I am a clean cut, attractive, 5'9", 165lbs, straight, fit, strong, sane, safe, intelligent, confident, respectful guy. I was married for 20 years until 3 years ago. I have always been sexually dominant but have only had the freedom to explore and figure out what I like for the past couple years.
There's a big difference between being a good Dom and being an abusive asshole. It's not about being mean or angry. It's about being firm and gentle at the same time and caring deeply about my sub. I am always respectful of limits and your relationships with family and friends.
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My Ideal Person:
In my opinion, a good sub is intelligent, playful and feisty - not a push over. Seems like a contradiction but it's not. I understand it takes strength to give up control. I tend to be attracted to a strong woman who have her life together.
I have been dominant my entire life and figured out most things on my own. I love restraints, ropes and bondage positions. I am willing to put in the time for trust to develop before jumping right into tying up my partner. The trust part of all this is just as arousing as the physical act for me.
I also love the training part of it… Having my sub hold a position with anticipation of what I might do next is an incredible turn on. I am very good at forcing her to climax with my fingers and toys while making her hold the position, whether in restraints or not. Telling her she’s my good little slut. Pinching and pulling her nipples with one hand as I rub her clit hard with the other. Grabbing her by the hair and fucking her hard with my hand on her throat.
There’s an intense connection that comes with the D/s dynamic I crave. I am not looking for a different sub everyday of the week. I have become much more selective as my goal has changed from learning and experiencing new things to finding one sub for a long term relationship.
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