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Question for the subs...
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Jan 23, 2009 9:18 am
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Is there any place where you fantasize most anout your dom or potential dom taking you. Why does that particular setting turn you on so much?
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D/S vs. personal life
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Jan 18, 2009 7:37 am
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As I learn about people on various (bdsm) websites, I often wonder to myself if people who are one way in their personal life tend to go to the opposite way in their private (bdsm) life. Do they feel a need to do it or is it more a desire? Could a normally dominant person in the vanilla world be a dom in their private world and vice versa? I am aware that most people do the opposite and the psychology of it all fascinates me. What are your thoughts?
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Just wondering...
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Jan 3, 2009 10:45 am
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If anyone has ever been so turned on by someone even though there is not a sexual innuendo in the conversation. It is a most unusual occurence.
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Happy new year
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Jan 1, 2009 8:46 pm
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I wish everyone a happy, healthy, and prosperous new year. May all your dreams cum true.
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Bitter cold
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Dec 22, 2008 8:35 am
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For those that live in the midwest, are you doing enough to stay warm? It is dangerously cold outside. The winds are whipping and the temperature is below zero thus creating a 15-20 below windchill. Please bundle up especially your extremities. Dont't spend long periods of time outside unless you are well layered.
Be safe,
Pops
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First meeting jitters
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Dec 18, 2008 12:30 pm
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I often wonder how many people experience first meeting jitters. What do you expect of your first meeting with someone new? Do you expect your potential dom to just take you or if you are sub do you just feel a sense of belonging to your dom? Do you meet for a drink and discuss a contract or the set of rules and "safe words" for your relationship to be. I've talked to many people here and heard some things that I find odd and a little off. I'm curious about your experieces and expectations.
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How far can it go?
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Dec 9, 2008 12:28 pm
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I wonder just how far and how deep a d/s relationship can go. Where does it end? Does it ever? Do people who have been in very long d/s relationships grow tired of it? Do they long for a simple vanilla lifestyle? Could you have children with your partner and avoid raising them in an alternative lifestyle? Could you marry them? This is just my mind being overly tired....Your thoughts?
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Finding a real sub
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Dec 5, 2008 9:56 am
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I wander through ads with fascination when I am bored and come across people claiming to be subs when they (perhaps unaware themseves) are more dom than sub. The ads have a lot of demands for the potential dom. "I want..." is listed several times within the ad. "He needs to," "he should be" are all things I see listed too much in these ads. When a sub's ad lists so many wants, needs, and restrictions it is clear to me the person is probably out of touch with themseves. The true subs speak of service to the dom and submitting to their one with a humble tone.
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Picking a good dom
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Dec 2, 2008 11:12 am
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The first step is deciding if this lifestyle is for you and not just a one time fantasy. If it is a one time fantasy, you will not find a good dom. The communication between the dom and sub are probably the most critical aspect. Are you both on the same page as far as the direction you wish to go in? Will time constraints and distance become a problem? Will he/she be respectful of your "vanilla world" life i.e, family and work? Ask yourself when talking to your potential dom if you can fulfill his/her needs and wants? If the dom is just interested in the sexual aspect of dominance he is not a dom...this is called a phony. It is but one aspect and yes a big part, but it is not everything. Remember, as the sub the realtionship is as much about you as it is them.
Be safe
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