Pondering life

My thoughts on BDSM and sexuality and anything else running through my mind

On bloging Mar 15, 2008 4:40 am
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I never understood why people would want to have a blog and open a window into their inner most thoughts.

The last couple of week have changed my viewpoint drastically. Blogging is a great stress reliever, a means of opening your heart and soul and venting. Blogging helps you maintain your sanity, letting you get it off your chest before you implode.

Being able to put in print how you are feeling, what is hurting or your yearnings or desires helps you work through the turmoil you are going through. It gives you the chance to analise things clearly, rather than having this jumble of thoughts running through your mind. It is great.

Oh and the biggest realization. Blogging isn't opening a window so others can see into your life it is very personal journal written more to yourself than to others.
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All is right with my world Mar 13, 2008 5:40 am
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Life has returned to normal after a week of torment.
I got my first good night sleep in a few days thanks to finally hearing from the man in my life. I had hurt his feelings and we broke up. Thank god, time and his intelligence allowed him to realize I had not done it intentionally.
He came looking for me yesterday and when I wasn't home he went to the bathes looking for me. Yes he found me and together we sorted through thing while the steams tended to our bodies. Thank god, we love each other enough to forgive and to communicate.
I loved having my hands and mouth on his body,I missed him, all is right with the world.
Later we went for drinks and I extracted a promise that in the future we talk thing through.That we tell each other what is bugging us rather than going home and sulking.
I don't want to go through last week ever again
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"merry go round" of life Mar 11, 2008 6:22 am
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(B]Another weird night. If I don't get some sleep soon I will be a walking Zombie.
Got an e-mail from my ex last night saying he would call and we would go for coffee. This is in reply to my last e-mail inviting him to coffee and conversation.I didn't think I would hear from him,I thought I got my head around that thought.
Now I am in a flap, hope runs high, could we reconcile and give it another chance. We had a good thing going for us then puff. What would a reconciliation be like, could it be as good as the first time? Would there always be thoughts of it happening again.
Will I go around and around on this Merry go round called life till it breaks and I fall off .The answer is yes of course.
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Restless night Mar 10, 2008 5:13 am
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Couldn't sleep. My mind was going a thousand miles an hour last night thinking about the dear john letter I got yesterday.
Finally came to terms with it and decided life is to short to get depressed over it. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Had a great year, learned a lot about myself and the BDSM lifestyle.
Freedom from a confusing relationship has it merits. I will no longer have the feeling of walking on egg shells . I can be me and not worried I will say the wrong thing and offend.
Now that I am more experienced in BDSM lifestyle I can go find someone I am more compatible with. Wish me luck.
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silence Mar 9, 2008 3:46 pm
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Silence sounds the death knell. Then come the dear John letter.
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Curious and need answers. Mar 9, 2008 5:01 am
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I thought Blogs were designed so people could communicate, offer opinions and even participate in polls.
I started my Blog looking for answer on sexuality. I am getting a number of views but not getting many comments. Perhaps it is because my blog was slanted to bisexuals because that is what my original post was about.
I would now like everyone BI , gay or straight to add a comment if they so desire. It would be interesting to see what everyone opinion is.
Am I the only confused person out here.
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Bi curious Mar 8, 2008 3:56 pm
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What does BI curious mean to you.
Please feel free to explain your vote.
Hetrosexual who is just curoius
A gay or lesbian who is afraid to come out
A bisexual who hasn't admited it yet
Other
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Defining Bisexuality Mar 8, 2008 4:46 am
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I have been pondering bisexuality and someone offered me the definition that Bi means either vs two. Meaning they could be attracted and love either sex verses loving both sexes at the same time. Great, that is something I can understand and accept but then I thought to myself. Wouldn't that make them no longer BI but heterosexual, gay or lesbian.
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Where are all the bi sexuals. Mar 7, 2008 4:35 am
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It strange that when one checks out various profiles on ALT there are countless people identifying as bi sexual.
From the number of responses I received on my post on sexuality no one seem to want to offer an opinion or offer help on understanding the mind set of a bi sexual.
A number of people have looked at it but no one wants to voice their views on the subject. Come on people lets here some of your thoughts. I need help here.
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Help me get my foot out of my mouth Mar 6, 2008 5:17 am
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I met my bi sexual bottom yesterday at a dungeon and we had a great time. Afterwords we went out for drinks and dinner to celebrate our first year anniversary of being play partners.

I told him I loved him and he said he loves me. A first for him to come out and say it, to my recollection. I was elated and kept asking him to say it again.

From there it went down hill. We were discussing ALT profiles and he has 5 stars with me and I have 4 with him. I said it was because my profile reads I am looking for a gay partner, his reads a partner, I am looking for a bottom, his reads looking for a top or bottom because he is a switch.

I then opened my big mouth and jumped in with both feet by saying I would never have anything to do with a bi sexual after he was finished with me. He was a flake not meant in a mean way but he can't commit. He has the whole enchilada. I wife to go home to, a whole other life and me I have a cold bed and a date once a week.

He said he understands but I hurt his feeling and probably screwed up the best thing I have had in years. The evening ended with him going to a bar and me going home alone.

Life is a bitch and it goes down hill from there.
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