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Ingredients for last night's scene
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Sep 6, 2008 10:58 pm
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- One hood
- One pair boxing gloves
- One pair wrist cuffs
- One pair ankle cuffs
- Three carabiners
- Two pieces of flexible PVC pipe
- One knife
- One stun gun
- One lamb prod
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Another safeword ponderance
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Apr 12, 2008 1:25 am
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As a bottom, what (do/would) you do when your safeword didn't work? Assume that the top is not deliberately ignoring it or intending to do harm.
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The mouse trap mindfuck
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Jun 25, 2007 3:34 am
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(Why doesn't Alt have a mood called Evil?)
I got to play the mouse trap mindfuck on someone last night. Most of the people I've played with in the last few years are relatively experienced, and it's been a long time since I ran into someone it would work on.
At the beginning of the scene, pulled a bunch of stuff out of the toybag, including a rat trap, and scattered it about the floor where we were going to play. I then tied him to the St. Andrews cross facing away from me, blindfolded him, and did a lot of this and that. He was so delightfully responsive that I eventually tossed all the toys aside and just used my hands to make him squirm... I couldn't take my hands off of him.
After a while, I turned him around to face me, then took off the blindfold so he could see what was coming. I pulled a pair of mouse traps from the bag, showed them to him, snapped one a couple of times, and watched the reactions on his face. As I reached for his left nipple, he registered a flash of terror so deliciously raw that I nearly came just from watching it.
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No sex please, we're perverts
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May 11, 2007 10:59 pm
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I live in the San Francisco bay area, which is one of the most liberal and open cities on the planet. We have several public and semi-public SM clubs in the area, and other than health-department mandated safer sex laws they're pretty much anything goes in terms of sexual activity.
And yet, I can count on one hand the number of people I've seen putting tab A in slot B in these locations... and that's over a 15-year period of going to parties. Sure, you see fisting and other hand-based stuff. You see strap-on sex. And you see oral sex from time to time, but at pansexual parties there's almost never any fucking.
Why is that?
I've seen a little bit more at women-only parties, and I'm told that men-only parties tend to have a lot more sexual activity, though of course I've never been to one myself.
The pacific northwest tends to have more sex at their parties, though still not all that much.
Theories, anyone?
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Happy 15th Kinkoversary to me
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May 7, 2007 9:26 am
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Fifteen years ago today I was married and living with my husband in Portland, though we had agreed that the marriage was over and we would divorce. I was working as a software engineer at Intel, and they'd sent me to Santa Clara for a week for some hardware debugging. Thata was my first trip to the bay area.
I was reading Usenet in the California office, and saw a message on alt.sex.bondage from someone who said he enjoyed introducing visitors to the local leather community. I dropped him a note, and after a bit of email he offered to pick me up from the office and take me to the burgermunch, a local gathering of kinksters. That happened on May 7, 1992, and it was my very first introduction to the kinky community.
Two days later I went to my first playparty. I was scared to death! I didn't really know anyone there, I had no idea what to expect, and I felt like I was completely out of my element. OK, I was completely out of my element-- I still had a lot of the stupid baggage that comes from being raised Catholic, and going to a sex party was one of the wildest things I'd ever done. I was also dreadfully curious! I arrived at the venue, a house on the peninsula, then drove around the block three times while I talked myself into parking the car and getting out.
I mustered all of my resolve and walked into the party, where I encountered nothing like I'd ever seen before. People were naked, sometimes casually so and sometimes not. They were in fetishwear. They were tied up. They were in happy piles of people, spanking each other, and doing all manner of things that I had never seen, some I'd never heard of. I was as social as I could be, then sought refuge in a corner where I spent the evening chatting with a few people. I was fascinated by what I saw and curious to learn more, though I couldn't really see myself doing most of the things I witnessed.
That week was the start of an extremely dramatic change in my life-- a complete reexamination of my sexuality, my ideas about relationships, and even the way I wanted to live my life. What a slippery slope!
Oh, the person I exchanged the initial email with? He became very influential in my life, mostly in good ways though also in a couple of bad ones. We had a ten-year friendship, though sadly we both did a pretty good job of demolishing that a few years ago.
I wonder what the person I was then would think of the person I am now. I think she'd be surprised, amazed, and delighted at the transformation, and proud of the way that she'd managed to get over her fear.
And so, happy fifteenth leather anniversary to me.
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Advice for new bottoms
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May 2, 2007 10:27 am
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Someone on Tribe recently asked for advice for new bottoms. Here's what I said:
My advice? Do not blindly accept any advice that's given to you.
If someone tells you that you must have a frozzlenozz (be it a safeword, a safecall, a checklist, a complete background check by a private investigator, two hundred feet of rope), don't just think, "OK, somebody told me I needed a frozzlenozz, so I'll get one." Think about what a frozzlenozz is used for, what its limitations are, and whether it really works for you. Is a frozzlenozz important in all scenes, or just some? How might a frozzlenozz fail, and what happens if it does?
Having said that, here's my advice.
Don't be afraid to talk to your partner about anything.
If your gut tells you that something isn't a good idea, it probably isn't.
Don't believe that you have to do something a certain way just because someone tells you that's how BDSM works. There are lots of people who like to make up rules and try to tell you those rules apply to everyone. They don't.
The more someone puffs up their chest and tries to look (experienced, important, cool), the less (experienced, important, cool) they are.
Negotiate in positive terms rather than negative ones. It's very easy to fall into the negotiating habit of saying, "I'm not into X, Y, and Z." That leads to weird miscommunications because of differing assumptions. "I'd really like to do A, B, and C with you", is a much better negotiating technique. The more explicit the better-- the word spanking might mean bare-handed to you, but include paddles and belts for someone else.
Don't be afraid to say no.
Don't be afraid to say yes.
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Ouch!
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Apr 9, 2007 12:55 am
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My butt hurts!
And there is nothing worse than getting a bloody leg cramp during a scene. Ouch ouch ouch.
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New toys!
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Apr 4, 2007 10:42 pm
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I have a brand new matched pair of elk and cowhide floggers, one black and teal, the other black and pink. They are absolutely bee-yeautiful.
That is all.
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You call that vanilla?
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Mar 19, 2007 2:15 pm
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A post-coital moment:
"Well, that was almost disturbingly vanilla."
"Yeah." There is a pause. "Well, except for the fact that we're wearing nine locks between us."
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Best compliment ever!
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Mar 12, 2007 8:36 am
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I just got the best compliment ever:
"You know if you didn't exist, I'd have to make you up."
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