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Hello! :)
Due to recent craziness in the world, I am not looking for partners who live in the US, no matter how "close by" you feel you are to me. I do not cross the border and would need to quarantine from work if I hosted someone foreign. I also prefer people only local to me as I am not interested in an online relationship.
I don't have the opportunity to meet many people in the lifestyle in person, and I'm hoping this site will be a way to connect with people who think the same way I do.
I prefer the company of older men, and cherish good conversation. [I]Ideally[/I] I am looking for an older Dominant man (preferably over 40), someone who is mature and intelligent, and who is more turned on by an intimate connection with a woman than by her fet wear. I also prefer to get to know men who are local, so that we will have the opportunity to meet and spend time in person if the situation is right.
I am not looking for a training relationship, I hope to find a romantic relationship in the sense that my Dominant would be the person I would be spending my life with. Being submissive is an intricate part of how I love someone, and I am looking for a Dominant I can love as a man as well as respect him as my Master.
I am not heavily interested in excessive rules and strict rituals, I prefer a somewhat gentler, informal dynamic that is more focussed in conversation and building a relationship. I am not the type of submissive who wants to be primarily a playtoy/servant, I am the type who needs a Dominant who delights in talking with me and sharing thoughts and friendship as any couple does. This is not to say I have a problem with rules or rituals or that I am never formal, I just believe that these things should not be the sole purpose of the relationship, and that they should be heartfelt and not mere formalities.
I am masochistic to the point that it is a need of mine, and so I would seek a Dominant who is sadistic and who enjoys to give pain rather than is willing to simply accommodate it in play. I do not need constant or extreme pain play, but I do very much enjoy impact play with floggers, crops, etc, and I also very much enjoy nipple play, anal play and bondage.
I am not solely a bedroom sub, and would like a situation where I could live with my Dominant and serve him every day. I take great delight in being able to serve domestically as well as sexually. I am a girl who needs a Dominant who wants to teach and mentor and help her learn and grow as a person.
While I am primarily a sub, I have had some little experience topping friends in the past (both males and females). I am adventurous and I love sex and playing, so I am also open to getting to know other subs for friendship.
I also welcome contact with other females, as I like to play with both genders. Perhaps you are bi-curious and have wanted to explore this, I would love to explore with you. If you have have been wanting to experience threesomes/group sex, this is something we could also explore together if we connect.
I will clarify my profile a bit, as I find the options I have to choose from in describing myself there to be often unsatisfactory. I have no idea what the differences are between such descriptives as 'Ample', 'Average', and 'Large' when it comes to describing my body. I am overweight (about a size 14-16) and will make no secret of it. I am not huge, but I am not small either, I do not have a model's body and never will. I list myself as bisexual, but that is in terms of playing only; I can happily have sex with a woman but I could never love one romantically, which to me is the real definition of being bisexual. For that reason I lean toward males; I can connect with females, but I can't seeing myself ever adoring one the way I do males.
I have often been described as being polite, extremely honest, sincere, intelligent, very open, giving, genuine, sensual, sexual and passionate. I don't play games and have no patience for BS. I will not bow to you because you are believe you are Dominant. I will not submit to someone on the spot just because they contact me. I will not say things just because you want to hear them. I will always be polite and considerate. And if I am comfortable with you and feel we connect, I will always want to please you.
I have been knowledgeable of the lifestyle since I was about 20, though most of my experience has been online up until the 2009. I don't consider myself to be very experienced, as I've found it difficult to find someone in my area to connect with. I came to Alt because I grew unsatisfied with online-only, long-distance relationships and wanted the opportunity to find people locally that I can meet in person. I tend to meet very vanilla men who think they are kinky because they know more than 2 positions and are willing to give a woman oral. But I am who I am, and my tastes are what they are, and once in a while I just feel that intense hunger to find someone who has a kinky mind and connect with them.
I have not had a lot of luck in finding single Dominant men closeby, but I have been lucky enough to meet some very wonderful people and couples locally and have had the opportunity to play a bit and gain some much welcome experience. The friends I have made so far have definitely been the best part of my experiences through Alt since I joined.
I am not here simply to look for play partners, as my ideal is to find a relationship, but when it comes to playing I am open to many types of situations. However, for me playtime is much more satisfying if I am with someone I am comfortable with and with whom I feel some sort of connection or bond.
I do keep a blog here, you are welcome to read it and learn more about me.
Thank you for reading and I hope you have a wonderful day and that you find whatever and whoever you are looking for! :)
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My Ideal Person:
(well, in a perfect world, but when does that ever happen?)
..An older male, mature and experienced in life, I could care less if you are formally educated but I am definitely attracted to intelligence. A sense of humour is a must, the ability to carry on long meaningful conversations. The need to get into a woman's mind first, and to get to know her intimately in all senses of the word. Someone who enjoys teaching and/or mentoring, and who wants to help me grow as a person. Someone who takes satisfaction from the things I say and do, and the steps I take in life. Someone who is not attached and who is near enough for us to meet in person. Someone who loves music and literature and nature and dislikes the tv. Someone who will never stifle my mind and who will not just tolerate the person I am, but who whole-heartedly wants me to open myself to him and give him everything.
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A female who is exploring her sexuality and wants to get to know what it is like to be with a female. She could also be well experienced in terms of her bisexual side and wanting to show me a thing or three. It would be nice to find someone to play with one-on-one, but it would also be lovely to find a woman who would be open to getting together with myself and a male friend of mine to have some fun. My friends and I are very easygoing, not hung up on looks and instead choose to be around other easy-going, open-minded, fun and honest individuals, who just want to have a safe and good time.
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