What it takes for a single guy to be with a couple
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Posted:Oct 19, 2014 2:48 am
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What it takes for a single guy to be with a couple
I copied (and then edited) this from a couple who copied and edited it from someone else. I have no idea who the credit for the original should go to, but whoever they are, they are very astute:
What it takes for a single guy to be with a couple
Obviously, we (by which I mean the wife) consider also single guys or we wouldn't say that we do. We feel that few couples would be comfortable letting the woman “sit it out” while her hubby ravishes my wife. A single guy can focus on my wife with no distractions. He and I can pour all our attention and passion onto her without worrying about someone feeling left out. This is the nature of a MFM. We enjoy the company and camaraderie of a couple, but sometimes the wife just needs the extra attention. Note: There are exclusions!
We are going to use our experiences with singles to coach the few decent ones out there on how to get with a couple like ourselves. First and foremost, couples sex is just that. If you are just horny and looking for sex, try picking a gal up at a bar. You will have better luck. Most swinging couples already get all the sex they need and are looking to expand on their enjoyment. Joining a couple is totally different from banging someone's wife behind their back. With a couple like us, we are doing what we do for our mutual enjoyment; she for her own gratification, me to get off on watching her enjoy herself. One has to be comfortable with both of us in a sexual situation. I am very straight. Looking at men's butts and genitals holds no interest to me. I could care less what you look like...if you are a guy you are not attractive to me. If the wife is happy with you, then you are OK by me. If I watch you with my wife, be assured that you are non-existent to me. I will be focused on her and what you are doing with her. I won't notice your hair or freckles or even your abs. Wife will take care of all that. I just want to be a part of her peak sexual experiences.
Which brings us to our 10 simple rules:
1. Be honest with yourself-- do you really want to have sex with a couple? If you aren't, then you will end up offending both of us.
2. Realize that for us, inviting you into our sex life is a really big deal. We are not going to jump your bones the instant you contact us, even if we like you. We are a friendly but somewhat reserved, laid-back couple. We don’t share our sex life with everyone who winks at us. If we take time to notice you, it is significant.
3. Be patient. Women are notoriously slow at making up their minds. If you find us moving slow, it is because we are considering you. If we weren't, you would have already received a "No thanks, not interested."
4. Let us get to know you. There are literally millions of guys out there looking, most are losers and it is nearly impossible to sort them all out. Some folks call it Email tag and useless chat, but it lets us get to know something about you without exposing ourselves to the inevitable fakes and trolls.
5. Once we invite you to join us, don't be bashful. Once the wife lets you know that she is interested, don't stand around with your hands in your pockets. Get busy flirting and seducing her. Act like you want it and let her know it. Even though we all know what we want, it is up to you to get there. The seduction is half the fun.
6. Show the wife the same courtesies you would any single woman. Just because the wife is married and not looking for a mate, doesn't mean that she doesn't expect the same treatment as if she were a single woman dating. Treat her like you would your girlfriend. Pay attention to her, compliment her, and let her know how much you appreciate her company. Flirt with her, make her feel sexy; she will reward you well. Guys that meet and afterward can't even bother to drop a note or call to tell her how much they enjoyed themselves should have to die virgins.
7. Communicate and be expressive with both members of the couple. We are looking to share one of the most intimate and wonderful things on earth. You should be able to open up with us and express yourself.
8. Always respect the couple’s wishes. We are always very honest and upfront with everyone and will always try to be fair. We are very laid-back and drama free, but things can always come up. That is especially true for those of us with . are notorious for putting the best laid plans to waste. If we have to cancel because of them, try to remember that we’re disappointed, too, but respect that those of us with always put them first.
9. Never, and I mean never, stand up a couple online or anywhere else. You can call; you can email, but if something comes up and you can't be where you are supposed to, let us know. If you have led us on for weeks or months and just chickened out, then you are an immature asshole. If you aren't in touch with yourself enough to know beforehand that you aren't up to it, then you deserve any future disappointment Karma hands you.
10. Remember that there are millions of fakes and trolls out there, all trying to drown you out. Somewhere out there are other couples like us just aching to meet and share with the right guy. It is up to you to make us notice you and realize that you are not like the rest. By letting us get to know you, and by not doing all the stupid and rude things that others have done before, you will guarantee we will notice you. Couples such as ourselves are very serious and won't let you slip by if we know it. Hell, if anyone were to actually follow all this advice, the wife would probably throw herself all over them.
In conclusion, just being a decent human being and helping us to see that will get you at least half-way to being laid. But you have to get us to see that through all the BS. Consideration and respect are aphrodisiacs to couples.
Good luck and happy adventures!
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