To spank or be spanked? For me it is not a question. Both, of course!
Do you think of spanking strictly as punishment? I do not. In my book, real punishment is no play at all! Spanking is a sexy game for good “girls and boys,” “brats,” and those big bad impact play aficionados!
It did not take Carrie long to convince her Leather Daddy that she needed to be bent over his knee to get her in the mood for the evening’s play party. She loves to go into her teenager headspace as a good girl or a brat! Her hair in pigtails, she wore her favorite black satin panties under her shortest velvet skirt with pumps too high for any real-life teenager. “I’ve been a ‘really good girl,’” she thought. “I helped set up the St. Andrews cross and the sling in the play room…I deserve my reward.” She pursed her lips in a sexy pout and said, “ Daddy, can I have my spanking now, please?”
He chuckled as he ordered her onto his sturdy lap, her bare thighs right on the soft leather of his pants. His left hand slid between her very short skirt and her satin panties. He kept it there, and she certainly did not protest. He started to spank her, gently at first, his big strong right hand rhythmically hitting her ass cheeks. Sandwiched between the warmth of his left hand on her satin-covered pussy and his right on her ass where the heat builds up so good, she was getting quite turned on!
Her moans attracted the guests’ attention. Daddy commented loudly on how red her butt cheeks were. Being watched in that embarrassing position only made her hotter. She was one blushing, horny, happy girl!
Not an isolated instance, since Wikipedia tells us that consensual erotic spanking is either for pleasure or a lifestyle choice for approximately 40 million adults.
Here in San Francisco, gay, bi and straight men, into a good spanking over Daddy's knee, or fraternity-style pledge paddlings, hold monthly parties at the Power Exchange.
In jolly old England, my friend Valerie runs a trendy corporal punishment club where gentlemen and not-so-gentle men spank naughty misses and bratty bottoms at weekly parlor parties. Brits are obsessed with the bum. They can't help themselves, says Valerie of herself and her compatriots.
Her relationship to spanking started pretty early. She knew there was something very charged about having one's skirt lifted in front of her classmates. The protocol required her consent beforehand and the teachers would shake her hand afterwards. That was long ago but her predilection for corporal punishment as she knew it lasted through the years. To this day she is one woman who orgasms from a good strapping and relishes delivering a sound, bare-bottomed over-the-knee spanking to “boys” and “girls” alike.
Of course, spanking does not have to involve fantasy or roleplay. In our BDSM community some Dominants like me submit to the traditional birthday spanking ritual. It does take some deep breaths and a little adjustment to relax into it, but before long, we find ourselves wanting more and harder.
I certainly know that place where my ass really hurts and I think of calling Red, my stop safeword, but I know better than to listen to my head. I want my head to shut up. I want to fly and I know the hot pain of a sound rhythmical spanking, whipping or paddling will get me to my happy place; a timeless moment of stillness, a letting go of control, true bliss! However, It is not simply how much I can take.
Recently, community writer and friend Greta Christina put it so well when she blogged, “the pain reminds me that there's another person out there. The moment that the [hand, cane or] lash lands on my skin is the moment that another person is touching me. And it's a touch that gets all the way through. It's a touch that cuts through my defenses and distractions and the ceaseless running commentary in my head, to land directly in my heart. It's a touch that makes me know, just for a microsecond, that we are both here now, and that we’re here together.”
For Charlie, a Top friend of mine with one of the most spank-able butts in the world, and his partner, Susan, spanking is all about their connection and the kinky sex it leads to.
“After we prepare the toys we are going to use,” Susan reports, “we make ourselves comfortable on the leather couch. Charlie lies across my naked lap. His hips start to sway as I warm him up with swift taps. The feel of his cock swelling really turns me on. I slow the tempo and put more energy into each spank. Soon I can tell by his reddened cheeks that he’s ready for the butt plug. Like many men he does enjoy his prostate tickled by a not-so-little penetration! Before I have him lift up onto his knees to accept it, I give him five good hard blows with my favorite leather paddle.”
Susan slides the lubed “invader” into place, and then, “it’s Charlie’s turn to sit on the couch. We kiss passionately. Butts are not the only parts that like to be spanked! I run my fingers down his hairy and muscular chest, tugging hard on his nipples before caressing his erect cock. I stroke him a little, but my goal is to wrap my hand around his balls like a cock ring…or the top of a punching bag! Oooh, baby, I start striking his balls really gently, watching how he reacts. He gives me his sexiest look and whispers, “more.” I gladly oblige! I encourage him to jack off to a big orgasm as I really punch his balls with glee! What a feeling of power that is.”
What a ride! Percussion play, from skillful spanking to paddling and caning, quiets the chatter of our busy minds as we raise energy together. Trust me, your turn-on will follow!
Have a spanking good time!
In leather pride, with heart,
Cleo Dubois
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When not writing for ALT, Ms. Dubois enjoys mentoring couples in private, guided play at her SF Bay are dungeon. You'll find her couples page at:
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Academy of SM Arts Winter Schedule 2008
- Women in Erotic Power, an evening class
Thursday January 24 at One Taste San Francisco
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Taking charge erotically does not come easily for many women. Step into games of erotic power exchange with ethics and gain the confidence you need to enjoy being in command!
- Erotic Dominance Weekend Intensive for Dominant Men & Men Who Switch
February 9-10, 2008 in San Francisco
Hands on Training! Class limited to 9
Dominate with presence and passion!
Teachers: Cleo Dubois and Eve Minax, with the assistance of Selina Raven
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- Erotic Dominance Weekend Intensive for Dominant Women & Women Who Switch
April 5-6, 2008 in San Francisco
Hands on Training! Class limited to 9!
Gain the confidence you need to make your scenes soar!
Teachers: Cleo Dubois and Eve Minax, with the assistance of Selina Raven
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www.sm-arts.com/intensives/form-women.html
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