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** Just before I get into all the introduction stuff, I want to say that ALT seems to post "profile visits" and "hotlist notes" on profiles even when I haven't visited or hotlisted. I do not hotlist anyone, even if you are hot and if I haven't messaged with you I won't have looked at your profile either. It seems even if my mouse hovers over a picture it classes it as a look - even if I wasn't aware of doing that. So please excuse ALT's ridiculous way of breaking the ice between people who 99% of the time are completely incompatible. (I am really NOT looking for a Dom, lol) **
Anyway - back to the real stuff -
I am a dominant lady looking to chat only as at the moment I am unable to take on a sub due to lack of time to make the right level of commitment which I consider essential. This includes not being interested in taking on an "online" sub which is definitely not my thing.
I am not a "porn" Domme. I don't always dress in stockings and corsets, although I like to dress up on occasion. I can easily use a crop wearing jeans and with bare feet as wearing high boots and little else. I like to be comfortable.
I have been active in this lifestyle for some time, so that special person really will need be impressive.
As to what impresses me - I am really not sure and anyway, that would be giving the game away - no fun at all! :)
I am a mature, tall, larger sized, single lady. I have enjoyed real life experiences as well as online and both have their merits but I have found over the last few years that "online" is not for me other than as an initial mechanism to chat to people.
I like someone with a sense of humour as I have a very strong one and believe that is important. Whilst I really enjoy my sadistic side, I also have a soft and caring nature and my sub's well being, physical and mental, will always be of the utmost importance.
I really enjoy the psychological aspect of being a dominant and love to get inside my victim's - oops, I mean, submissive's, mind. LOL
One thing I do not have is any form of foot fetish, so if your thing is worshiping your dominant's feet - I am not for you I am afraid as I can't stand having them touched.
I also do not do watersports, scat, baby play or anything that causes permanent harm. I have to admit that excessive humiliation, especially of the verbal type is also not my thing so again, if that's your big turn on, I'm not the one for you. I also have no interest in TVs, cross dressers or guys who enjoy feminisation. I have no objection to it (or anything else that is legal) if that's your thing - it just isn't mine.
I do enjoy going to the occasional play party or fetish club, and would expect him to be open to accompanying me once we are both ready to venture out. It's not something I do all the time though.
Messages welcome, but be warned I am highly unlikely to respond to someone who just says "Hi". I am not into making all the effort in a conversation at all. Also please have mercy on my eyes and use some punctuation in your messages.
I don't collect "friends" and I definitely [B]don't accept friend requests from people I have never even exchanged a message with [/B]- so if you send one and I have no idea who you are, or if all you have done is said Hello once or twice, I won't be accepting. If you want to friend me make an effort to get to know me first please.
Oh and one last thing to see if you read to the end (90% of those who message me clearly do not or they don't take notice of what is said) - I don't like being called Mistress, Goddess or any other title you may have seen in porn films. I prefer my name (Scarletta is fine) or plain Ma'am from subs I don't own.
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My Ideal Person:
As for my Ideal person - I am not sure I have an "ideal" sub.
First thing I guess - I will not consider anyone married or with a significant other and I strongly prefer non-smokers. Put it this way, I won't be stopping a scene for you to nip out for that cigarette you are craving! If you do smoke, it's highly likely you won't for long!
An absolute is that any sub who stands a chance with me needs to have a sense of humour, but obviously needs to know the time and place for it. (Bound, gagged and being cropped probably isn't it, lol)
I do have a strong sadistic side along with an experimental and curious nature, so he will need to be pretty open minded and willing to try new things. A high pain threshold is not essential but to warn - I am into causing some discomfort, although I would not just wade in with my cane and thrash away. Well not unless you begged.  I am strongly into CBT, impact play, wax, electricity and all round control, to name just a few. If these are on your "Never going there" list, then we are highly unlikely to be compatible.
A word of caution too - please don't lie, if you don't have something I love on your hard list (in which case I doubt we would meet anyway) then I WILL be trying it and finding out you lied about your interest will be very difficult for us both.
I have no objections to someone new to the scene - in fact I would very much enjoy moulding someone to my way. I am not however, just looking for infrequent play sessions. When the time is right I will be looking for someone who I can eventually meet regularly and get to really know. This is important to me and should be important to them.
I don't have a particular age requirement, but have to admit that anyone under around 35 or over 60 are not likely to be high on my list of potential subs. It's not a strict rule, but experience has shown me that I have little in common, outside of kinks with young subs, and we are unlikely to establish a long term relationship. Likewise, I often find I have little in common with older guys.
Intelligence is a must (and I don't mean book smart). I need to get to know my boy and this is very difficult with someone not capable of communicating at a reasonable level. This is also true when I first talk to someone online - it is hard to get to know someone if they cannot put together a coherent message with something to build on.
Well that's enough of a shopping list. As you can see I am fairly discerning, but please drop me a line if you feel the urge. 
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