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Long floggings
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Jun 5, 2008 10:15 am
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Today was a good day - spent it in the playroom with s. completely lost in the rythm of strokes.
It's quite interesting to observe that these days I've begun to downsize my toys and the number of different types I use within a session - in favor of one or two pieces - building up a single, intense texture from repetitive strokes, pain, shades etc...
I can only describe my engagement with floggers/whips as a sort of painting - building up layer upon layer of texture - dragging, splattering - I see many parallels
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Pendulumn
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Jun 4, 2008 11:06 pm
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Of late I've just been haunted by Pendulum's
" Hold your colour".
I really love Drum and Base/Jungle rythms. What is it about music that is so primal?
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Wet and Messy - My First Splosh Party at Flesh
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Jun 3, 2008 3:34 pm
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And what fun it was!
Last Friday was my first Splosh party at Flesh.
Splosh is one of those things that I really like but have just never done in any large sort of way - I guess it's the whole tactile-ness of the mess.
The pic is of me in the jelli-bath pool, there was another pool with custard and baked beans in it which was fun plus i got to have a great big snogfest with some really hot chics! (YUMMM)
I'd like to try a porridge pool next time  but I have this "crushing berries with my toes on someone's back" thing I really want to do at some stage...
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lifestyle observations 3 - being risk aware.
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May 28, 2008 11:51 pm
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Recently I offered some advice on needle play and flogging in another message board that I'm on. A considered number of folk picked on the fact that flogging with needles in situ was something they felt was too risky*.
I think everyone has their different ideas of what is safe or what is risky... just like how some people would think bungee jumping is insane; and how other people think it's safer than crossing the road.
One thing I really hate is scaremongering and it seems to happen a lot in BDSM. I think sometimes risk evaluation is blown way out of proportion - a bit like how some of the things you were able to do as children is nigh impossible to do today due to health and safety issues.
It frustrates me; this cosseted approach to being "sexually adventurous". I think it is one thing if you are the voice of experience of misadventure - and quite another when you put two and two together to make six hundred and eighty.
At the same time, I'm not belittling the idea of safe practice or risk assesment. I just think that people sometimes forget that there are risks involved in every-day living.
Sometimes I want to ask these well meaning advisors if they suck their accidental paper cuts, and if so - I want to ask why they don't consider that as being risky - in fact more so than quite a few supposedly unsafe S/m blood play practices...
*Too risky because there was a chance the needle might break from the flogging - ack, now to me that is such a remote possibility and if you are flogging hard enough to shatter needles embeded in your skin, the needle shattering bit is the LAST of your worries!
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"I don't like guys in skirts or dresses..."
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May 26, 2008 11:37 pm
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I've read that quite a few times in various profiles and I understand that people have their own personal preferences... but it is interesting to me how much we invest the importance of gender and even personality/character in what is really just a piece of material/garment.
Does a piece of material/garment actually dictate the character of an individual to such an extent that the saying "clothing maketh a man" is to be taken literally?
When you think about it, across time it has been quite fashionable for men to wear dresses and skirts without that same question/idea of gender associated with it - and it is only in the modern day that such fractional ideas are so definitive.
It's quite a wonder to me just how much "power" we invest in a piece of clothing; so much so that a person can dread or fear being dressed up in a skirt or a dress for the potential of its symbolic implication rather than for what it actually is - someone wearing just another form of garment.
Can people think around this eventually?
Or is it a sort of doomed sheep mentality?
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Dominant Angst.
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May 4, 2008 1:35 am
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Being a D (or whatever) is quite a perplexing thing.
You want something done your way, or maybe as a D you can't really understand anything else but your own way.
And it's frustrating when you can't communicate that way clearly enough so your submissive understands how to please you. They end up being confused and frustrated themselves.
Being only human, you interpret a new situation and how to act upon that, based mostly on what you know of it, or your own experience. Just sometimes, when it's new territory - that framework is not familiar.
Like today, I didn't want my disapproval to turn into a lecture on why I disapproved. I didn't wake up with a need to berate or degrade.
What happens when those desires mismatch?
Sometimes it's projection upon another person and as a D, I think there's a large chunk of being projected upon. Maybe it works the other way too...
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Profundity and BDSM.
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May 1, 2008 6:42 am
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One of the things that is seldom discussed is profundity. Perhaps it's because it's complicated and individual - hard to relate as an experience and deeply personal.
It's also one of the things that's really difficult to negotiate or inform someone about.
But it's one of those things that's almost part and parcel of a BDSM relationship that has any depth outside of the purely sensual.
A subby said to me recently *which inspired this entry*
"It's a scary place but I want to go there again"
It's very intriguing to me that in those instances, I feel simply like the ferry boatman, who enables someone to have that profound experience without the ability to actually get off the boat myself and join that arrival.
Though having said that, I feel privileged to be a part of that.
In some ways what I do have is an intuitive inkling... a feeling about pushing things further, or of holding back. I think it's that special place of complete trust and vulnerability...
The moment of having captured a feeling of time and place, of insignificance and awe...
It's something beautiful.
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If you love someone...
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Apr 30, 2008 11:34 pm
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If you love someone...
Set them free, by keeping them in a cage of your will;
And treasuring them like they were precious objects in your possesion and safe keeping...
To be firmly but fairly disciplined, and made part of a profound trust within which lie no taboos...
To be immersed in a sensory realm of your making and unmaking -- stripped down and understood at a most fundamental level
If someone loves you with the same intensity and way, then you are truly blessed.
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