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I use this space to express my views on life, love, baseball, politics, and the lifestyle. I sometimes pour my feelings out here. I sometimes just express my opinions. There are pieces of me here. I am certainly not suggesting that if you read the posts here you will know me when you're done, but it will be a start. I believe the way to really get to know others is by talking and spending time together. But, I do suspect if you find me intolerable here, you will find me more so in person. I also tend to think if you are intrigued or interested in what you read here, you may be more so upon meeting me in person.
Leave comments, questions, thoughts, or observations. This is also a place in which I could get to know you a bit better. |
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Why Jaded?
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Sep 22, 2008 1:46 am
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I often get asked, Why are you jaded?
This question has been posed several times recently which has made me think a bit about it. I used to answer the question by saying that I just always seemed to end up with the wrong men. Really thinking about it though I realized it is not as simple as that.
Im a pragmatist and a realist. I tend to look at the world and see it for what it is and not what I want it to be. So when I look at my history and my life I too see that for what it is and not what I want it to be. I see that there have been many men with whom I have been involved that were not right for me. I see a few men who may have been right and I sabotaged the relationship before it had a chance. I see men I loved dearly who didnt really love me back. Most of all I see choices I made that were wrong for me.
With all that I turn and face and see so clearly how can I not be a bit jaded? I think sometimes people think that it means I am anti-man, or even that I hate men. This is not the case at all. I love men. I am drawn to them. I have some really good friends who are men. Honestly I am as guarded and cynical about myself and my ability to choose appropriately for myself as I am about the intentions of men. This is not a man hater thing. I am jaded because I have lived and loved in a manner that at times is reckless and without thought for the consequences. I have made choices listening to my heart and being swept up in the moment and missing the red flags or not hearing the voices in my head warning me.
But for as jaded, sarcastic, and cynical as I am, in the end, the one with whom I finally find a fit will find a warm, caring, thoughtful, loving, and dedicated woman under it all. It will be well worth it for him and for me. This I know.
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Is This Really All There Is to Choose From?
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Apr 2, 2009 5:52 pm
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So, I was browsing through local profiles and I stumbled onto this, MasterDorm.
Huh???
Is it just me? Does anyone else see a eensy weensy teeny tiny problem with this guy's name? My problem got bigger when I went to his profile. He states he is looking for slaves to teach. I wonder what a slave can learn from a dorm.
Isn't a dorm a horrible place you live when you are young and living away from home for the first time at college?
And what does that have to do with BDSM?
And what is a master dorm?
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Now I HAVE Heard Everything
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Jan 4, 2009 9:40 am
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I have been having an email exchange with a dom who emailed me to tell me he was interested in me. He started off by telling me that I may not be interested in him because he is a smoker, and then he asked can I deal with that. I responded with an email telling him that no, I couldnt deal with it and wished him luck in his search.
Then he turned into a bit of a jerk. OK. You lose...Good luck to you...Bye, was his response. The You lose part was what got me. Seriously? Are we in high school now? Of course, I could have taken the high road at this point and let it go, but I have not made it out of grade school yet.
I sent a response back to him as follows, wow... that was kinda a terse reply. you say toe-may-toe, i say toe-mah-toe. i don't see it as a loss.
but, again, good luck in your search...
Why would I see it as a loss? We are incompatible on something that is an absolute deal breaker for me. I have made this clear in my profile. It is now there in big red letters for all to see. And, yet, he somehow missed it. Actually, he ignored it. Mr. Fabulous there thinks himself so fabulous that I would put aside an issue for me that is an absolute NO-NO, and go running to him with open arms. And when I didnt he did what any self-respecting dom would do, he climbed right up onto his high horse armed with his righteous indignation, and made sure to tell me just how absolutely fabulous he is.
His reply back to me was a bit terser and a bit more indignant. Hi,
Well you did say you were not intrested, what did you expect me to say? And just for your information it is your loss.
Good luck to you, have a nice life and good bye-------------------------------------------------
What did I expect him to say? How about something civil, adult, not utterly sophomoric? And, of course I cant stand to be outdone in the department of being totally juvenile I had to reply with a 
By this time I was obviously really pissing the guy off. And I could tell his blood pressure was edging itself up. AND JUST WHAT THE FUCK DOES THAT MEAN?
DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM UNDERSTANDING GOOD BYE
I replied saying that I found his arrogance laughable. Then I went on to ask if he had a problem understanding that I made it clear in my profile that smoking is a deal breaker for me, and I threw in some other asinine things to stir the pot a bit because in all honesty this is truly providing me with some much needed cheap entertainment.
But now the guy is really hot under the collar. I know because this is the next email I get from him, DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM UNDERSTANDING WHAT THE WORD GOODBYE MEANS. IT MEANS YOUR NOT INTERESTED IN SMOKERS, I SMOKE, THEREFORE YOU SAY YOUR NOT INTERESTED. I SAY OK, IF YOU DON'T LIKE SMOKERS THAN I WILL NOT WASTE MY TIME, THEREFORE I SAY GOOD BYE AND THAT IT IS YOUR LOSS. SO I SAY TO YOU ONE LAST TIME GOOD BYE. MEANING YOU HAVE NO REASON TO WRITE TO ME.
NOW I AM TRYING TO BE NICE BUT IF YOU EVER WRITE TO ME AGAIN I WILL NOT BE.
SO ONE LAST TIME, "GOOD BYE"
You all know I didnt let it die here, right? I just cant resist these little games of cat and mouse. I need to get a life. Just stay with me a bit longer because it gets really good though.
you call yelling at me being nice? so from what i can see not only do you not understand what i wrote in my profile, you have no idea what being nice means. hehehehehe... you were only "nice" in the first email you sent me.
again i don't see it as a loss. but again your arrogance is laughable.
So this morning my inbox contained the following email. I am writing to you as Mr. Fabulous submissive requesting that you no longer send him emails as he is not interested. It would be greatly appreciated.
And, of course my reply was
I couldnt believe it. Mr. Oh-So-Fabulous could no longer fight his own battle? He had to enlist the assistance of his sub? Now THAT is very funny.
I really should send them both a Thank You card for providing me with so many laughs and so much entertainment.
One more thing that occurs to me here too is the fact that this man has a sub and that is also clearly stated in my profile as a deal breaker for me.
But, what do I know? I dont even know what good-bye means.
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Tis the Season
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Dec 24, 2008 7:40 pm
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Merry Christmas to all.
And to all a good night.
May the season's hope shine in your lives throughout the coming year.
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The Downfall of US Business
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Dec 21, 2008 8:08 pm
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Or, the death of customer service
Are there any companies who provide real customer service any longer? What ever happened to, The customer is always right?
Day after day there are issues with the services provided by alt. People complain and they get standard route answers by the customer service reps. The reps never deviate from the pre-prepared, scripted answer. There rarely seems to be a concerted effort made to correct a problem. Customer dissatisfaction is compounded by a thinly veiled innuendo by the customer service staff that perhaps the customer was somehow at fault.
The thing is that alt isnt alone in providing poor customer service. It has become the rule instead of the exception to the rule. The other day I placed an internet order for new cable, broadband, and phone service. I was then instructed to call to set up a time for installation. I put this off a bit because I suspected it would take some time and I had little of it. I then made the mistake of answering my phone while I was in the car heading to the mall to do some Christmas shopping. It was the cable company. I was on the phone for almost and hour with them. My shopping time disappeared. I had other things I needed to do and only had so much time I could devote to shopping that day. The rep put me on hold repeatedly while she attempted to enter some codes for some discounts or something. I found myself wondering what the point was of me placing my order on the internet. Hadnt all this already been taken care of? She repeatedly came back on the line to thank me for my patience and tell me it would just be a bit longer. Then she of course needed to do third party verification for the phone services. And there were problems with this. At this point I told her that I spent too much time on the phone with her already and I had no more time to give her. I suggested that perhaps when they place these calls to new customers that they should enquire if they have an hour to spend on the phone. At this point she tells me that new customers should know it takes time to set up a new account. They called me back a few days later to complete the third party verification. I completed it. It was a totally automated process and apparently did not go through appropriately because they called me again yesterday to repeat it. I was again trying to complete my Christmas shopping and told the guy it wasnt convenient for me.
This whole third party verification bothers me any way. The reason for it is that communications companies had been inclined to change peoples phone services without their knowledge or consent. The third party verification is now necessary to ensure this hasnt happened. In other words, customers are being penalized because companies cannot be trusted to conduct business in a manner that is legal and moral.
Is it any wonder that an internet site dedicated to the BDSM lifestyle cant be accountable to their customers when the banking industry, the US auto makers, and communication companies cant be trusted to be responsible and accountable to their customers?
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I Love My Car... or Let It Snow, Let It Snow, Let It Snow!
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Dec 21, 2008 11:40 am
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I know that in this time of the downfall of the US automotive industry, it is probably politically incorrect to say this but I don't give a tiny rat's ass.
I LOVE MY CAR!
It is a Subaru Forester. It is my second Forester. Having headed to mid-coast/Southern California last fall before the snow started, it has been a couple years since I have had the joy of driving in the snow. The last couple of days have brought a fair amount of snow to Connecticut. I was out yesterday and again today. The roads were shitty. My car has great handling and stopping abilities in this stuff.
Foresters come standard with All-Wheel drive and anti-lock brakes. I'm not sure but I don't think there is one US car maker that can say they offer a product in which that is the case. They want to point fingers at the UAW to say that it is their fault that they have gotten into this financial mess. But in all actuality, I think it is much more that the auto makers have been too interested in developing vehicles that help to line the pockets of their buddies at the oil companies. Perhaps they should change their focus just a bit. My Subaru certainly cannot be considered a green car, but the gas mileage isn't bad. I can fit my stuff in it and it goes like a tank in the snow.
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For my friend...
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Dec 20, 2008 10:40 pm
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Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday, dear Cookie
Happy Birthday to you
Have a great day, B!
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