My Ideal Person:
Though I am not what other consider a switch I will fill this out for both the Dom side of me and then the submissive side though in reality many will never see that side of me..

I am Dom in nature.. I have no issues in making decisions and figuring out what needs to be done in order to make things happen.. I am OCD about so many things that in reality it is simply easier for me to do things. And considering I am a stay home person it just makes sense to do these things MY way, and with that I just do them the way I need to have them done.

I am a sadist, although I will say I am more a sensual sadist then flat out mean and hurtful. though with that being said I also enjoy a vast amount of play that in the end is not for everyone.. Caning, Electric knife *not to draw blood* and marks.. Sometimes lasting marks but none the less marks..

When it comes to female submissives, I enjoy pussy torture as much if not more then CBT. Sorry ladies lol but I also like to make it all better by giving you more than one round of release. I love public play and really it can be on the verge of being *caught*

I enjoy a sexual relationship with female submissive, where as with males it is not happening.

I am strict, and caring.. I am more old fashion, and do not think a D/s relationship is about sex all the time.. Service to me is just that, cleaning, pampering me *brushing my hair, rubbing my feet, back, ruining errands, and so forth.* Play is just that play, and of course sex is sex, though there could be play mixed with sex so there is a bonus there.

I am learning I love sounding, both on men and women. I got sounds for Christmas, along with a Violet wand along with suction cups which leave BEAUTIFUL Marks. So I am looking forward to trying all these out on a female as well as a male.

I am looking for long term but no live in. You must be close and willing to travel. this is both for a male and female submissive. I am out going, and love to attend demo's munches and play parties.. So you MUST be willing to attend to. Does not mean you need to be willing to play the first time, but know there will be a time you will.

Now I know this sounds like I am not wiling to play with a male but this is not the case, I just want to make sure it is clear where I stand with both women and men.

Now as for the submissive side.. Since I am old fashion I do think when a female is in a romantic relationship with a male who is a Alpha male she will be submissive to him in the relationship to a point. Maybe just in the bedroom maybe not. Although since 99 % of all the men now days thinks D/s is about sex and for me sex is just sex, I will not submit to someone based on how well I am in bed. I know how well I am able to please someone but if that is how submission is judged you need to rethink the meaning of D/s. So with that IF I happen to find someone I have respect for as a Alpha male Dom I might consider it. Though in reality I am not looking .. We all know when you look you do not find what it is you need but what it is that causes issues. SOOO

Ok the kind of Dom/Daddy I am seeking.,.. STRICT, into humiliations and embarrassment and punishment..You must enjoy making me do things I normally wouldn't do.. This includes but not limited to making me perform in front of others... Punish me in front of others.. I just accepted that I am into humiliation.. I have always been shy about performing in public but its always excited me at the same time. So after yrs of denying what I need and want I am finally giving into them and hoping to find someone else into the same thing.

Anyone who can relate to the following quotes.

Favorite Quotations
\\\\\*When others asked the truth of me, I was convinced it was not the truth they wanted, but an illusion they could bear to live with.*
November, 1933 from The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Volume One 1931-1934

"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to to the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, His pleasure, His Desires, His life, His work, His sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh God, as a woman i want to be Dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own two feet, not to cling to all that i am capable of doing but i am pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at His time, His Bidding......"

Nature is the only real ruler of man, he says. Nature is sometimes cruel, indeed in the view of Western Civilization, Nature is always cruel.

I would like a female submissive who enjoys being spanked, flogged, and yes even caned if you do not know if you will like it, don't worry I will be slow, and teach you how to enjoy it, I have done it many times, and have yet to cane someone who did not walk away not liking it! If you are married, I would want to know your SO has no issues with you being submissive to someone outside the relationship. And yes it will be some kind of sexual relationship, so he would need to be willing to share you at some point.

When it comes to male submissive's, pay attention... if you wish to be of service to me, I will play with you.. Although you need to understand. I WILL NOT have sex with you PERIOD! I have no issues with becoming play partners, and I might even consider a D/s relationship... Although for me I tend to not have sex with them, this does not mean you will not find release it simply means your cock will not go in any part of my body.

So if you are looking for someone to play with, I can give you references here in Indiana, and will be more than happy to play, but if you are a male submissive, I am not looking for a relationship. For me, this is not about the sex and yes I know it can be sexual but I do not have to have sex after I played, and if you think it will lead to more, you will be highly disappointed.