thank you for this info - the 'fill in the blank'
sentences are very helpful for communicating.

Hi, I am new to all this and found your article interesting
and informative. Thank you Zoe

Another useful article. At a local club meeting, I was talking
about how even 'vanilla' people are into the BDSM
stuff, even if it's just for a kinky night of fun. So,
why are we looked on as if we're all weirdo's?

Hi and thanks for this article.. There are many here still
learning where they fit in and articles that say it is okay
to be who you are and ask/tell others what you want and everyone
is entitled to their particular kink is very reassuring


Best wishes



K

Good basic information for those that are new. Keeping
it safe, sane and consensual and full or self-knowledge
is key.

this is my invitation

Thanks for the info.

i think it's a very good article. Especially for new
people who have joined Alt and are new to alternative lifestyles.

This was a good article for general information or people
who are intetrested in trying new things.

should be helpful to get started

Madame's context is vast, and Your perspective, as
always, unfailingly wise. Brava!

Interesting, no doubt.

yes yes yes i think same to me. i like be watched and watch too to meet interesting people with the same pleasure

Yes! Very good information, esp. for the newbies. SSC and RACK

Very good information esp. for newbies! SSC and RACK

This is very good basic information that many need to review.
Especially those new to BDSM.

The information you presented was very informative.My
wife and I are just starting out, even after 27 years together.We
are learning more all the time and look forward to actually
partaking in one of you seminars in the near future. Please
keep the information comming.Everyone will learn something
new. Thank You so much

Very good information.

I think the information is very good.

Really good.

I SEE MYSELF AS SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO MARRY A WOMAN BUT HAVE
GUYS TO DO IT WITH TOO AND SHARE WITH MY WIFE....

I can't wait to find some hot horny women on this site

this was so helpful!! I Have indeed been struggling with
this exact problem and even wrote a blog about it today!
Thanks so much!

very informative for us newbies...thank you for the article.

very nice info for the newbies on here..thank you for the
information!

Pretty good, but kinkines has many different levels.

Thankx for the article. i will use this for posting replies.

Whenever one steps into the wilderness, it's always
a scary moment, but usually one that's worth it.

Interesting article.

great ! packed with info especially nice for newbies ...
a real turn on !

This is just a great article, period. I hope to see many more
like it very soon!

i agree wholeheartedly

very good info

i like to read what , everyone says..keep it up, ..

a.wery.hot.post

Good article. Two great pieces of advice were: 1) keep it
simple and 2)I often ask new players, “What do you want to
try? What are you afraid of and yet attracted to? Do you know
your hard limits --what you really do not wish to participate
in, for now?”


Perfect advice for people who are new and may be intimidated
by some of the more hardcore things you can get exposure
to in learning about this lifestyle.

My wife and I have been together for nearly 20 years, and
make no mistake we are having big fun and will until we're
dead. The first half was filled with longing and fumbled
attempts at something undefined and unknown. The last
seven years have been spent researching, talking, buying
some gear, reading aricles, and trying stuff out. Even
through all that we (I)never had an idea about what she was
about. That all came to a head a year ago when we had an arguement
about sex and realized that we have roles that were never
well defined and likes and dislikes that go well beyond
what can be learned by scanning a page full of checked boxes.
Even now that we know a bit more about who we are, I'm
not sure if I'm a top or a dom or if she's a sub or a
bottom. And all of this is with a person I know better than
anyone in the world. After you know what a person really
wants, there's the actual doing part and that can be
hard to learn, and all through trial and error. Add the nuances
of each activity, and this becomes art. Even with the same
person there is so much ground to cover, and idea that this
can take years is not surprising because I'm living
that experience and finding that there is no switch to flip
on or off. Maybe I'm over the top with my assessment
of what we're trying to do, but I don't think so.



It goes back to the same stuff for me. If it were easy, everybody
would be doing it. I'm glad we found a place where there
are others like us.

I thought it was a great article 382

Another useful article

, does anyone know what the guy in the pictures is wearing?
some kind of body suit? any idea as to where i can find that
in particular, or what it is called?

great article

I agree, also need to make sure you find the right person
when starting out.

Quite interesting, really!

Lovely article. Perfect advice for us newbies starting
down the pathway. Thank you Cleo.

Once again a great article!

So how many years experience
should i have before i could drop the safe and the sane?[bling
1836]

awsome artical.

thanks for this info! ;P

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4]To quote Mr. Spock, "Fascinating.":-?

Thank You for the advice. i have been married for 2yrs but
together for four. Now i realize where His confusion is
when i mention things that make me hot and where my miscommunication
are...plan to have a talk again with more clarity. Once
again thank You for You guidance.

Very good.

very nice.

Very nice article.

Very nice article.

Very nice article.

I wish I had read this sooner. It is a great article and very
helpful.

What a great article. I have been in the scene for a while
now, but due to some changes in my life I find myself looking
again for a sub. A lot of the newbies I have found in the life
don't know how to communicate their desires. This
was very helpful to me!

Good article for the new and timid people who want to learn
the lifestyle. Moving slowly like you suggest will make
the new people to the lifestyle feel in control of the situations
until they can truly let go and trust there partners.

thanks for the info

Wow, wow and wow! Inspiring article. Will be very helpful
to me. Thank you so much!

This sight really is about self discovery and learning.
But how many learned they were kinky after joining alt.com?

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Great article, but like another reader noted, "Kinkiness
has different levels." My notion of kinky can be drastically
different from yours, so I don't think that it is really
definable.

Very good information esp. for newbies! SSC and RACK

good article

It seems like everyone else has gotten a lot of sucess...
i hope im able to find someone who can help me explore my side
and i can help her as well!!

Well written.

The kinkier the better! Always up for some new adventure
in the bedroom!

This is some pretty good information for people just getting
started

Your article helps me put things into perspective thanks.

nice article

Nice~Concise~Won’t read it twice~

dare you to make answer all those questions.

nineteen years ago I dropped a hint that i "enjoyed
a little light bondage" to my new partner. Will and
I are still together and the bondage is as heavy or as light
as we wish. we are well bound.

Great info in this article

Very iformative article for beginners

Good read and information, thanks

That's better, nice article.

it is good to give my slave to fill..... thanks!