it seems crevice opened and the outside world came pouring in with its jealousies, dramas and lies. And it time this became "social hour".
Talk about muffins, puppies or even dinner tonight. But, don't dare discuss bdsm...unless you plan a cyber session LOL. I have reached a point where I have to leave alt to discuss ..."alt". And if that's the case, what purpose does this site serve anymore ? If this just Adult Friendfinder part two ??
I have been a victim or lies, grouped in with other's dramas, called names based no nothing. I have had people tell me I am on lists of fakes. Banned from rooms because I wished the owner well. My "so called" friends list has been cut from 40 to 4.
I do have a few real,loyal friends here still but, I have really run out of reasons to stay. And its such a shame as it had so much promise. Still does...
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The kid's are alright....I guess
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Jul 19, 2009 11:46 am
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We saw with the late Michael Jackson, Howard Hughes and many others still with us what happens when we are surrounded by sycophants ,leeches and the like. People lose a sense of reality, certainly a sense of self and can get lost in a fantasy of who we are told we are rather than the truth. Almost a "Stockholm syndrome" type thing.
Unfortunately, it feels so good to be constantly complimented and praised they don't want to leave the confines of this cocoon even though it can be so detrimental to one's mental health. Like an addiction of sorts.
So, you say to yourself "If I knew someone like that I would try to help". Opportunity presents itself and you do just that.
But, we realize all parties like things as they are. Outsiders are not wanted or needed. Nothing can be done here.
When will I ever learn ??
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Just a note to friends
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Jul 11, 2009 12:04 pm
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I am moving forward with my life, which is a good thing. I always check my mail but, won't be on so much as its hot outside and that's not good for my machine and I have so many things to do this summer.
If I don't hear from you, I assume you have moved on. On that I wish you well
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Real Time
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Jun 11, 2009 12:17 pm
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I was very surprised at how many on this site who forever talk about what a sub should do or a Dom should do have no practical experience at all ! They make all these lists on how Doms should respect subs and subs should do this and that for the Dom yet, how would they even know ????
I have real time experience. I know nothing is like its written in books. Books are guides but, that's all. Each person is an individual and requires specific things. No book can help you there. Only time and patience and paying close attention can guide you.
They'll talk about cages ,whips and kneeling and all that. But, muscle cramps, infection and arthritis never seem to make it into the cyber scene nor do dislocations or terrible headaches from hanging upside down or wearing a hood.
I talk to quite a few "REAL" slaves and I have learned more from them than any Dom. Doms tend to be so territorial and jealous. Nothing I would want to learn from them anyways. Want to learn about a Dom/me , talk to His/Her former slaves. If they have none, that tells you something right there. Ask them about their real time subs/slaves. They are not so boastful then.
As a matter of fact, as long as I have been on here, there are very few whom I have proof of that they have or have had something real in their lives. That was very disappointing I must say.
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The walking wounded
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May 17, 2009 2:21 pm
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I know quite a few on here and other places and of course real time who come to this lifestyle not because its a fun, sexy adventure but, because they feel they have to. Because they feel this is the only life they can live or even this is where they can find a "home". A place where they can be free, be free again or simply "be".
So many have suffered to reach this place. Their path fraught with danger with seemingly no way out except to accept what's being done to them. And the mind pliable as it is reaches a point where it really does feel comfortable with what's being done and begins to prefer it. It just feels right.
I know those who have been mutilated, made sterile, burned, imprisoned for many years, beaten within a inch of death, run nude and bound through forests screaming for help, molested by family members, etc....
For these people, the norm is no longer an option. Normal says they are not allowed to enjoy one moment of any of this yet, their minds say otherwise. Its as if they exist in an alternate universe where things most would find repulsive, they find natural.
I am willing to bet we all have suffered or are suffering in some way. And this is one way to deal with the pain. But, for many its the only way they can move forward.
We have sympathy for those who are victims. But, we rarely think about what next for them. How do they live a life that has been forever changed. When you can't give birth, can't feel pleasure, can trust any man, can't trust at all, can see yourself anywhere but, on the ground degraded and humiliated, where do you go ? what do you expect to find there ?
For many, alt seems to be a place where it can be found.That person or people who can understand. Among the fakes ,phonies ,freaks and predators there are some who really do care. Those who are warm , loving and will take you in.
It really is true, there is always hope.
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