i am newly single and ready to find my Prince ... Sir Charming, as well as new friends on or offline. i am a 35 BBW. i am a non smoker, non drinker, no kids and in the process of starting a new business.
i am purely submissive - with no desires to be nor do i have the makings of a slave.
i am a talker - and i need someone who can handle that. Communication is key to me - and i can not and will not even try for a relationship that does not have 2-way communication.
For me D/s is not a choice nor a game. It is who i am. i am still discovering all that i am and finding out more and more about myself. It is a constant learning process with everyday bringing a new lesson about myself. And one thing i have learned is that to me this lifestyle is a 2-way street. i can only give what i get. i do not buy into the concept that being submissive means having no say, no brain, no opinion or no rights. To me that is slave and wonderful for some but NOT for me. i do not want to be broken and will not allow it. i am not a doormat! If that is what One expects then i am definitely not the one for them.
i do not expect perfection but i do expect the same courtesy given to me. Because i am far from perfect.
i am loud, opinionated, not afraid to speak my mind, emotional, extremely prissy, neurotic, insecure, and a chatterbox. Some of those things i am trying to improve and some of those things i am proud of. LOL scary huh? As some of my friends and i like to say i am just FINE -
F'd up
Insecure
Neurotic and
Emotional.
And boy does that describe me. So if Y/you're looking for someone perfect it's best just to move on.
i am very much involved in the local munch group and have every intention of staying involved. i also am very close friends with my former Master and His wife - and that will not change. i am also growing closer and closer with my family and that will not change.
i am an avid reader, mystery, crime, true crime, romance, supernatural, and design are the ones i read the most, but will read almost anything - including the phone book if nothing else is handy. (Been there done that.) i also write. Short stories, full stories, poetry. i write romance, suspense and erotica. i love all kinds of movies and have an extensive collection, though not as big as i would like as i have slacked off in the last few years. Though i am hoping to find time to get back to my beloved films. i love doing crafty things, organization, and decorating. i am a garage sale fanatic. And extremely anal about it. (About a lot of things ctually.) i very much enjoy cooking. i would like to learn more and more. i would like to learn about gourmet cooking and such. i also enjoy eating out occasionally. i also am a reality TV junkie. Addicted and very emotionally involved. i get quite animated and am told i am more fun to watch than the shows when i am watching them.  i am an animal lover as well. i feed the birds in Gibson Park. i go up to strange dogs and pet them - much to the astonishment of whomever is with me at the time. i am allergic to cats - but that does not stop me. Sometimes. But i do pay. So i am trying to learn to curb that inclination. i love the water. If i were rich i'd have a pool and probably look like a prune 90% of the time. i am by no means a great swimmer, but i can doggy paddle with the best of them and have just as much fun doing it as anyone else.
As for D/s likes! A lot! And still learning. Willing to try a lot of different things. i think of myself as extremely kinky and assume others would too if they knew the real thoughts in my head. But as in all things - very scary to share those especially right out of the gate. So for now let's say that ... i am open. i think of myself as fairly open minded as to others interests as well. And i try very hard to live by: your kink may not be my kink - but we're all kinky and that gives us a good base for friendship.
i am a good listener and a loyal friend. i am very protective of the people i love and i am a very vengeful person if i am hurt, and a dangerously vengeful person if someone hurts one of the people i love. i have a fairly good sense of humor i think. i love to flirt and tease and push. i can be a brat - but i never try to be a cruel brat. More of a fun sassy one. Do i step over the line with that? Honestly, yes sometimes i do. But it is never meant to be malicious nor cruel. And i hope that my sarcasm is taken as fun and when it is not - i hope the person who took it badly will tell me so i can correct my behavior - to the best of my ability anyway.
i am bad judge of character. In some ways i can read people like there is no tomorrow - but that is only after i have studied them and had time to get to know them better. But for first meetings and chats - i have no judgment that i trust. Therefore i rely on the people whom i trust the most in my life. And that is my former Master, His wife, and 2-4 other F/friends who i know are very good judges of character. So if there is to ever be a first meeting it is important to be up front and let You know - i would never be alone! At the very least 2 people would be with me. It's for my safety as well as just a smart move for all concerned.
i know a lot of people like to have pictures on here. i am not one of them. If, after we talk, i feel comfortable and i have shared some of what W/we talked about with the afore mentioned people and they feel it is safe - then i will share a picture. Unfortunately, as i said, i am a poor judge of character and therefore must do this to protect myself.
i am not a challenge! If You think You can change me, fix me, break me, turn me into this perfect slave doll - well we'll both be disappointed and emotionally hurt. If You're looking for a challenge - that is not me. i need and deserve someone who wants a partnership. A D/s partnership - but still a partnership. i believe in equality and a true relationship can not be successful unless both people agree that one is not more important than the other.
i will not apologize for the length of this introduction. i feel that this will save a lot of people (including myself) a lot of time. Because if Y/you're still reading this and i have not scared Y/you away then this was worth being as up front and honest as i can be.
i truly do like to talk, want to make friends and am hoping to find my Prince Charming - who will help me to become the princess charming i so want to be.
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My Ideal Person:
i am looking for a real time, real life relationship. Be it friendship, mentor or more. i want a semi-monogamous relationship. Not sure how to put it better. i am fine with scening with O/others but i am NOT looking for a poly relationship. It is fine for some and i wish it were for me, but unfortunately i have come to realize poly is just not who i am.
2 way street for me includes but is not limited to and in no particular order are:
Communication
Respect
Love
Friendship
Understanding
Honesty
Trustworthy
Teaching
Learning
Willingness
and MUCH more!
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